A while ago a guy I have known for a while told me I was a nice guy n told me I had to stop being nice i had to change all that shit..but I really don't get what he meant exactly,i think I have been just educated enough,but yeah he was right in a way..got to change a "few" things that aren't "right" imho..
Any suggestions,help,any ideas etc..
I don’t really agree with this. Some women may like to be treated badly and that’s usually a daddy issue. Any respectable woman would want to be respected by a man. Of course women love strong man but I don’t think they love men that treat them badly. You’re a sweet guy stay that way
Indeed I agree with the daddy issue thing. A woman that wants to be abused/treated badly, and have all the drama that comes with that.
- Do you even want to be in this kind of relationship?
A woman will remember you, if you are really kind to her, you will stick out from all the other men.
You will always be in her heart. ♥
(I'm not saying that most men isn't kind).
You should not be kind, only to get something from her (for example: pussy?). That will come back to hunt you in the future. I think that is called a "nice guy".
And this will show neediness/bad energy, which a woman are repelled by (kills attraction).
To really be genuinely kind, because you care about that other person, this is attractive.
You can be kind, and at the same time be a strong man. I'm suggesting that if you are kind to people (everyone you meet), you are strong yourself.
You should be kind, but you got to have firm boundaries in your life. You can't let people "walk all over you". That's called people pleasing. That's no good, and people are not going to respect you. Women are not going to respect you. Respect yourself and other people.
I think this is a good quote/statement by,
Dr Jordan B Peterson, that fits in with this topic (he's talking about a man):
Everyone says, "Well, you should be harmless, virtuous, you shouldn't do anyone any harm, you should sheath your competitive instinct. You don't want to be too assertive."
No. Wrong. You should be a monster, an absolute monster, and then you should learn how to control it.
A monster in the sense of that, you are strong physically and mentally. You can protect you and other people in your life, if it comes to that (I don't like violence).
Usually the kindest guy in the world is the man that isn't desperate for anything;
He's content with who he is, or who he's going to become, where he's going, and what he got. Then he's not going to push anyone else down, in order to feel good himself.
If a man complains a lot, push other people down (in order to feel good), gossip, talk behind the back of people ... these are not good signs for a man. He's dangerous... you don't know what he's going to do next. These men are unpredictable. He's not firm in his life energy.
You need to be firm in your life energy, to be a strong man. You can be that and be kind.
