PE: To tell or not to tell?

[Brawn Johnson]

For those of you with 1) a wife or significant other to notice that your dick is getting huge, and 2) the privacy to perform your PE in secret if you choose...

Is PE something that you keep to yourself? Have you told/will you tell her what you're doing and why? Or do you let her think you've had a random growth spurt or something and it just happened on its own?

I plan on letting my wife know what I've been up to when she notices the results, for a couple of reasons. First, I don't really like it when people think I'm a 'natural' at something. Anything I'm good at, it's because I worked my butt off for it and I want credit for that.

Second, it will be a way for me to 'put my money where my mouth is.' She thinks large breasts are really sexy and would make her feel sexy, but she doesn't have them and right now she thinks it's pointless or somehow doesn't count if you do anything -- surgery or natural intervention -- to augment them. I honestly think that's ass backwards (again, I want people to know if I've worked to earn something), and I've told her as much, but I haven't made her feel differently. By showing her the results of my PE and telling her exactly what I did to earn those results -- and how much better I can feel about the results knowing that I've earned them -- I can actually live by what I've preached. And then perhaps she'll feel it's "okay" to improve herself that way, too. She'd be happier with a body more closely reflecting what she likes, and I guess I wouldn't mind if my wife had bigger boobs.

What do you guys think? How do you approach this?

 

[enrikxl]

Never tell, it will destroy the relationship. She will get jelous you are getting a bigger penis instead of using that amount of hours to be a slave to her, women are inertly selfish creatures.

Then comes the risk of shaming etc.

Only negatives no positives at all.

 

[Brawn Johnson]

Never tell, it will destroy the relationship. She will get jelous you are getting a bigger penis instead of using that amount of hours to be a slave to her, women are inertly selfish creatures.

Then comes the risk of shaming etc.

Only negatives no positives at all.

Daaaaang Enrik you sound like that MGTOW crowd! :D I'll tell you what I've told some of them:

There are definitely costs to associating with women, and like all humans they're imperfect and will probably hurt you if you let them close enough. Fair enough! Having said that, some women are gold diggers/looking for betas they can dominate/etc, and others are legitimately good people and strong partners. If you're confident that what you've described is the only likely outcome, I encourage you to take heart and try to find some higher quality partners!

To quote the venerable Smoky Robinson: "Pretty girls come a dime a dozen. Try to find one who's gonna give your children loving!"

EDIT: I should say, I could see a wife/GF being pissed depending on how much time you've spent on PE, and depending on your situation they may not be wrong. But then, that's where stuff like ADS really shine!

 

[MCBLZ]

I was considering telling my wife a while back and the brothers here convinced me not to ( for various reasons).

My wife has already said once after I had been 6 months in “I FORGOT how fat your dick was!”

And that was only 1/4-1/2” girth growth

Loved hearing that. In her mind I was always that size.

I think even our wives are sort of clueless about exact size, especially since it can be so variable.

If she did ask directly, I would probably just say that I work out my penis just like every other muscle in my body, and not go into too much detail.

My satisfaction comes from having a bigger dick. I don’t need credit for the work.

That’s my take.

 

[REDZULU2003]

I've told female friends in the past, and they were all quite intrigued by it all. Even got one friend with benefits to jelq me (rock)

 

[aDiscipleofGod]

My wife has known from beginning and is totally cool with it, she even pops into the bathroom every once in awhile while I'm in the middle of a routine and grabs my penis and says it's so big it looks fake (shes always thought it was very big to begin with). Multiple times she has been in the bathroom with me and just watches me use my bathmate, she likes to see it, but she gives me my privacy as well. I don't really know how wives or girlfriends wouldn't think something is going on from being in the bathroom for an hour or more and then when you come out your penis super engorged larger than it ever is. EDIT: I've even sat on the couch wearing my bathmate while we watch a movie, play a video game etc.

 

[Bornsinner]

I honestly think they’re certain females that would be perfectly fine with it (open minded females) and then females who are the complete opposite. But to me there are other factors like for example having a family. I could hear a woman saying “you’re so occupied with your dick you can’t even chnage the baby’s diaper” or some shit like that lol which could lead to arguments or whatever basically what I’m trying to say is with some woman it can work & some it can’t I prefer to keep it hidden for now but I do know my girlfriend gets suspicious sometimes and my worst fear is her thinking I’m cheating or something bc that’s a woman’s first instinct is when they’re suspicious and don’t know exactly what you’re doing.

 

[Brawn Johnson]

I was considering telling my wife a while back and the brothers here convinced me not to ( for various reasons).

My wife has already said once after I had been 6 months in “I FORGOT how fat your dick was!”

[...]

I think even our wives are sort of clueless about exact size, especially since it can be so variable.

[...]

My satisfaction comes from having a bigger dick. I don’t need credit for the work.

That’s my take.

Interesting... Yeah I guess the process is gradual enough that they might not even realize a change is happening. Still, I feel like if I hit my 9x7 goal there's no way she won't know something's up! "I... uh... I guess I'm a late bloomer??"

I see what you're saying about the satisfaction. Yeah, I guess I just get annoyed when people think something is a matter of luck (e.g. I was just born with it) when I paid for it with time, energy, sweat, etc. It's odd, I've been thinking about it more since I read your post, and my mind is changing quickly. When I reach my goals I'll still like knowing that I earned them, but there is something about the perception of just naturally being well hung that seems itself more impressive. Which is weird because 1) it's not impressive to be born with a big dick (YOU LUCKY $$*#(@@*!!) and 2) I don't feel that way about e.g. muscles. I wonder what distinction I'm making there...

