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The Godly PE Journeyman
Hey Sizers,
I wanted to share this excerpt from the book "How To Make Love All Night" by Barbara Keesling below.
What are your thoughts?
Men typically treat their penises as though they were separate, disconnected objects with brains of their own. They say things like, “Don’t talk to me…talk to him. He did it.” They give their penises names like “Little Robert,” “Big Jim,” “Captain Fantastic,” or “Mr. Doozy.” I have to admit, this really makes me laugh because women are so different. How many women do you know who have pet names for their vaginas? How many times do you hear women affectionately refer to their genitals using names like “Miss Lucy” or “The Cannibal”? You don’t hear women saying things like, “I guess little Beth down there doesn’t want to come out to play today.” There are lots of possible reasons why men treat their penises in this disconnected fashion. No doubt, there are some men who split themselves off from their penises because they don’t want to take responsibility for their own sexuality or the consequences of their own sexual behavior. It’s a great way to justify being careless or insensitive. I think even more men distance themselves from their genitals because they have problems dealing with the frustration of being unable to control their bodies. This makes any perceived sexual failures or perceived shortcomings easier to tolerate. Because the penis is physically externalized—hanging out there, so to speak—it is more open to scrutiny. If a woman fails to get aroused, only she knows for sure. She may not be happy about it, but you won’t read about it in the tabloids. Not so for a man. If a penis isn’t doing what it’s supposed to do, everyone in the room knows it. If a man is having difficulties, the evidence is out there in the open for all to see. Even those satellites in outer space that photograph license plates are going to recognize a penis that isn’t doing its job. That’s a lot of pressure—too much pressure for the average man.
Your New Best Friend
It may be easier to think your penis has its own personality, but a disconnected attitude like this ultimately will not serve you well. It may spare you some anxiety and discomfort, but it also robs you of much of your pleasure. Your penis is not a separate entity subletting space in your underwear. It is not that noisy tenant downstairs who keeps you awake all night long. Don’t treat it that way. Your penis is an important part of you; it’s sometimes the most honest part of you. When you’re scared, your penis shows it. When you’re excited, your penis shows it. When you’re depressed, your penis knows it, and it behaves accordingly. You can fool some of the people some of the time, but you can’t fool your own penis. The two of you are totally connected, and you will be for the rest of your life. Now that’s no stranger, is it? I tell men: Embrace your penis! Put out the welcome mat. Open a dialogue. Let it know it’s a part of you and let it know you care. It’s time to bring your penis in from the cold. The sooner you do, the sooner your sexuality will start to change. Now here’s the best news. If you like your penis, your partner is going to like your penis. If you’re proud of your penis, your partner is going to be proud of your penis. If you embrace your penis, your partner is going to embrace your penis. Sound good? I thought it would.
I wanted to share this excerpt from the book "How To Make Love All Night" by Barbara Keesling below.
What are your thoughts?
Men typically treat their penises as though they were separate, disconnected objects with brains of their own. They say things like, “Don’t talk to me…talk to him. He did it.” They give their penises names like “Little Robert,” “Big Jim,” “Captain Fantastic,” or “Mr. Doozy.” I have to admit, this really makes me laugh because women are so different. How many women do you know who have pet names for their vaginas? How many times do you hear women affectionately refer to their genitals using names like “Miss Lucy” or “The Cannibal”? You don’t hear women saying things like, “I guess little Beth down there doesn’t want to come out to play today.” There are lots of possible reasons why men treat their penises in this disconnected fashion. No doubt, there are some men who split themselves off from their penises because they don’t want to take responsibility for their own sexuality or the consequences of their own sexual behavior. It’s a great way to justify being careless or insensitive. I think even more men distance themselves from their genitals because they have problems dealing with the frustration of being unable to control their bodies. This makes any perceived sexual failures or perceived shortcomings easier to tolerate. Because the penis is physically externalized—hanging out there, so to speak—it is more open to scrutiny. If a woman fails to get aroused, only she knows for sure. She may not be happy about it, but you won’t read about it in the tabloids. Not so for a man. If a penis isn’t doing what it’s supposed to do, everyone in the room knows it. If a man is having difficulties, the evidence is out there in the open for all to see. Even those satellites in outer space that photograph license plates are going to recognize a penis that isn’t doing its job. That’s a lot of pressure—too much pressure for the average man.
Your New Best Friend
It may be easier to think your penis has its own personality, but a disconnected attitude like this ultimately will not serve you well. It may spare you some anxiety and discomfort, but it also robs you of much of your pleasure. Your penis is not a separate entity subletting space in your underwear. It is not that noisy tenant downstairs who keeps you awake all night long. Don’t treat it that way. Your penis is an important part of you; it’s sometimes the most honest part of you. When you’re scared, your penis shows it. When you’re excited, your penis shows it. When you’re depressed, your penis knows it, and it behaves accordingly. You can fool some of the people some of the time, but you can’t fool your own penis. The two of you are totally connected, and you will be for the rest of your life. Now that’s no stranger, is it? I tell men: Embrace your penis! Put out the welcome mat. Open a dialogue. Let it know it’s a part of you and let it know you care. It’s time to bring your penis in from the cold. The sooner you do, the sooner your sexuality will start to change. Now here’s the best news. If you like your penis, your partner is going to like your penis. If you’re proud of your penis, your partner is going to be proud of your penis. If you embrace your penis, your partner is going to embrace your penis. Sound good? I thought it would.
