The single lifestyle Vs the commited/married lifestyle - PROS & CONS of each

[8InchMIKE]

I'd like as many of you as possible to tell me your point of view on this matter.

Is it 'better' to be single or not single in this day and age.

What is good and bad about each ????

Tell what you think of this matter...

( sits and waits with popcorn in hand )

Peace,

Mike

 

[stillwantmore]

Both have their pros and cons based on who and where you are in life. Anyone can argue whatever side they like. It's like a 20 sided die, there are so many possible arguments, it's impossible to find one, solid answer. Myself, I had fun being single. I enjoyed dating. I never fancied myself a ''playboy'' or ''player''. I just enjoyed dating and meeting different types of women. It gave me great experience and unlike many people, I actually learned what I DID AND DID NOT want in a relationship. I think this is where many ''unhappy'' people (in relationships) fail. They never figure out what they truly want to make them happy. Too many people also tend to ''settle'' for whatever comes along, for whatever the reason.

 

[DLD]

I am married to the mob

 

[8InchMIKE]

Both have their pros and cons based on who and where you are in life. Anyone can argue whatever side they like. It's like a 20 sided die, there are so many possible arguments, it's impossible to find one, solid answer. Myself, I had fun being single. I enjoyed dating. I never fancied myself a ''playboy'' or ''player''. I just enjoyed dating and meeting different types of women. It gave me great experience and unlike many people, I actually learned what I DID AND DID NOT want in a relationship. I think this is where many ''unhappy'' people (in relationships) fail. They never figure out what they truly want to make them happy. Too many people also tend to ''settle'' for whatever comes along, for whatever the reason.

Dude... you seem to really know what you are talking about here !

True all of the above, been there...done that...it's truth being spoken.

C'mon people just let us know what you think about this.

Pussy bonanza and free of any hassle or look for the right one and seize the opportunity ?????????

<<< lets here it folks :<d

<peace,

Mike

 

[8InchMIKE]

I am married to the mob

Dude, you ARE the mob hahaha

 

[DLD]

Dude, you ARE the mob hahaha

I am the God Father

 

[8InchMIKE]

All you guys that vote on this poll should also say why you feel this or that way about this issue.

Please put in some input so we can all understand each other's point of view.

Peace,

Mike

 

[DLD]

There are advantages to both situations, being with somebody is nice and it feels less lonely but having ultimate privacy is great too.

 

[Curiousmouse]

I'm the kind of guy who likes to have lasting relations. I like to see the same face, to share my days with this person, and even though I'm single now I have been in relations before. Currently my longest lasting relation was for four years. We're still good friends, but a big part of me yearns to get back together. Even moreso, now that I'm starting Penis Enlargement and using the [words=https://officialhydromaxpump.com/?uid=6&oid=2&affid=98 ]Bathmate[/words]. They might be in for a surprise next time. ;P

 

[8InchMIKE]

I'm the kind of guy who likes to have lasting relations. I like to see the same face, to share my days with this person, and even though I'm single now I have been in relations before. Currently my longest lasting relation was for four years. We're still good friends, but a big part of me yearns to get back together. Even moreso, now that I'm starting Penis Enlargement and using the [words=https://officialhydromaxpump.com/?uid=6&oid=2&affid=98 ]Bathmate[/words]. They might be in for a surprise next time. ;P

I like the way you use the word 'THEY' in your last sentence bro. You are still very young at 23 dude, live life, be responsible ( condoms AND veggies ) lol.

I am out of a 10 year relation bros, it hurts like a bitch... it's been about 2 months now. Damn this is hard bro. Just hard.

I am a strong individual, i seem myself as kind of a fire engine really, i thrive on helping others yet...don't get in my way or you might be in for quite a hit, that's me, others first but still keeping strong-minded and prepared at all times. I will overcome this pain.

Do the same dude, let her go ( unless there's real hope on her part too ) there are MILLIONS of broads out there that would jump at the chance of meeting you, believe it bro.

Be strong, resist the urge to try and prove something that isn't there anymore to someone that has continued on with her life.

Live YOUR life, it can be a fun thing to do

Peace,

Mike

 

[DLD]

I'm the kind of guy who likes to have lasting relations. I like to see the same face, to share my days with this person, and even though I'm single now I have been in relations before. Currently my longest lasting relation was for four years. We're still good friends, but a big part of me yearns to get back together. Even moreso, now that I'm starting Penis Enlargement and using the [words=https://officialhydromaxpump.com/?uid=6&oid=2&affid=98 ]Bathmate[/words]. They might be in for a surprise next time. ;P

I am the SAME way!

 

[Crazy Doc]

This is a good question. I don't think there is a fast answer. The best is simply being with the right girl ya? If you are, then married, because the longer = the better it gets.
On being single:
pros: You get to hunt, tomorrow is a mystery, many surprises, no ties or leashes.
cons: STDs, heartache, abstinence (not by choice), less chance to build a relationship at a deeper level.

