Cheating

[Avglen61]

What are your thoughts about cheating?
Is it good or bad?
How can you trust someone so much that you think they won't cheat?

 

[johnny-wang]

Umm.....
I mean, if it was good it wouldn't be called "cheating"?
You have to be stupid to do that. Humans are predisposed to disappoint. The sooner you realize this the easier it will be for you. I mean yes there are faithful people, but there are habitual cheaters too, who IMO are much more in numbers. Besides loyalty is a rare attribute....

 

[DLD]

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[Getbiglonger7]

Umm.....
I mean, if it was good it wouldn't be called "cheating"?
You have to be stupid to do that. Humans are predisposed to disappoint. The sooner you realize this the easier it will be for you. I mean yes there are faithful people, but there are habitual cheaters too, who IMO are much more in numbers. Besides loyalty is a rare attribute....
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Loving someone is a beautiful gift being loved is way better,knowing when love comes from both sides its the most beautiful gift!

 

[Avglen61]

Then why do people cheat?
I mean... why not break the previous relationship first?

 

[DLD]

Then why do people cheat?
I mean... why not break the previous relationship first?

Because they’re selfish and they look for instant gratification and they lack the confidence necessary to feel good enough about them selves to be secure in a monogamous relationship.

 

[Avglen61]

So how do you deal with situations like this?
Isn't there any contingency plan?

 

[Getbiglonger7]

Because they’re selfish and they look for instant gratification and they lack the confidence necessary to feel good enough about them selves to be secure in a monogamous relationship.

So many people men and women following that pattern LOL lol

 

[REDZULU2003]

What are your thoughts about cheating?
Is it good or bad?
How can you trust someone so much that you think they won't cheat?

I believe in communication in a relationship 100% and if its fragmenting, then its time to communicate those concerns. Going behind a partners back shagging someone else is cowardice, but I understand why some cant control the animal instinct, and go ahead with it anyway.

You have to imagine the feelings of the person being hurt, if they got kids, is it really worth staying with someone your not happy with, and cheating on the side?

Some men wear it as a badge of honor the amount of times they slept around, cheated on women, like its something to be proud about. It tells me you are not trustworthy, have low morals, and low respect for women in general. so what else could that manifest as in your life? and if an acqutence or friend of mine, how would this way your wired up, eventually affect me?

 

[Getbiglonger7]

What about men that enjoy watching their women getting pounded,by someone else n they participate too??

 

[REDZULU2003]

Thats an open relationship, not cheating.

 

[Avglen61]

Exactly.... If you really desire somebody else, why not engage in an open relationship?

 

[Getbiglonger7]

Exactly.... If you really desire somebody else, why not engage in an open relationship?

That's crazy don't you think is that love or just lust and looking for a new sensation a new experience ?? New emotions? Body sensations?lol

 

[DLD]

What about men that enjoy watching their women getting pounded,by someone else n they participate too??

That will go against my conscience big time.

 

[Avglen61]

It is not just that people cheat on each other....
It is also that they find excuses to cheat.
They will say things like "you don't give me enough time/love", "you don't satisfy me", "you rarely have sex with me", etc, which makes the other partner doubt about themselves that they might not be good enough for them.

WHY NOT JUST SAY THE TRUTH?

 

[Avglen61]

What about men that enjoy watching their women getting pounded,by someone else n they participate too??

The moment you allow other people inside your relationship, it becomes an open relationship. So technically, watching your woman having sex with someone else and then joining them is also an open relationship.

 

[Getbiglonger7]

That will go against my conscience big time.

great advice.

It is not just that people cheat on each other....
It is also that they find excuses to cheat.
They will say things like "you don't give me enough time/love", "you don't satisfy me", "you rarely have sex with me", etc, which makes the other partner doubt about themselves that they might not be good enough for them.

WHY NOT JUST SAY THE TRUTH?

Yep way better than lying 24/7

 

[DLD]

great advice.

I would hate for someone to do that to me so I would never do that to someone else. A monogamous relationship is such a beautiful relationship.

 

[Getbiglonger7]

I would hate for someone to do that to me so I would never do that to someone else. A monogamous relationship is such a beautiful relationship.

Best words ever

 

[REDZULU2003]

Its just cowardly, and not dealing with the cracks on the wall.

 

[DLD]

Its just cowardly, and not dealing with the cracks on the wall.

Word to life!!!!!

 

[Getbiglonger7]

Ok swinging can be a good relief for some couples if they can stay together after having sex Whit people that is not part of their lives, what could happen is that one of them going to fall in love Whit the "strange" member ...

 

[Avglen61]

Swinging is a different thing.......
Many "COUPLES" choose the swinging lifestyle because it is there decision.....

Yes, being in swing lifestyle is cheating if you are hiding this from your partner but it is not when you both are engaging in it
It is not cheating when you have the consent.

