Well when someone is panicking(the opposite of calm) it displays a lack of confidence. If you are wondering how to attain confidence, I could probably give you the best guide on obtaining it, because I myself had a complete lack of confidence and was my own worst enemy at times.
1. Be honest with yourself, decide what you want for yourself and what your Ideal self is. For example if you want to be an athletic type or an intellectual or whatever the case; make sure you want that for yourself and that is right for you. ONCE YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU WANT TO BE, OR WHERE YOU ARE AND WHERE YOU ARE GOING, NO ONE SHOULD BE ABLE TO CONVINCE YOU OTHERWISE WITH THEIR NEGATIVITY OR JUDGEMENT.
2. Once you have decided who you are and what you want to become, invision yourself as such, and believe that you will become that ideal self.
3. Try to avoid fantasizing about being better than someone else or comparing yourself to anyone in any way, look at yourself as an individual and avoid competition.
4. Be charming to others: Give compliments, smile, show interest in others. It is natural as a human to feel good when making others feel better. Get in the habit of putting a smile on other people's faces because it does wonders for confidence and over-all mood, and others will be attracted to you. Being able to boost other peoples confidence and mood goes a long way. But, when giving those compliments avoid seeming fake. Make sure you mean what your saying and your consciencious of how that other person may react to your compliment. GIVE AND YOU SHALL RECIEVE. GIVE LOVE AND YOU SHALL RECIEVE IT.
5. Think about what your good at or what you enjoy that may be apealing to others, and visualize yourself excelling in that field. Then, try to see how you can get others involved or atleast to take notice. However don't show off that talent in an overbearring or concieted manor, people may harbor negative feelings towards you.
6. Be positive about your failures and the unknown. Learn from your mistakes and become stronger, don't get weakened by your short-commings. Winners lose and learn what to do to win the next time, losers lose and fear the next time they'll lose.
7. When someone gives you a compliment, DO NOT ARGUE WITH THEM. Simply say thank you and give a smile to show your appreciation.
8. Work on your hygene and appearance...don't worry about looking better than other guys...worry about looking YOUR best. If you try so hard to be the best you will raise your chances of failing. But if you work on sharpening your skills and look, then you will only improve and continue to win. Decide what looks apealing to you and how you want to clean yourself up. Always smell nice, always be dressed appropriately.
9. Health is very important, you don't have to be buff or muscular at all to be healthier. Health is constant, consistently excersize to stay healthy and also improve mood. Eat properly...from experience I know the what you eat can effect your mood, energy levels, and reaction to stress.
10. Learn that other people may even be more insecure than you, but you may not be able to see it because your so caught up in your own insecurities to notice. And most of the time when people put you down it is truely because they themselves are feeling insecure. Truely confident people don't see the point in assaulting others verbally or physically.
11. Learn how to take a joke. If someone says something to you in a joking manor that seems to be a diss but you know it wasn't meant to offend you, just learn to laugh it off. If someone says something that offends you and maybe meant to offend you or was inappropriate, just pull them to the side and talk to them about it in a calm and peaceful manor. If they seem like they aren't listening or matters are just getting worse, just walk away. Try to avoid causing a big scene or a fight because those things lead you down the road to further depression.
12. Peace incubates Confidence. When people lose their cool and start fights or get involved in them it shows a lack of confidence or intelligence. There is always a peaceful way to handle a situation. Violence only creates more violence, violence is the opposite of peace, peace is calm, when a person is not calm they are lacking confidence. If someone is not willing to settle something peacefully, then come to terms with the situation with yourself and move on.
13. Always remember that there is no good in negativity. Be nice to yourself and love yourself by embracing the good and the bad, and do more good and improve upon the bad. If you think negative sometimes you bring upon more negative to yourself with that thought by reacting to certain situations with that negative outlook. If your positive you will have a better outlook and a positive reaction to every day life therefore you will accomplish more.
14. Be the best person you can be, make yourself smarter, read books, stay fit, go to more social gatherings, be nicer, be calmer, be funnier, be more outgoing. IN LIFE YOUR ONLY COMPenis EnlargementTITION IS YOURSELF.
15. Always forgive and do things to have a clear conscience. Love and integrity are very important in confidence.
16. It's all in your mind, sometimes the little things that kill our confidence aren't noticeable to the outside world. Really think about what your getting worried about being exposed, maybe that pimple that seems huge on your face may go away without being noticed. Maybe that fat you have around your body seems pleasant to another. No one really notices a pound or two.
17. Sometimes we can be our own worst critics. Change that and be your emotional support, and once your stable and a good hearted confident individual, then others will take notice to you and want to be around you and look to you for confidence.
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