I need help.

Ok heres whats up. I dated this woman for 6 months which I had known and growed up with me my whole life. We even got engaged she asked me,lol. and she once told me she would never get married. It was great we got close more as friends then lovers. so the relationship ended but we was still the best of friends. She was also my first true love and only the second woman I had been with. Which did still love her. But she passed away earlier this month. and it has crushed me. I have never really lost anyone that close to me before. I mean I went and seen ever day before I went to work, I pretty much spend all my spare time with her. We was so close we would about anything and everything stuff that would even tell my own brother. Now I feel as if my world has been crushed and turned upside down.

any advice?

My solution to the problem is very simple,get over her death. I'm not being cold or negative here either. Go out,party,work,meet friends,keep yourself active etc.

yeah man spend it with friends don't let yourself be alone to dwell on it.

i think the opposite. you need some greeving time to reflect. It's only natural for you to feel terrible over your loss. Reflect on the good times, perhaps make it an annual event to put one rose on her grave on her birthday or some other personally important day.

As the old adigy says, time heals all wounds. Give it time.

Please accept my deepest sympathy over your loss.

BKF, your world has been turned upside down. Accept that you have been changed since the crossing over of this very special and close friend. I believe it is completly normal to feel this way because what you "feel" is what is actually happening. Emotion is the language of the soul and is stronger and more pure that what words can explain. We are changed permanently when another close soul leaves us. Don't pressure yourself with unrealistic expectations of getting back to where you were before she passed. Take the time to think about life and love and how precious it is and honour your friends time with you. Talk to her, I believe she and you still are connected, in death sometimes the connection becomes stronger than our earth bound physical connection. There is so much more to this life and beyond that we do not understand but I know that what we may feel as a loss in this life is just a change.

Some very helpful books that have helped myself during similar times are : Conversations with God, books 1 and 2. Author is Neil Donald Walsch.

We Are Eternal, author is Robert Brown.

You can visit her in the astral plane if you want to,but I suggest that you start living your own life.