Need Your Honest Opinion On This Guys..Help Please

Ok here's the deal. 7 years ago I meet my wife. We dated for 3 years, been married 4. During the first year it was very rocky. She was cheating on me, I was cheating on her, yada yada. One of the girls I cheated on her with happened to be ONE of her best friends. The grew up together. So they have basically known one another for 10+ years. When the girl and I done it she was under the impression that my wife and I (then girlfriend) was broken up. Which at the time we were. Me and this chick fucked on a Friday night. Saturday she calls me up wanting to something that night. Well later on in the day my wife and I had made back up. At the time I was under some major pressure. Scared to death she would tell. I told her flat out I couldn't see her or begin to start anything with her and that last night was just a fuck and please don't tell. She agreed. That was the end of that.

Now, this is where it gets confusing. I told my wife later on that I had fucked her friend. Then she came clean with me on all the guys she had fucked. We lived happily ever after. Well until about a year ago from now. She wound up messing around with this guy at work. It never became anything serious, I happened to accidentally catch it in time. But for her doing that she decided she would pay me back.

We got to talking and both figured that her friend from the past would be perfect. So my wife ask this girl if she would be interested in having a threesome with us because she (my wife) had fucked up. Now these two haven't talked in about a year or so. We just happened to find her not to long ago. We didn't break the news to her right away, we got caught up on things and then broke it to her. Well the friend (girl I fucked) has a husband of 2 years and has a completely different life. When we ask her, she tells us that she would have done it no problem a year ago if we would have ask her then, but now she is settled down and isn't into that anymore. But she did say she would at least think about it.

Well three weeks go by and she finally tells my wife she thinks she wants to do it.

Now when my wife found out that she did that with me in the beginning she fussed at her pretty bad. This girl wasn't going to tell on me at all. I was the one that ended up telling. So this girl is now funny around me, see what I am saying. Not only that she is especially funny around me because she is scared of my wife. So put it this way, she is very shy around us now. Especially me.

But today she comes over. My wife is sick and I gave her some nyquil before this girl got there. She only came over to hang out for a few minutes. Anyway, my wife and her talk for a minute or two. Then my wife lays down on the couch. Not passed out yet, but just lays there. So me and the girl get to talking quite a bit. Then she asks me to take her outside and show her some cars I have for sale and see what kind of deal I can work out with her, (I sell cars on the side and usually have about 8 or so). But she is seriously looking for a car. So I go outside and show her some cars. We come back in. Now my wife is asleep. Then this girl asks me about some of our old furniture and if I would take her out back to the storage shed to show it to her. Now the whole time she has her 3 yr old daughter with her. So I take her out back and show her the stuff.

Now on the way back into the house she starts telling me how she can't wait to get rid of her Man and get him moved out. She says she can't stand him anymore. She starts saying this out of nowhere. I said nothing.

Then we go into the house and I take her back to my bedroom. Remember now, my wife is asleep on the living room couch. I take her back there to show her some bedroom furniture that I want to get. That is where I had the bedroom outfit pics at. So she goes back there with me and looks. Nothing happens, we don't touch each other or anything.

Well then she says its about time for her to go. Well my wife is asleep and my 3 yr old is running around, so is hers. I ask her if she would ride with me to the store and just sit in the car with my child while I run inside and get something. She said as long as ******* (my wifes name) says its ok. So I woke my wife up and ask her. IN a deep sleep voice she said yeah. So we ride to the store together. We don't really talk about anything but just dumb shit about her childhood and shit.

We get back home and she puts her child into her car and begins to leave. Then she asks me if my wife will be up later on tonight because she might call her. I told her no, but I would be up for awhile with nothing to do and if she wants someone to talk to to just call me. She said she might do that. But she never called.

What do you guys think? Do you think this girl might like me, but just be scared because of my wife and the fact that my wife knows what happened to us in the beggining?

Why would she keep telling me she wants to leave her husband?

And yes, she did agree to the threesome, but of course that has to be with my wife present.

I am trying to figure out if this chick wants to fuck by ourselves.

What do you guys think?

Oh yeah, and everytime she calls, which is alot, she talks to me on the phone for a long time. It's never about anything intimate, but she does like to talk. Like for instance she will call for my wife and if she is busy, she will just talk to me. Sometimes she will call and I will answer the phone and she doesn't even ask for my wife, she'll just talk to me forever.

But Like I said, she never suggests sex, or talks about anything dirty, or even shows the least little bit interest in me. So this is why it is so confusing.

She did however tell me today that she is in a major custody battle with her ex over a son and that she has to think twice about everything she does. She feels like he is watching her every minute and that she doesn't trust any scenario because it could be him trying to set her up to gain custody. So she told me she is very careful with everything she does. HydromaxMMM that could go either way huh?

One more thing I would like to add. I did say my wife said it would be ok to have this threesome, but she would not be to happy if she found out me and this chick had something on the side.

