My PE Journey

[DLD]

What the actual fuck!!

I haven’t really used the Mityvac as I got a better pump with the Bathmate but I didn’t do the MV justice. I used it dry. Today I thought why not use it wet….

Long story short, I will keep using it as it only has benefits in comparison to the BM:
- no edema
- no red spots
- better pressure control
- same pump

I am really impressed!

I'm glad it's working out for you. We put so much work and investment in this product that it should be better than anything on the market

 

[Hiaslayer]

Today was a pretty productive day.
Woke up at 4:45, did some pumping up to -8inHg for about 15min with SSJs and Ulis in between sets. At work during a break I did 5min of DBS and BTC-BS and did this again about 3h later.
At home I did some lengthmastering for about 30min. DBS and BTC-BS. The DBS definitely feel more comfortable and I get some really good traction. Afterwards I used the BM. It takes me a while to get hard and without the pump it would be almost impossible after such an intense length session. I did about 15min at maximum pressure.
Despite me really liking the Mityvac I feel that the intensity of the BM at max pressure is more intense than the MV. Should I go up to -10? The MV hardcore stretches don’t feel intense at all but with the BM it feels as if I’m ripping inner penis out of my pelvis.

What do you guys recommend?

Edit: I pumped up to -10inHg and that’s more like it but still not the same as the equivalent feeling when I pump with the BM at max pressure. Hink is even recommending to go up to -12inHg

 

[oldandlively]

Despite me really liking the Mityvac I feel that the intensity of the BM at max pressure is more intense than the MV. Should I go up to -10? The MV hardcore stretches don’t feel intense at all but with the BM it feels as if I’m ripping inner penis out of my pelvis.

What do you guys recommend?

BM and MV max pressure is slightly different. BM max pressure maxed out -12inHg, maybe -15inHg using a hand pump. But only using the gaiter, it maxes out around -8inHg.

MV goes as high as the cylinder can handle, which is around -40inHg. Higher than that, not sure what will give up first: the connectors or the pump. Cylinder will start cracking around -80inHg.

If you can go up to -10inHg, stay there only for 30 seconds, and drop down to -7inHg. And then swing back up for 30 seconds, and swing back down. Don't stay static. If you see edema, don't go up to -10inHg. Only to -8.5 or -9inHg until your fascias (skin layers) can handle the progressive pressures.

Edit: I pumped up to -10inHg and that’s more like it but still not the same as the equivalent feeling when I pump with the BM at max pressure. Hink is even recommending to go up to -12inHg

Are you using a hand bulb pump? Or just the normal gaiter pump where the cylinder gets compressed downwards as you get the water out? Again, the hand bulb pump can go as high as -15inHg. My modded hand bulb pump can go as high as -21inHg before the seals start to break.

Hink recommends to go up to -12inHg in his videos, but he also mentioned in the later videos to remain below -10inHg. Yes, we do recommend to go past -10inHg ONLY for a short period of time, just to influence the volume of pressurized blood to force the breakdown of the corpus spongiosa. But DO NOT remain static at the higher pressures for too long. You will develop bad blisters, or worst, toughen the tissues too much that it requires even higher pressure to break down the tissues. Tougher tissues means harder chance for easier gains.

 

[DLD]

Mityvac

 

[Hiaslayer]

ERRECTION QUALITY

I’m starting to struggle with this. I’m on cialis and still it’s difficult for me to get errect. I read those stories of people saying “if the wind blows through my shorts I get errect”. I can’t identify with this. Even if I watch a adult entertainment I don’t get arroused anymore. I am 38 and I would say healthy. I had my testosterone checked and it’s very high. I got a full bloods done a few weeks ago and that came back fine too.

The other day I wanted to have sex with a chick and despite her being on her period she wanted to blow me. Nothing, I couldn’t get hard. When we were just cuddling and I was pushing my whole body against hers things started to happen but as soon as she moved away, wanted to do other things or me standing up, swooooosh it was gone.

Ok, it was my first time with her so also some anxiety but even during PE (girth - after length) it’s super hard to get an erection. People in here say “just go in errect” as if they use a magic wand. It’s just very difficult for me.

When I only used the bathmate this wasn’t the case. Only since I started air pumping and extreme stretching (I really figured out the wrapping and can properly pull with the lengthmaster) did I experience these issues.

They say pumping improves EQ but all it does is worsen it. I know this somehow contradicts what I’ve written in previous posts and I can’t explain it myself.

I have not injured myself. I still get morning wood and when I deeply relax and think about specific things I can get hard but it’s impossible to stay hard. I lose my erection in the pump within 10-20seconds

Of course I Kegel but that doesn’t seem to help. I get a feeling during the day as if nothing is hanging down there. I’m at a loss

 

[oldandlively]

ERRECTION QUALITY

I’m starting to struggle with this. I’m on cialis and still it’s difficult for me to get errect. I read those stories of people saying “if the wind blows through my shorts I get errect”. I can’t identify with this. Even if I watch a adult entertainment I don’t get arroused anymore. I am 38 and I would say healthy. I had my testosterone checked and it’s very high. I got a full bloods done a few weeks ago and that came back fine too.

