what to say

ok well i am new here and need alot of help :) so first off i always had issues with meeting new girls and what to say. but their is this one girl in my class who i think is very cute and i always wanted to talk to her but dont got the balls. i was thinking about talking to her after class and all but dont know what to say. can u guys give me some advice on what to say. like i know introduce myself and stuff but then what? what should i say. info appreciated from the experts ;)
 
well depending on the class..there are different topics. like art class? give her some praise for her work, or maybe even throw out a suggestion, or ask what you can improve on your piece. the third one is pretty good, that means you appreciate her opinion. that would open up some communication, more than likely she'll feel like she can ask you about what you think about the piece, and you can tell her what you think and also start up a convo.

if it's a class setting? sit near her, either next to, infront or behind her. if somethin is confusing, don't be afraid to lean over and ask her what the professor said. again, asking for help, letting them know that they are needed.

if you can make her laugh, do it. even if a slight at your expense...like "woah i'm out of it my brain is dead" or something like that. if you make her smile? defenses start to lower and then you can introduce yourself.

and here's the thing, the cuter the girl, the more likely she's lonely. the really beautiful ones are more than likely seen as they're out of our league, or they must be taken. which believe me, unless she's a stuck up bitch, she's not out of your league. and she's probably wanting to talk to you anyway!

also read her body language. if you see her feet or her arms, fingers pointing at your direction, then that means she's subconsciously pointing you out and into you. she could be talkin to her friends but if she's pointing at you, then she notices you. and if she's pointing at you and her legs aren't crossed or slightly open?...TALK TO HER RIGHT AWAY lol, that means she pretty much finds you sexy and is literally opening her body up to. does she push her hair aside showing her neck? she's showing you a very sensual spot and is trying to attract your attention to it. a good thing.
if she crosses her legs so her calfs are parallel to eachother, then she's showing off her leg muscle, which gives the legs a more youthful appearance...again another sign.

if she looks at you and plays with her pen..she's playing with a phallic object. if she wears sandals or whatever and keeps sliding them on and off...that's another subconscious motion of the act of sex itself. if you see her doing ANYTHING in and out with her hands or feet..especially in rhytHydromax, then she's noticing you in a big way.

that's just a few things, and no i'm not makin this shit up, i have read it in body language books and everything else..and it's proven to me to be very very affective.

ohhh yeah..also if she plays with her lips..licking or tracking them with her fingers, then that's a good goooood thing, because the lips on a woman is developed to be a mirror image of their vagina. a nice full pair of lips upstairs, means that she probably has nice full lips downstairs. same thing with thin lips.

...idk that's all i can think of right now lol..good luck and hope it helps
 
What i used to do to get a chick's number when i was in college was to just walk up to her and say hi. Then tell her that you're looking for a study partner for the class and ask her if she wanted to meet up with you and "maybe" some other people to study together. Ask her for her number and tell her you'll call her to set things up. In most cases, i got their number...
 
well sam thats some good shit thanks for all the input. i sit like 3 rows to the left and one up but i did notice she does not sit straight as she actually sits sideways and is looking toward my direction as the teacher is in the other direction, why i have no idea (maybe what ure saying about how she sits means something). she definitely is very cute with actually a full set of lips (makes me wanna just jump on her and kiss her).

sikdogg that looks like something i can probably try. i might give it a try next week.

what u think about saying this tho.
me: hi im (name) i thought maybe id come and introduce myself
her: do the same

me: grr this is were i actually suck, i would freeze and have no idea what to say.

some lines on what to say would be good or i can do the study partner thing but maybe some other ideas
 
that "don't know what to say" thing, is what you could say. say "i'm sorry i''m usually very nervus introducin myself to a girl as pretty as you..and no that's not a line ..lol..uh god"

say somethin like that. i think you're more prepared than what you think. and it's very interesting now you look back on it huh? she's pointing at you, and what you said maybe even leaning towards you a bit..Hydromax? so push the envelope a lil bit and sit next to her or behind her and pay attention.

god i sound like hitch lol

good luck
 
ArrowHead;292288 said:
well sam thats some good shit thanks for all the input. i sit like 3 rows to the left and one up but i did notice she does not sit straight as she actually sits sideways and is looking toward my direction as the teacher is in the other direction, why i have no idea (maybe what ure saying about how she sits means something). she definitely is very cute with actually a full set of lips (makes me wanna just jump on her and kiss her).