On being married:
pros: You can be sleeping with your best friend and she could be hot, you can share things on a much deeper level, you can really explore your own sexuality as the trust grows, you can explore the deepest secrets of a woman's sexuality, many surprises, tomorrow can be a mystery.
cons: You usually only get to sleep with one woman.

Keep in mind, I consider myself lucky-I'm sure some guys would add a shitload to that cons list about leashes, and trust, and cheating, (note all those can fit into the single department too-one night stands can turn into stalkers as well lol). I'd never trade in married life. However, I wanted to point something out here: You CAN have the best of both worlds: If you learn your wife is bi-sexual or bi-curious.... That's when it really can get interesting.

Anyway, good question, my only advice is: Figure out what you really want in a mate and then don't settle... if you achieve that, you might find the shallow stuff you DO get is much better than the shallow stuff you thought you wanted before you raised the bar of priorities.

 

[REDZULU2003]

Yes this is a good topic and needs more response to it.

 

[DLD]

I am lonely living alone and I would like to have Jennifer back with me but since she is not I have no interest in anyone else. With that said, single life has a million advantages. Penis Enlargement when you want, watch what you want, sit around nude, go to bed when you want, wake up when you want, save tons on the grocery bill, watch adult entertainment in the open, no bitching and complaining, I MEAN I COULD GO O0N FOR DAYS!

Advantages of having a woman seem low, I mean after I shoot my load I want to be by myself anyway Like I said before I only love em when my dicks hard

 

[Alex78]

I am lonely living alone and I would like to have Jennifer back with me but since she is not I have no interest in anyone else. With that said, single life has a million advantages. Penis Enlargement when you want, watch what you want, sit around nude, go to bed when you want, wake up when you want, save tons on the grocery bill, watch adult entertainment in the open, no bitching and complaining, I MEAN I COULD GO O0N FOR DAYS!

Advantages of having a woman seem low, I mean after I shoot my load I want to be by myself anyway Like I said before I only love em when my dicks hard

You need to get her back!
Swallow your pride and be consistent on showing up where she lives and beg daily for at least a month to let her see that you want her!
You are obviously not a player and you need her,whatever you did you need to repair and only pride and fear of rejection is holding you back.

You are not a boy anymore you set up a site that helps people, why not state that something good is made of your life!

 

[CRIPKING8.5X6.5]

yea singles good pussy wise
but im still tryna find dat girl who i could love
jus my opinion.

 

[Priapus90]

I'm in a relationship and it has its ups and down!! There are good parts and bad parts of every day! But nothin beats at nite when your at home in bed and you can lay there up with some one you really care about! That's what makes life all worth it!! Life is more than pussy and cock!!! You gotta live a lil and love a lot!! She is my life!! I love that girl!! (sorry if that's a bit mushy) LOL!!

 

[DLD]

(sorry if that's a bit mushy) LOL!!

I am the same way!

 

[REDZULU2003]

I'm Celibate now

 

[Turnover]

What the,..

 

[DLD]

I'm Celibate now

YAY, another member of the C-Club! Once you let the sex go life changes for the better! For me it was all about learning to love myself, which I still struggle with, but in my heart if I don't love myself I can't love another. I will have sex again one day but for now I am enjoying getting to know myself better

 

[Turnover]

YAY, another member of the C-Club! Once you let the sex go life changes for the better! For me it was all about learning to love myself, which I still struggle with, but in my heart if I don't love myself I can't love another. I will have sex again one day but for now I am enjoying getting to know myself better

Yup, and don't forget about me!

 

[Alex78]

Pussy always beats the hand

 

[Turnover]

And girls like cock better than dildos but they are dirty whores and how are guys any better?

 

[DLD]

Pussy always beats the hand

Not always, my hand can do some amazing shit!

 

[Alex78]

Mickey dont scare me

 

[Turnover]

Mickey dont scare me

How can you tell me this does not terrify you?
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[8InchMIKE]

Bump this sh__ up brothas,

we need to talk about this bros, too much divorce thing going on...why?

 

[Aimingforthetop]

Do 1 thing do it 100% with everything.

Your single? Go out meet other people. Feel intimidated? Well then do it anyways. Fear is there to be conquered.

Find a girl you want to settle down with? Accept that your single time is over now. And be there all the way.

What should you do right now? Whatever you feel like. Dont follow something as a rule. Sometimes something gives you a reason to change your ways. So follow it through all the way and enjoy life.