Blood work is merely a part of the entire picture. There are so many more layers to peel back we simply emphasized on what's going within our biomechanical functions alone. You just identified two critical points. First, blood work results are fine. Second, watching adult entertainment didn't even trigger you. With high testosterone, especially the free testosterone, watching any steamy adult entertainment would have triggered both the desires and normal male biological responses for ejection. Further more, if you have any build up swimmers in the tank, which I'm suspecting you got a bucket load of, the stimuli would have send them all into a frenzy to soak the digital screen.

So, where does the lack of stimuli lies? Emotionally? Psychologically? Overstressing through PE routines? If you want to share, do tell the brothers so we can all pitch in to find you the solutions, or at least steps forward to the right direction.

The other day I wanted to have sex with a chick and despite her being on her period she wanted to blow me. Nothing, I couldn’t get hard. When we were just cuddling and I was pushing my whole body against hers things started to happen but as soon as she moved away, wanted to do other things or me standing up, swooooosh it was gone.

It's no longer libido. Libido is a small little descriptor for a symptom resulted from a lack of sexual excitement. What you're having now goes quite deep. Cuddling, hopefully it was a little skin-to-skin (naked), triggered a suppressed excitement. But what you have may be further supppress what you desire. The funny thing is, even with a massive desire to screw every women out there and fill them all with the sticky loads, something else psychologically, and possibly emotionally, suppress the sexual beast from coming out. Give it a bit of thinking on this.

It could be a near past event? A further past trauma? When did this downward spiral issue occurred? Think carefully.

Ok, it was my first time with her so also some anxiety but even during PE (girth - after length) it’s super hard to get an erection. People in here say “just go in errect” as if they use a magic wand. It’s just very difficult for me.

You're not the only one, brother. There are many of us having a hard time. It's not longer anxiety. It's not performance issue. What's in your head, and heart, is effecting the total biological function domino, so to speak.

When I only used the bathmate this wasn’t the case. Only since I started air pumping and extreme stretching (I really figured out the wrapping and can properly pull with the lengthmaster) did I experience these issues.

If length routines with high pressure pumping are the culprits, it's time to cut back until your tissues are adopting to the stress loads. If what you said about BM is true, without any issue with erections in the previous period, let us know. We'll work with you on this. We'll figure things out by peeling back the real issues. Chime in, and give us the info.

They say pumping improves EQ but all it does is worsen it. I know this somehow contradicts what I’ve written in previous posts and I can’t explain it myself.

They, as in who? If it's this community, we did say pumping over time promotes EQ. But we also point out that it's not the high pressures that help with the EQ. It's the opposite. Its the low and moderate EQ. Normally EQ is between -3.5 to -5inHg. The moderate starts around -5inHg, and ends just before -8inHg. Anything past this range, you're not doing your EQ a favor, but you are stressing the spongiosa even further to weaken and build girth through extreme expansion.

I have not injured myself. I still get morning wood and when I deeply relax and think about specific things I can get hard but it’s impossible to stay hard. I lose my erection in the pump within 10-20seconds

Of course I Kegel but that doesn’t seem to help. I get a feeling during the day as if nothing is hanging down there. I’m at a loss

Morning wood is going in the positive direction. That means your stressed soft issues have at least 6 hours of break time. Now, go back to the cuddling period, or intimate period. Was it within the 6 hour period after your routines? How long was the morning wood on average?

As for relaxation, there's another trigger word. On top of that, think of something specific. Psychologist would flag this as performance anxiety, which is too big of a spectrum of discussion. It can be nervousness, but it's more of emotional and psychological triggers based on something much greater.

Let's peel of the layers one at a time. Let us know how we can diagnose this, and what measures we can assist you in finding solutions.

 

[Hiaslayer]

I think it’s just the new woman. Not her appearance but the fact that she is a new partner and I’ve built quite some anticipation with her and then couldn’t “deliver” which made me spiral even more.

In contrast: I have been with my situationship on Friday night, who I’ve been seeing for a year now and with her I’m sexually very compatible. We openly share our kinks, try things etc. no shame, no judgment, not being in my head. We know each other sexually very well. I took 20mg tada and we had sex the whole night. In the morning again. No problems getting erect and staying it. In the morning my boner was so hard it hurt. I fell asleep again and woke up again with very hard morning wood.

I had paused length work for two days but pumped intensely with the BM in the morning. The same with the new girl. Lighter BM session though.

I’m not sure whether there is trauma and rather a matter of performance pressure. When I made out in the street with this new chick I got very hard, knowing that nothing could happen as we were in public. As soon as we got to a private place, awkwardness and being in my head took over. Not even the tada could fight that.

 

[DLD]

What was the anxiety you were feeling? We need to dig deep to find out why you feel so traumatized by this.

 

[oldandlively]

I think it’s just the new woman. Not her appearance but the fact that she is a new partner and I’ve built quite some anticipation with her and then couldn’t “deliver” which made me spiral even more.

