breakup

yesterday i broke up with my gf of 2 years. i felt ok about it at first..but now im just really depressed....things have been going downhill for a while, she goes to school 2 hours away and i no longer have a car so we dont see eachother more than once every few weeks to a month. things got really bad a little over a month ago tho. there was this guy at her school who she was friends with and he was killed in an accident. since then she's been very distant and uninterested in everything about us. the worst part was that even tho we talked a lot and always told eachother who we were hangin out with, she never told me about this kid until after he died. as hard as it was i was supportive and was htere to listen. it was real hard considering how shady she had been...she told me he was the person she was closest with at school and that she didnt tell me about him cuz id think she was cheating...anyway i have my suspicions but i broke up w/ her less because of that and more because of her disinterest in me and the fact that i know she wants out and doesnt have the guts to say it. anyway...im just venting and lookin for a little support...

hey man,

dunno if I can give ya support in this. It wasn't right not to tell you about that kid. but don't let that fuck with your mind.
concerning her disinterest: a friend got killed, that shit can really drag you down and make you feel indifferent about many things.
I dunno if you're right in thinkin that she just doesn't have the guts to say it. maybe she's just not caring much about the relationship cuz she's mournin. that doesn't mean that she wants to end it. so you ended it just because you ASSUMED that she wanted to break up with you.

you should have talked things through instead. did you have a discussion with her before you did it?
if not, it's just immature, man. sorry to sound rude.

I broke up with my girl about 2 months ago. It was also a 2 year relationship, and my first one.

I was like "widow" for over a month, now I feel like Im single again. You will get through this, trust me, time heals everything. But also, as you will see, time will seem to pass very slowly at first.

Don´t think about other guys with her, that will only fuck with your head. Been there and now I understand that is pure negativity, nothing good coming out of that. Think of something you like and use your free time on that, distract yourself. You will also start to notice soon that there are many interesting girls out there, I am sure you can think of at least a few right now, even if your ex is still in your head. Right now, I have this great kinda crazy girl after me, but I want a bigger penis before my next relationship. Maybe you do too, so, we know at least one thing to focus on.

Chi

thanks guys....yea pharoh i didnt take it as rude..but yes ive talked to her many times about all of this and when i asked her if she'd rather just be friends she pretty much said yes...i mean i was clear on where i stand

My last breakup was shitty as all hell. And Chi is right, thinking about her with other guys will only screw with your head. I took the opposite approach, and have done what I can to have no contact with her whatsoever. I don't know if thats the way you want to deal with it. A lot of people seem to be able to become "friends" after they date. I just find it much easier to see that person as little as possible. I still talk to the girl every now and then, but out of sight, out of mind. And if she's out of your mind, then you can start thinking about other girls and move on.

esteban thats the exact approach ive used in previous break ups. i agree that the best way to get past someone uve been with for so long is to put them outta ur mind completely for a while. after ur over it, seeing her again even with anohter guy prolly wont bother me

live free or die!!

Texan said:

live free or die!!

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What license plat is that on? Its either vermont or new hamshire or something like that I can't remember?

Hey that next girl will come along man. Head up.

You did the right thing to get out. It hurts now but it will fade. Try to see this as an opportunity...

xxxyamzxxx said:

thanks guys....yea pharoh i didnt take it as rude..but yes ive talked to her many times about all of this and when i asked her if she'd rather just be friends she pretty much said yes...i mean i was clear on where i stand

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alright, in that case u did the right thing. u got some good advice here, just go out a lot and there'll be a new chick in your life sooner than you think. keep your head up.

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live free or die!!



What license plat is that on? Its either vermont or new hamshire or something like that I can't remember?


New Hampshire

hey man I totally feel you out on this

what u need to realize is this(and some of this may sound harsh but trust me Im not saying it offensively)

she is just a girl.. thats it
the only time she will be anything more is when ur ring is on her finger...
even then life is not certain

the best way to get over her, u need to look at her as an experience and not a person.... when u remember her as a person in ur life you will get sentimental about it, when u think of her as an event, it will just be another time period of ur life (in this case the past)

the ways I always get over girls is the following

1. Stay as busy as possible. if u are too busy u cant possibly think of her, never stay alone...
2. start dating around again asap, another girl makes the past girl disappear alot faster, I dont know if ur looking for relationships or what, but I can def say that if you hook up with someone memories will fade quick
3. Self improvement, obviously you respect yourself enough that youd like to improve upon what you have, and if u knew u could improve anything about yourself why not do it?
heres a small checklist of shit to easily improve on

Keep nails clipped
Shave everyday or every other day..face and downstairs (if you do it)
Always have on cologne, no matter where u are going
Always brush your teeth before going out and brush ur tongue, do this after flossing and before listerine
Always look ur best when you go out, school mall etc...
always carry mint flavored gum on you
use lotion on ur hands and forearms and upper arms..
workout, regardless of what girls say, if u have a muscle that stands out amongest other guys then u stand out.. for me its my arms that get attention...
Keep a lighter on you
Keep a pen on you
Keep your cell on you
Do Penis Enlargement lol
Always smile, or smirk regardless...

Big ones:
Always have confidence... remember they are just girls, they are more intimidated to go up to you
Be exactly urself, if ur normally joking and stuff then do that, never change for anyone.
When u introduce urself, shake hands delicately and kiss her on the cheek
When introducing urself, dont make up a reason why u were saying hi, tell her why you came over there to talk to her
When you do eventually start talking, dont say things adjusting to her, say them as they are, unless of course they are rude or racist etc..


When self improving, think of things that you like but will also make you stand out... for example Im a guido.. I dress like one, talk and act like one... I go to clubs that wont have any guidos or italians, u know why? cause it makes me more rare, I can easily go to a club that Ive gone before called Joeys but its all italians, so how am I going to stand out?

4. Stay out with friends and get needed attention from women... If there is something your good at such as dancing go out to clubs and dance ur ass off in crowds, you will get noticed and you will get female attention...

5. Get rid of everything you own that reminds you of your ex... pics, songs, etc...

Always remember this there is someone out there for everyone, if she was her or so important then yours and her feelings never would of changed
consider her a practice girl for the next.
Life is just an experience, if you choose to experience alot or a little that is your choice but remember ur time is limited, you have no time to feel sad, angry upset etc.. No reason for regrets because you learn from everything, how much would u appreciate life if things never went wrong or negative.. you wouldnt know the down side to appreciate the upside as much...


hope this helps and sorry for the book if you have any questions or comments def respond to the thread

wow thanks alot guys...the encouraging words are helpin me out alot and the advice really does mean a lot to me

Just think of the benefits, you are single and your penis is growing. Its time to fuck around the block a bit..........

(sorry if that sounded at all insensitive it was meant positively)