 

[DLD]

That’s the lifestyle I could never get into.

 

[Avglen61]

That’s the lifestyle I could never get into.

Why?

 

[DLD]

Why?

Because I believe in monogamy and I believe that we should have a wife and that relationship should be sacred.

 

[Avglen61]

Because I believe in monogamy and I believe that we should have a wife and that relationship should be sacred.

Me too.... DLD
Me too

 

[DLD]

Me too.... DLD
Me too

 

[Avglen61]

I need some advice.....

Recently I had seen Mr. Robot. In that series, there was a scene in which a wife was ready to have an affair with another man. The reason she was ready was because she was unsatisfied. She even opened her legs(literally) and kissed that guy.

The reason I am asking is because she had no remorse on her face......
This thing... this thing makes me uncomfortable.......

I just do not like betrayal. It makes me uneasy.....
How do I cope with it?

 

[Avglen61]

What do I do.....?
I just cannot think out of this.....

 

[Getbiglonger7]

The reality is that get to know the person you want to be involved Whit there's a possibility that she or he could be liars or cheaters n would take the opportunity if the opportunity shows up,sooner or later a breakup could happen too.i have heard about it a few times before lol

 

[DLD]

Anytime we cheat we are cheating ourselves.

 

[Getbiglonger7]

Anytime we cheat we are cheating ourselves.

That's the real reality I wanted to say but it seems like...

 

[ilss2]

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this is agape love. As you know, we had 6 types of love.

this love comes from God and returns to God. Us humans are impossible to fell this love without God.

 

[Avglen61]

There is this video that I want to share......

This is the video from a ted talk. I want you to listen carefully and try to imagine what happens to a person when he/she experiences infidelity

 

[Avglen61]

I heard a story on the internet about infidelity which is 100% true......

There was a millionaire(60 years old) who was divorced for a very long time. He has 3 kids. In the divorce he lost half his wealth and got joint custody of the kids.
One day he got sick and went to a doctor. There he was examined and he found out that he has been infertile for a very long time. Realizing that already has 3 kids, he reached out to the mother. The mother said that she had an affair for 4 years when she was with him and the kids are the result of that affair.
Realizing this he filed a lawsuit. The mother offered him quarter million dollar instead of the name of the father. He accepted the offer and won the lawsuit.

Now this story really gets me.....

1. The woman got pregnant from somebody else and somebody else had to take up the responsibility of the kids.......
2. She didn't tell her husband about the affair until after the divorce......
3. The guy cannot have a kid of his own now. If she would have told him sooner, maybe he would have a kid of his own........
4. The guy still does not know the man whose kids he has been raising......(this is kinda his fault)
5. The mother didn't lost anything. She got half a million dollars from divorce and paid the husband quarter million dollar in the lawsuit. She still made a profit of quarter million dollars.

 

[Avglen61]

There was another story........

A 95 year old guy had a wife 93 years old(both were japanese). Both had been married for a very long time(maybe 60 years). The wife told the husband that she had an affair for quite some time 50 years ago. It was the only affair she ever had.Listening to this, the husband divorced her. YES... THE 95 YEAR OLD HUSBAND DIVORCED HER WIFE OF 60 YEARS.

Now.... I can see the mindset of this guy. I would have done the same thing if I was him.....

1. She hid the fact that she had an affair for 50 years......
2. She told him at the very end of his life. So he kinda wasted his life with the wrong woman......

 

[ilss2]

5. The mother didn't lost anything. She got half a million dollars from divorce and paid the husband quarter million dollar in the lawsuit. She still made a profit of quarter million dollars.

capitalism has won again (cwl) (cwl) (cwl) (cwl) (cwl)

 

[REDZULU2003]

People that cheat either must be unhappy otherwise why would you? or they get some fetish turn on doing it. Either way, if you care, even love the person your with, its something that should not occur. Communicate feelings, perhaps end the relationship and shag as much as you like.

 

[Getbiglonger7]

People's upbringing is another important thing to take into account, easy women are easy to find they'd look for you n have fun with you,they stay for a while if they like what they get,or they might leave too who knows,.

People lie they just want to feel the thrill of it,they have the need to be with someone etc.

You may find cheaters in your life, you're not supposed to stop looking for the person you want

 

[Getbiglonger7]

Media can really have an effect on people s minds too..

Maybe the pussy we chose wants a different feeling,girth, lenght,or Maybe they may use the snatch to get better life opportunities lol

 

[ilss2]

another point.

5. When other people cheating you. You think a lot and then you stop with this action.

yes, the world charges the price.

I was cheating my ex-girlfriend, other people (business partner) did the same thing with me. Now I can assume this can happen (other people [women] can cheating me)

but I will never do it again with another person.

but, have a good price. Jordan Peterson talked about it on the book 12 rules.
when other people cheating if you survive, you become a better person.