sikdogg that looks like something i can probably try. i might give it a try next week.

what u think about saying this tho.
me: hi im (name) i thought maybe id come and introduce myself
her: do the same

me: grr this is were i actually suck, i would freeze and have no idea what to say.

some lines on what to say would be good or i can do the study partner thing but maybe some other ideas
dude just say something like hey you wanna go do somthing, hangout , get together.... what she gonna say...NO or YES. your a grown man deal wit it. if she says no it wont be the last person or first person to say no. gurantee once she say her name it will be easier cause you got your foot in the door
 
haha thanks again hitch :) Hydromaxm ok ill do something about it cuz its been a couple of weeks and im like kicking myself in the face about being a pussy all these times and not talking to her.

and asking her for her number to soon will that be bad? like i introduse she introduce then i say i wanna get to know u better maybe get ure number and we can chill sometime. then i peace out. how that sound?
 
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yeah, the way i do it is always get to know her a lil bit first, especially if it's a class thing, idk. give it 2 or 3 classes. but that's just me, you can be ballsy and ask for the number right away but idk. i'm sure you'll do fine :)
 
i think by just talking right now im building up some confidence and i wrote the jest of what im gonna say. ill let u know on monday if it works out. again thanks for the help as im sick of being a hidden turtle and im gonna make a move. so far my college experience has sucked especially since its a community college and i live at home. i was reading something and it say "make life your playground" as theirs its ups and down and you need to make every day a happy day as you only live once.
 
If you really want something lasting with this chick, AND you really do get damn nervous; you might want to try talking up another gal first a little bit.
One who you really don't "crave" quite so much, so that if your conversation does take a stall the consequences might not seem so dire...but you can have an experience to learn from.

The proverbial Peter Griffin "practice girl".

And never forget: Gettin' shot down does not constitute the end of the universe as we know it; it's simply part of the territory.
Honesty, confidence, a little self deprecation and patience
have always worked pretty well for me.
Oh yeah, and: volume, volume, volume!

Good luck!
 
P.S.
One last thing I forgot.
Use any opportunity you can to harmlessly flirt with the gals you come in contact with; checkout lines, waitresses, cashiers...even older gals in the office, other customers in stores where-the-Hell-ever. This'll give you some practice time and let you get a better feel for:
.1) just who you are &
2) just what works for you.

And because you don't really have any vested interest in any particular outcome any negative responses you might get (they are inevitable) will have much less emotional impact.
Especially after you get some "mileage" under your belt.

And don't forget that volume shit I toldya 'bout, either !

Again,
Good Luck
 
haha great tips. i got some girl friend i go and eat with for breakfast pretty much every day. maybe ill get her opinion on it. and ill give the flirt to any girl i see a try seems like fun. thanks for the good luck as imma need it. but at least itll be a start for me.
 
ArrowHead;292303 said:
haha great tips. i got some girl friend i go and eat with for breakfast pretty much every day. maybe ill get her opinion on it. and ill give the flirt to any girl i see a try seems like fun. thanks for the good luck as imma need it. but at least itll be a start for me.

It is fun !
That's one of the most important things to remember about life in general: Enjoy what you're doing, whatever that may be. (Very Zen...very Zen.)
Do that, and most gals will wanna have fun right along with ya.
 
MAXAMEYES;292300 said:
If you really want something lasting with this chick, AND you really do get damn nervous; you might want to try talking up another gal first a little bit.
One who you really don't "crave" quite so much, so that if your conversation does take a stall the consequences might not seem so dire...but you can have an experience to learn from.

The proverbial Peter Griffin "practice girl".

And never forget: Gettin' shot down does not constitute the end of the universe as we know it; it's simply part of the territory.
Honesty, confidence, a little self deprecation and patience
have always worked pretty well for me.
Oh yeah, and: volume, volume, volume!

Good luck!

Semen Volume???????????
 
gah am a bit pissed as it didnt work out the way i thought it would. she has a friend in the class who is a guy and he was walking with her after class so that kinda ruined it. any suggestions on what to do or just wait till shes alone?
 
the guy friend was walkin with her? ok..well it's not the end of the world don't beat yourself up. but don't be afraid to mix it up a bit, girls like confidence. so still sit behind her or next to her. still ask her the questions or even be so bold as to introduce yourself, who knows, she might know ur name already. i have been in your spot many times, and many times i kicked myself in the ass, and all those many times i realized how little of a deal it really was. you got to believe you got a lot to offer the girl, and believe that you got much more (in more ways than one ;)) than the guy she's already talking with. talk with her. the worst she can do is shrug you off and walk away. and then what? finish up the class and you'll be apart from her. but if she responds, my friend, it'll be a good semester for you.
 
samzman;292660 said:
girls like confidence.