 

[StaffMeeting]

I've always been into pussy whenever I could get it, always up for the chase, but after I got a taste of having constant pussy or bj's everyday I liked relationships the best. So long story short, I scrolled through girls to find out what I really wanted in a life partner and found the woman of my dreams. Of course there are some sacrifices, but what in this world of any value has no cost? NOTHING. I happily chose a girl in India who's the sexiest little thing I could have ever dreamed of and who serves me like the master I've always known I am. Western women I've found are just good for sex and arguements and asians are great for living a life with much much less stress because when treated with basic kindness and respect they worship you like the man you were meant to be.

Plus I've been wanting to have children and I am absolutely apposed to single parenting for my offspring. I'm into personal growth and not being a dumbass.

So a harmonious marriage life is good for attaining what you want to be a complete man.
Nuff said

 

[Hillarys Here]

This would be my very first post, so I apologize if I don't do it correctly...I'd also like to say I'm sorry up front cause I kinda feel like I'm somewhere I ought not to be and I'm spying on you guys lol. Yeap , I'm a girl ( IS it alright for me to be here?) You see I wandered on here by accident last night while I was online googling for answers for a minor problem the guy I'm currently dating has and became completely fascinated with reading all the different topics....what I found so amazing to me was all the sincerity in some of you ( yes I saw some jerks too lol ) I hate to admit , I have always had a fairly low opinion of men in general...I have my reasons but I also have a great Dad and 3 pretty good big brothers so I guess I should on some level realize all men are different. I think I've just been in a male bashing funk since my divorce (he cheated) but wondering around on here reading has actually made me rethink a few things. I was surprised by all the men really trying to help their fellow man out lol...I thought only girls talked that way? By the guys who genuinely wanted to please their Lady...just by the general tone of some of the topics....such as this one. I thought I'd pop on and say thanks...I will attempt to look a little deeper at the guys I date from here on out...maybe your not all cheating , lying pricks lol. (meant as humor!) Anyway, Thanks!

 

[hp4nolngrhrdgnr]

This is also my first post but, unlike the previous poster, I am a man . I didn't click on any of the options for this poll as none applied - at the very least there should also be a "none of the above" type option. An example of another option would be married but primarily staying in it for the kids -not just for women!

 

[8inchmike_2]

I have started this topic a long time ago...

I am now back in this place as i made quite a few friends on here.

Dudes and dudettes, get your opinions on this subject coming in. I am proud of myself just for the fact that i got a WOMAN ( 'Hillarys Here' see above ) start to think differently about us men. THAT my brothas...is beautiful. Don't you think?

Peace,

Mike

 

[DLD]

My vocational choice dictates celibacy so I have remained committed to this. I feel that my time is better spent in counseling men, helping through charity and praying to God.

 

[8inchmike_2]

My vocational choice dictates celibacy so I have remained committed to this. I feel that my time is better spent in counseling men, helping through charity and praying to God.

For real Salvini dude ??!! Nahhh your just pullin' my leg, cannot picture you as a celibate !!!!!

But...what about Jen? ( sorry if i shouldn't ask bro )

 

[3ugen3]

Single is fine at some point - the best thing about it would be sex with no strings attached, but when you start feeling the need for affection, things really change for the worst. When it comes to that, nobody can offer that without a relationship.

Take care

 

[DLD]

I am married but estranged for more than 15 years. Today I am totally celibate. This is a religious choice more than anything but I can tell you that there is much virtue in a life of celibacy. Yes, it is lonely, but the graces I receive make it worth it. I really don't think I could take care of all the men here and have a relationship too, that would be very difficult. For me, my time is given to the Lord through my work here and the homeless I take care of. I guess you could say my bride is the Brotherhood.

Jen was a part of my past and a part I am very happy that I got to experience. Sex is an amazing thing, it really is. For me it is better to not partake in this, it is best that I remain committed to my vocations.

 

[zartan]

Well said DLD. I've never been married and believe it or not, have never engaged in the "procreational act" (came extremely close a few times). For many years, I would look at my friends,co-workers, former teammates/classmates and be jealous/envious that they had girlfriends, wives, families, etc. I was thinking was there something wrong with me that I've only been on a few dates and that I'm not married and have kids?

Recently, I was in a relationship with a great woman that I was in love with. I had no real idea all of the factors that go into a relationship, as I'm essentially "lacking in experience". God showed me that at this point in my life, I'm not being called to be in a relationship and don't have what takes right now. I've got important life decisions to make and don't want to hold any woman back from what they are being called for. I'm being called to a continued celibate lifestyle until if and when I do marry.

 

[LNL]

Marriage is great IF (and that's a big If) you're both happy. If you're not both happy it is miserable. If you both do truly love each other and want to be with one another do what it takes to make you spouse happy because even at the time if you don't want to do whatever it is to make them happy in the long run it will be for the best.

 

[Lightning]

Being committed is good because you can fuck raw dog without worrying about stds. You know you have pussy on demand without issue. If you have a hot chick that can change her look up and keep shit interesting it's almost like new pussy everyday. I love buying new slutty shit for my lady and fucking her.