I've told female friends in the past, and they were all quite intrigued by it all. Even got one friend with benefits to jelq me (rock)

HA! 'Atta boy, Red! :D

My wife has known from beginning and is totally cool with it, she even pops into the bathroom every once in awhile while I'm in the middle of a routine and grabs my penis and says it's so big it looks fake (shes always thought it was very big to begin with). Multiple times she has been in the bathroom with me and just watches me use my bathmate, she likes to see it, but she gives me my privacy as well. I don't really know how wives or girlfriends wouldn't think something is going on from being in the bathroom for an hour or more and then when you come out your penis super engorged larger than it ever is. EDIT: I've even sat on the couch wearing my bathmate while we watch a movie, play a video game etc.

See now that's my dream scenario... If I were more confident that this is how it would go down for me I'd let her know right now what was up!

But to me there are other factors like for example having a family. I could hear a woman saying “you’re so occupied with your dick you can’t even chnage the baby’s diaper” or some shit like that lol

Well, and this is another issue that I touched on in the edit in my response to Enrik, above. I want that 9x7 preeeetty bad... I want it enough that I know I'm willing to put in more time towards it than I should. There are, after all, other things in life besides trying to see how big you can make your dick. And while I've never considered outright lying to my partner about what I'm up to, maybe I shouldn't even withhold the information? Because if she complains that you're spending too much time making your dick bigger and not helping out enough around the house... she might have a point.

 

[aDiscipleofGod]

[QUOTE="Bornsinner, post: 1823937, member: 206995" I prefer to keep it hidden for now but I do know my girlfriend gets suspicious sometimes and my worst fear is her thinking I’m cheating or something bc that’s a woman’s first instinct is when they’re suspicious and don’t know exactly what you’re doing.[/QUOTE]

Bornsinner what is she suspicious about? You being in the bathroom too long or did she mention something?

 

[DLD]

Do not tell ever! There is a certain type of woman that would understand this but they are very far in between. In a normal relationship your wife may become jealous of all of the work you’re doing on your penis. This jealousy is called penis envy and it’s something that, In most cases, is inevitable. If you can keep it to yourself do you so!

 

[Bornsinner]

Yes being in the bathroom too long is definitely one thing I’ve learned to time myself so when I’m alone that’s my window or for example if I’m using the bathmate and I just started a session and she wants me to go see her like that moment I quickly have to come up with a half ass excuse of why I can’t go right away and part of that is my fault bc I should plan for moments like that but still when you get caught off guard it can make her suspicious you know what I mean?

 

[DLD]

Yes being in the bathroom too long is definitely one thing I’ve learned to time myself so when I’m alone that’s my window or for example if I’m using the bathmate and I just started a session and she wants me to go see her like that moment I quickly have to come up with a half ass excuse of why I can’t go right away and part of that is my fault bc I should plan for moments like that but still when you get caught off guard it can make her suspicious you know what I mean?

Don’t get caught off guard LOL

 

[Bornsinner]

Haha for sure ??

 

[Emmanuilxxx]

Dont tell all at once. PE is a taboo in most ppl minds and most of them will react like u are doing satanism or black magic but they dont understand that is like a bodybuilder who want to grow his muscles. Ppl minds are not ready for so much info on this, but if ur wife in general is openminded tell everything but slowly, little info every sometimes, so she will hear all at the end normally.

Me personally i ve told recently to my close friends that i m doing PE for 5 years explaining in short detail what is it and how it works. Most of them tried to demote and degrade what i was doing (asking why u r doing this ? // size doesnt matter // u were already average to big so why u want more // this is a lose /waste of time u should do something most creative ) but i just realized that they were just jealous of what i was doing and they wanted to do this too but they didnt have the mood or just shy to ask me for details as i told them that this is difficult too, it needs time effort and discipline like bodybuilding or marathon running.

But anyway telling them what i was doing i felt better and as time passes, they will get used to it.

 

[DLD]

Haha for sure ??

There are many good reasons to be in the bathroom for too long, PE is just not the best reason when it comes to our partners

 

[aDiscipleofGod]

bornsinner , so you don't live with her then right? Can you just do your routine at night before bed? Because she'll surely know you are probably just be sleeping and not call you or anything

 

[DLD]

bornsinner , so you don't live with her then right? Can you just do your routine at night before bed? Because she'll surely know you are probably just be sleeping and not call you or anything

There are many many places you can get in PE in if you’re very creative. Go to bed a half hour later get up at half hour earlier. Every bathroom break get some stretching in. At night under the covers stretch your penis. All through the day and do Kegels, get a Phallosan and let that do all the work. Search out your day and find every moment you can to dedicate to PE as this will ultimately add to your gains

 

[Big Schwanz Acht]

PE is so gradual that she'll never notice...not even when you finally achieve your goal(s), so no need to make-up any story (or you can just let her know that she's the one responsible for it being so huge cuz she's so damn sexy...99% of women ar so self-centered that letting her know she's responsible will just earn you more points). Also, PE is something you do for yourself, so recognition from anyone else is just your ego talking...you already know deep-down the value and having others know isn't worth the potential back-lash.
TLDR: keep it to yourself and let your girl know it's all her doing

 

[DLD]

TLDR: keep it to yourself and let your girl know it's all her doing

This is probably the best answer I have ever heard of this issue. Turning the tables and giving her credit for your gains is brilliant!

 

[enrikxl]

Do not tell ever! There is a certain type of woman that would understand this but they are very far in between. In a normal relationship your wife may become jealous of all of the work you’re doing on your penis. This jealousy is called penis envy and it’s something that, In most cases, is inevitable. If you can keep it to yourself do you so!

Penis envy is deeply rooted in us all, that's why we come to this website in the first place.
Listen to dld, or face the consequences!! Freudian psychology will win, you will lose my friend brawnjohnson penis envy can't be beat!