 

[Getbiglonger7]

Mmm not really sometimes they crash once n they are willing to crash again and again until they really get hurt that's when they realize how stupid they have been most of the time sometimes is way too late...

 

[Getbiglonger7]

another point.

5. When other people cheating you. You think a lot and then you stop with this action.

yes, the world charges the price.

I was cheating my ex-girlfriend, other people (business partner) did the same thing with me. Now I can assume this can happen (other people [women] can cheating me)

but I will never do it again with another person.

but, have a good price. Jordan Peterson talked about it on the book 12 rules.
when other people cheating if you survive, you become a better person.

Actually I believe we all can survive when a bitch lies or cheat on us, dishonesty is part of the human condition,I met this girl a while ago she spent a year visiting my place she wanted to fuck which I never did n never cared didn't even buy condoms just in case something may happen, something told me that she was worthless until she gave in n left one fine day we just stopped talking each other,God knows how many other fools she fucked Whit besides myself.

 

[ilss2]

Actually I believe we all can survive when a bitch lies or cheat on us, dishonesty is part of the human condition,I met this girl a while ago she spent a year visiting my place she wanted to fuck which I never did n never cared didn't even buy condoms just in case something may happen, something told me that she was worthless until she gave in n left one fine day we just stopped talking each other,God knows how many other fools she fucked Whit besides myself.

it is so fucking hard to not judge people, but I didn't fell your pain.

But I felt similar pain.

this is so fucking hard, you have nightmares in the middle of the night and your brain wake up you

because if he doesn't do it you can really die (emotional rumination)

I can understand your pain, but what you learned?

 

[Avglen61]

it is so fucking hard to not judge people, but I didn't fell your pain.

But I felt similar pain.

this is so fucking hard, you have nightmares in the middle of the night and your brain wake up you

because if he doesn't do it you can really die (emotional rumination)

I can understand your pain, but what you learned?

Man.....
Are you sure you are not me......?
I have experienced this same thing......
You wake up middle of the night thinking the same thing. Your sleep becomes shorter. You are always thinking why she cheated, what can you do, is this your fault, etc......
There is always a pain in the chest that seems to never go away.......

 

[ilss2]

Man.....
Are you sure you are not me......?
I have experienced this same thing......
You wake up middle of the night thinking the same thing. Your sleep becomes shorter. You are always thinking why she cheated, what can you do, is this your fault, etc......

Yah is hard. Jordan Peterson said something in the book.

"every pain is a way of ignorance because if you know the patterns that show up this pain you can protect yourself,

but if you don't know, how could you protect yourself?"

yah I can agree with him.
when my partners took my bunch o money (it was obviously my mistake) I can assume that I

I could survive because of these 2 books.
How to not give a fuck

12 rules

There is always a pain in the chest that seems to never go away.......

I think that in your heart (sounds gay I know) has the cure for every trauma and every pain. Just think the answer will be there.

 

[Getbiglonger7]

it is so fucking hard to not judge people, but I didn't fell your pain.

But I felt similar pain.

this is so fucking hard, you have nightmares in the middle of the night and your brain wake up you

because if he doesn't do it you can really die (emotional rumination)

I

it is so fucking hard to not judge people, but I didn't fell your pain.

But I felt similar pain.

this is so fucking hard, you have nightmares in the middle of the night and your brain wake up you

because if he doesn't do it you can really die (emotional rumination)

I can understand your pain, but what you learned?

Forget about it that bitch was a joke,what's karma for

 

[Getbiglonger7]

I'm not assuming that you are wrong (is part of what you believe) but look this:

As a ex-cheater and a person that was cheater,

I can assume 2 things.

1. if you don't do your part (has sex, talks, give time to the person) other people will do it.

2. The problem is with both. The cheater and the person.

I can assume this because I review my own behavior and I know what's I did for my partners, this not justify their action,

but give a reason.

people always look for reasons.

as I said the main thing is the own beliefs, where came from our beliefs?

movies
soap operas
pornography (size of the dick, time of sex and soon)

what's normal?

for this fucking reason that some billionaires put millions of dollars on OGN's.

More depraved culture more animals we are, more animals we are easier is to control.

Society these days is fucked up so what can we expect, fortunately we know and understand now that they can't see beyond that's not our problem if someone lies,cheats on you is because they're dishonest people since day one, Most people see dishonesty as a normal thing that's why that kind of stuff happens too often.

 

[Getbiglonger7]

So how do I deal with this situation.......?
How do I find an answer?

Don't solve it is not your fault man,if you feel that this person left was because of you well you know it,but I wouldn't waste my thinking what happened,that kind of people live a really unhappy lives,you got new chances and the doors are open.