My P.E. brothers I need advice!

Hey guys been awhile since I've posted (been really busy at work, a lot of it out of state!), in any case I need some advice:Recently I've been going on a lot of dates with different women, most of them don't pan out though just because they don't meet what I am looking for. A few months ago I met a girl who actaully got my attention, and passed all my 'test' and I have found that I'm actaully attracted to her. The problem was that at the time she was dating some other guy, so I keep in touch with her here and there, and went of a few more dates with other women. Well recently (weekend of New years) Her Boyfriend and her broke up, and a few people have told me that I should try to get with her now.

Problem is that I don't really know how to progress in this situation due to the recent break up. Do I give her time, and look for someone else? Act like if she had been single for a few months instead of a week? Or just take her out with a bunch of my friends and have a really good time, and try to cheer her up/and build attraction?

I am really at a lost on what to do.

Why don'tcha just be yourself and explain it to her like you just did to us?
Honesty, to self and others, always worked best for me.

I have golden rule: if two people give me the same advice (even if I didn't agree with it at first) I put aside my ego and pride and do as they suggest, with that said Max, I will do as you suggest and be honest with her (though I might reword it a little bit) try to show her that I am attracted to her. Thank you for the advice.

Honesty is always best, if you are not accepted for who you you don't need them.

Hopefully she ain't into games either.
Best of results to ya !

doublelongdaddy;411210 said:

Honesty is always best, if you are not accepted for who you you don't need them.

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Agreed DLD. Words of wisdom that are hard to follow but genuine.

Just make sure you're not her rebound.

I've been around the pickup community for a couple years now. So I have some experience with dating. As much as it sounds like I'm tooting my horn, I just want to share where my advice is coming from. Let me know how often you contact/see her. Do you share the same social group? Great way to highlight you is to have others saying good things about. Casually invite her to a social event that everyone thinks highly of you. Be alpha of the group and have it be fun & include preselection. This will do good to help her with getting over someone by meeting new people and putting you in a good light. At this social event seed her to getting together again. Something like dance lessons would be great as it would lead to more occasions where you are getting together without having to ask her out every time. Basically go with your last idea.

Gawdamm... that sounds more manipulative and predatory to me than anything else..
Whatever happened to the good old days of: Damn! you look good, let's get nekkit and rub up against each other for a week or two.



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pjp2002;411308 said:

I've been around the pickup community for a couple years now. So I have some experience with dating. As much as it sounds like I'm tooting my horn, I just want to share where my advice is coming from. Let me know how often you contact/see her. Do you share the same social group? Great way to highlight you is to have others saying good things about. Casually invite her to a social event that everyone thinks highly of you. Be alpha of the group and have it be fun & include preselection. This will do good to help her with getting over someone by meeting new people and putting you in a good light. At this social event seed her to getting together again. Something like dance lessons would be great as it would lead to more occasions where you are getting together without having to ask her out every time. Basically go with your last idea.

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maybe her and her boyfriend were more like just friends

Let me say first off, that I not interesting in this girl just for sex , I am gernally attracted to her and would like to explore the possibility of healthy relationship. Also, I do feel honesty is the best way to go about things, but I see no problem with me showing her a good time as a way to show her how I feel. With that also said PJP, I will answer your two questions: First I talk to her about twice a week, you see as a hobby I organize groups (mainly out of my friends, and friends of friends) to go to different events in the Chicago land Area, this is how we started talking. As for the social group, well me going to different events, with different people I have made alot of friends in a lot of different social circles, so I am not sure how to answer your second question.

Last, she is attending with me, along with some others, to one of the events I have organized a group for this weekend.

Thanks for the advice again, guys.