That is it my friend. Think of girls like sharks that can smell blood in the water, they can spot a guy with confidence yards away, by the way he carries himself, his gait, his selection of clothes, and of course the clincher- his personality. Now if you look like you just jumped out of a mosh pit with a Metallica tshirt and ripped bluejeans that should throw up a red flag. I have had much success with the magical liquid courage. I bet I'd be too afraid to even approach some of the girls I did if I had'nt been buttered. Even if they turn you down, you'll be drunk so you won't care! But somehow I don't think that's a viable option for your circumstance. Dude, throw out some cheezy pick up lines. "Your legs must be tired, cause you've been walking through my mind all day" and out loud pretend you're on a phone "we can call off the search party, and cancel the milk carton images, we have found that angel that is missing from heaven." Cheezy, you bet, but don't knock it till you try it, and they do work.
 
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ArrowHead;292612 said:
gah am a bit pissed as it didnt work out the way i thought it would. she has a friend in the class who is a guy and he was walking with her after class so that kinda ruined it. any suggestions on what to do or just wait till shes alone?
Bro you need to quit this crap about being scared of chicks and then regretting about not doing anything... People have given you good advice and you still haven't done shit. You either man up and go talk to her or move on and continue to be a f'ing chickenshit. Jeez... it's not like you're risking life and limb here... it's really not that bid a deal.
 
Bro you need to quit this crap about being scared of chicks and then regretting about not doing anything... People have given you good advice and you still haven't done shit. You either man up and go talk to her or move on and continue to be a f'ing chickenshit. Jeez... it's not like you're risking life and limb here... it's really not that bid a deal.

damn ok man right away
 
ArrowHead;292729 said:
damn ok man right away

Here's a quote from Mark Twain, y'gotta love the guy:

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

Words to live by.
 
MAXAMEYES;292757 said:
Here's a quote from Mark Twain, y'gotta love the guy:

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

Words to live by.

Great quote, that Mark Twain- he sure had a sharp mind. How true is that though, you'll be middle-aged and alone wishing you had grew a pair and stepped out of the batter's box. That's the great thing about free will- your destiny isn't carved out for you- there's many roads you can take; your milage that you can accrue differs.
 
damn lol nice quote i gues. well all i can say is i am not good with women and this is difficult for me. sry if it pisses you guys off but im really actually tryin.
 
ArrowHead;292777 said:
damn lol nice quote i gues. well all i can say is i am not good with women and this is difficult for me. sry if it pisses you guys off but im really actually tryin.

Dude that's a defeatist attitude. It's the battle cry of the guy who lights candles and beats his meat like it owes him money. Stick with pe a while, I don't think it's all about enlarging your penis, it is a confidence booster as well. You must get off your keister and make changes in your life; approach women, don't worry about being rejected, it's like a rite of passage getting rejected. If you flip a quarter 10 times it might land on heads once, but if you increase it to 1000 times, it might land on heads 900 times. Being rejected is inevitable, it happens to the best of us; but how we let it effect us all makes us different.
 
just to say skidogg the thing u said earlier is something i needed. i can be a little pussy at times and it does piss me off cuz i cant overcome it sometimes, ive read that over like 100x and pretty much almost memorized it. im not sure if its all about being rejected but its more about not knowing what to say. i tend to freeze sometimes and lose my train of thought or something like that not to sure. but i have been more talkative is all i can say
 
I think most guys had a problem talking to chicks in the beginning... but as you do it over time, you become more familiar and don't get as scared. I remember being scared shitless when i first tried talking to chicks back in grade school and junior high, but i did it and got more comfortable over time. I think that the older you are before you start talking to women, the harder it gets. You just have to put yourself out there and risk making a fool of yourself (because you will at first). It's nerve racking but if you don't do it... you'll always be alone.
 
very very true ^^ well i do talk to girls but i dont usually make the move as to be more than just friends. and i defanetly do not want to be alone forever.
 
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