I use to go out with allot of chick's and deal with everyone's issues and I felt more like a counselor half the time and the pussy was not that great but the issues were greater. I always seemed to end up with the lazy fucks with issues. I even dated a adult entertainment actress that was notoriously known for giving good head but I never came when she sacked the shit out of my cock because I never felt comfortable with her and her issues.

If you can find a chick that is hot in your eyes and you can share all your secrets with, then I think you have a winner. There is nothing like a woman putting all her trust in you and you being a man and doing what a real man does for a woman. It is what commitment is all about. Most women say that the best sex they have is with someone that they trust and love and are comfortable with and I feel the same way.

 

[DLD]

Both can be prisons or paradise.

 

[youknowme123321]

I do very well by myself. As with mostly everything it is individual to every person. i enjoy sleeping alone which is a reason why i stay single among many reasons. another being just haven't found a girl i could imagine spending the rest of my life with or be exclusive with.

 

[DLD]

I do very well by myself. As with mostly everything it is individual to every person. i enjoy sleeping alone which is a reason why i stay single among many reasons. another being just haven't found a girl i could imagine spending the rest of my life with or be exclusive with.

If a woman came into my like that believed as I believe and had the same priorities I would give up the single life but I don't think God has that in my cards yet. I love living alone but there is times when depression sets in where I wish I had a mate but I get through this.

 

[kitfisto]

I am only 21 year old but can certainly agree that both have their pro's and cons, it all depends on where you are at with your life and your circumstance. I'll give you a brief layout of my experience just to add more to this thread.

I was a socially awkward boy in highschool and the couple of years afterwards. I still had my V-card and only kissed a couple of girls. Being single sucked and I was pretty lonely. Then along came my GF which was A LOT better than single. I had a lovely companion and regular sex. My needs were being met and life was good.

Fast track a couple of years to now. It's getting hard to keep things fresh with my GF. She has constant problems too which is hard for me to deal with. It really is holding me back, but thinking of it makes me feel guilty. I just want more! I have been craving the single life more and more recently. On another note my confidence has increased dramatically through hard work and dedication. I am pretty popular in my work place which is a vast improvement to a few years earlier at school. I am twice the man I once was.

Very recently, my work just had a Christmas party. All the stores in the state, we're talking a few hundred strangers packed into one massive nightclub. Girls were trying to get with me left right and center. It was fucking awesome. It was good to have some validation that my confidence and maturing had made such a difference. I wanted to hook up with them so bad. I wanted to do what I had always wanted to do. My inner caveman ached to burst free, but of course I kept telling myself, NO. Eventually it happened though. A gorgeous red head. I knew what she wanted but just decided to dance with her, trying to avoid her eyes staring up at mine. Eventually she had enough, grabbed my head and laid a smooch right on my mouth. She looked at me with a look of "Thats what I wanted and I fucking got it". She turned to move away but the inner caveman had broken free. I grabbed her and locked lips with her. We sucked face like mutant tongue monsters for a little while before I moved on. It was better and more passionate than with my GF. I went looking for her again later but couldn't find her. I just wanted more of that experience. I wanted to kiss her again, I wanted to taste her cunt. My primitive masculine side had been repressed for so long but now it was out.

I don't regret it. For the first time I feel ready for the single life. I want it so bad. But alas I am in a relationship with a girl whom although has her problems, I will never find a girl anything like her. I don't know what to do.

Both single and committed lives have their pro's and cons. For everyone I imagine these things will become apparent in different ways. I think it is important to experience all of it, so you can become sensitive to your needs at each stage of your life.

 

[LONGERDICK7+]

Both can be prisons or paradise.

true that

 

[LONGERDICK7+]

loneliness is a terrible thing,but i get trough that shit too,is very hard sometimes.

 

[Zambrodom3]

I am single and have ALWAYS been single. It is true that it gets a bit lonely.

 

[DLD]

I am single and have ALWAYS been single. It is true that it gets a bit lonely.

Tell me about it. I have been single now for 6 years and it has been the loneliest 6 years of my life. I pray that I find someone who can accept me and bring me companionship every day. After all this time alone I wonder what it would be like to have someone around, I can't even remember anymore.

 

[Zambrodom3]

Tell me about it. I have been single now for 6 years and it has been the loneliest 6 years of my life. I pray that I find someone who can accept me and bring me companionship every day. After all this time alone I wonder what it would be like to have someone around, I can't even remember anymore.

This is not normal! How can someone like you be alone- you are amazing! Personally- if I was a female- I'd totally try to hook with you! rofl!

 

[DLD]

This is not normal! How can someone like you be alone- you are amazing! Personally- if I was a female- I'd totally try to hook with you! rofl!

They don't even see me anymore, like I am invisible