In contrast: I have been with my situationship on Friday night, who I’ve been seeing for a year now and with her I’m sexually very compatible. We openly share our kinks, try things etc. no shame, no judgment, not being in my head. We know each other sexually very well. I took 20mg tada and we had sex the whole night. In the morning again. No problems getting erect and staying it. In the morning my boner was so hard it hurt. I fell asleep again and woke up again with very hard morning wood.

Sounds like an emotional and psychological burden. It happens to everyone of us.

I had paused length work for two days but pumped intensely with the BM in the morning. The same with the new girl. Lighter BM session though.

I’m not sure whether there is trauma and rather a matter of performance pressure. When I made out in the street with this new chick I got very hard, knowing that nothing could happen as we were in public. As soon as we got to a private place, awkwardness and being in my head took over. Not even the tada could fight that.

Performance pressure, or simply anxiety. So, we can toss this issue into the psychological bucket, and not emotional. Emotionally, you're fine in the public spaces. The discomfort you feel in a private location to ensure all things go smoothly, and as long as you can, that's simply anxiety. There's no amount of medication that can stop your body from spiraling out of control.

Just to experiment, go out into a public area, but away from people. It can be late at night, it can be early in the morning, or it can just be in the middle of the day, but in a location where people are sparse. Enjoy that public sex to see if the anxiety is the main culprit, or maybe something else. Let's attempt an extreme stress test to pit performance pressure vs anxiety of some sort. Have her wear a skirt, mini skirt, dress, or even loose shorts where you can just enter inside her. My wife used to love enjoy quick penetration escapades in public, after I pulled her g-strings out from under her to tease her.

 

[Hiaslayer]

What was the anxiety you were feeling? We need to dig deep to find out why you feel so traumatized by this.

It was strange. The way she was jerking me off actually brought me down. There was no grace or sensuality to it and it was very mechanical. I then got in my head as I was thinking that she must know what she’s doing (from experience) but it’s not working for me. I then told her it’s not working for me like that. She asked me how I like it and I showed her and then she was like “oh god that’s so different” in a sarcastic tone and then it was over anyway. I got softer and softer and lost my sexual state. Talking about women not being able to take criticism lol.
Anyway, it felt all mechanical and performative and I just spiralled down.
I guess the anxiety was that she would be turned off by me not performing which was not true as she is still in touch with me. That she commented on the big size of my D did not help as it put even more pressure on me.

Again with this other girl I’ve been sleeping with for one year I was just turned on by the size of my D laying on her belly and almost reaching from V entrance to her belly button. I was like “fuck yeah, I’m gonna stretch you out” being rock hard.

I don’t feel traumatised by it but I think if what the girl is doing to me is just not working for me In my mind I’m thinking that it should work and I’m the “not normal one” that it doesn’t work for me. I had another encounter in the past where she sat on my D (not being inside her) trapping it and grinding and it just didn’t do anything for me, quite the contrary actually and that brought it down. Then I have this naked woman in front of me being on a platter but I’m not hard thinking it’s her fault I’m not hard but I should be. Rationally knowing what she did brought me down but psychologically thinking it’s on me that I’m not hard….strange, I know.

 

[DLD]

It was strange. The way she was jerking me off actually brought me down. There was no grace or sensuality to it and it was very mechanical. I then got in my head as I was thinking that she must know what she’s doing (from experience) but it’s not working for me. I then told her it’s not working for me like that. She asked me how I like it and I showed her and then she was like “oh god that’s so different” in a sarcastic tone and then it was over anyway. I got softer and softer and lost my sexual state. Talking about women not being able to take criticism lol.
Anyway, it felt all mechanical and performative and I just spiralled down.
I guess the anxiety was that she would be turned off by me not performing which was not true as she is still in touch with me. That she commented on the big size of my D did not help as it put even more pressure on me.

Again with this other girl I’ve been sleeping with for one year I was just turned on by the size of my D laying on her belly and almost reaching from V entrance to her belly button. I was like “fuck yeah, I’m gonna stretch you out” being rock hard.

I don’t feel traumatised by it but I think if what the girl is doing to me is just not working for me In my mind I’m thinking that it should work and I’m the “not normal one” that it doesn’t work for me. I had another encounter in the past where she sat on my D (not being inside her) trapping it and grinding and it just didn’t do anything for me, quite the contrary actually and that brought it down. Then I have this naked woman in front of me being on a platter but I’m not hard thinking it’s her fault I’m not hard but I should be. Rationally knowing what she did brought me down but psychologically thinking it’s on me that I’m not hard….strange, I know.

Women, you can't libe with them or without then. At least your woman was receptive to you showing her what you like. I do that with all the women i've been with, and they love to see it.As a negative

 

[Hiaslayer]

I had to reduce the intensity a little bit over the last week and did only some manual work and almost no pumping. Today I did a proper session today with the BM and after the weekend I start with the LM again. I hit a new record in the BM; 22.6cm

Edit: 19.9cm BPFSL

 

[oldandlively]

Very nice! You are at the "Watch it!" point. Just be careful as your glans is entering the head buffer space. This is where the vacuum head pressure may "kiss" the tip of your glans, causing micro blisters or hickies.