I love my wife to death. I wouldn't trade her for anything in the world. Not even if she gained so much weight that she wound up at 300lbs. I love her that much. She is gorgeous. Nice thick long, beautiful brunette curly hair. She is a knock out. But things like this are very tempting. I mean as far as I know this girl may not even be interested in me. I am getting some negative and positive signs at the same time. That is why I need your help. You guys may see something I don't and can set me straight.

But this girl looks like Piper Perabo (cheaper by the dozen, coyote ugly) Here's a pic of Piper, they look just a like except this girls hair is about shoulder length or a little below, but you get the idea. They have the same facial and mouth structier.

to be completely honest with you, you have to think to yourself honestly about what you want. it doesnt matter whether this woman wants you or not, your only tempted by the thrill and excitement. imo the threesome would mess up what you have already, if your happy then why change it? but then again id have an honest conversation with your wife - marriage is not about screwing around with other people and its about time she realised that. if your wife loves you as much as you love her and CAN be faithfull then i see no reason to get this other woman involved - temptation only leads to bad things. if however you feel that your wife cannot remain faithfull or losing intrest then i would personally keep this other woman as a "friend" until you find out more about her mind set (where she is atm and where she wants to be).

It's hard to say what to do. I mean, what guy doesn't love the idea. However, it usually is a relationship killer, but there has been so much cheating in your relationship in the past that I'm amazed it survived. Maybe you are one of those couple that can separate the sex from the relationship. Talk to sikdogg, as he is the resident expert on the subject and seemingly has a good marriage.

It sounds like you need to re-think your relationship with your wife, maybe you two should go to counseling... the cheating and the keeping score just doesn't sound like you two have a sound relationship. Don't do the threesome because if she allows you to do it (as re-payment) because she cheated on you, she will think that it's cool to cheat on you again later.

If this chick looks like Piper Perabo, it might be worth it, because if it was Piper, I'd pipe her.

Seriously, as sikdogg said, sounds like you have some things to work out and don't make this a reactionary decision.

Dude, you've had ALL this trouble with you both cheating, and your solution is to... fuck another chick YET AGAIN? Who's to say your wife won't get jealous and then 'pay you back' by messing around with another guy in just another oscillation of this cycle?

And I thought I had a fucked up relationship. I think you should ask her to pay you back by not cheating on you any more, and possibly throw in 30 or so BJs to go along with it.

And for fuck's sake, STOP CHEATING ON YOUR WIFE. It doesn't matter whether or not the bitch likes you, you are married. Start acting like a fucking man and preserve what little honor you have left.

go to the threesome thing, if everybody all of u enjoy, do it again and again!

Dude, if you have this threesome, in the future, since you're even, your wife might want a threesome with another dude.

why not have a threesome with another guy?
sex is sex, lots of women in the world, nobody belongs to anybody!

WILLBOM said:

why not have a threesome with another guy?
sex is sex, lots of women in the world, nobody belongs to anybody!

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My woman belongs to me, and I belong to my woman. You touch what belongs to me, you won't be walking away with what you touched her with. And believe me, she'd do to same to any woman who would try to touch me.

Some of us still believe in commitment. We're the rare good guys with that crazy thing called 'honor.'

The_Rabbi said:

My woman belongs to me, and I belong to my woman. You touch what belongs to me, you won't be walking away with what you touched her with. And believe me, she'd do to same to any woman who would try to touch me.

Some of us still believe in commitment. We're the rare good guys with that crazy thing called 'honor.'

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this kind of bullshit you r sayin just makes sense till she cheats u.So u begin thinkin in a different way and u figure out that they, till the one u love, are all whores with maybe 2 uses: sex in d front and sex in d back.
Man, bfore u get fucked by the life being this honoured man, begin thinkin about what is your woman doin. Stop blind trusting, bro.
Just an advice. use them to enjoy life, don´t think anyone belongs to any.
so time will make u grow your mind, I´m sure of that!
wish u luck!

WILLBOM said:

this kind of bullshit you r sayin just makes sense till she cheats u.So u begin thinkin in a different way and u figure out that they, till the one u love, are all whores with maybe 2 uses: sex in d front and sex in d back.
Man, bfore u get fucked by the life being this honoured man, begin thinkin about what is your woman doin. Stop blind trusting, bro.
Just an advice. use them to enjoy life, don´t think anyone belongs to any.
so time will make u grow your mind, I´m sure of that!
wish u luck!

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It's not bullshit, it's called being a good man. You don't think I've been with girls who have turned into whores before? Finding a woman this good took a lot of work.

The_Rabbi said:

It's not bullshit, it's called being a good man. You don't think I've been with girls who have turned into whores before? Finding a woman this good took a lot of work.

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so u really must take care of her...she is a rare kind. I know I´ve been with bitches most of the time, so I really don´t care if they are been fucked by a thousand of guys since they r ready for me when I´m turned on. I don´t even dream of having to look for a real woman like yours. I love women, but I now know they don´t deserve any trust.