Advice

Just found out that my new wife had sex with a friend of mine back before she and I ever met. I know it shouldn't upset me, but it does. I usually feel that what she did before me isn't my business, bit like I said, this has hit me kind of hard. Any advice?

Yeah man dont obsess over it you probably have had sex with other women before her. She married you right? I know what you mean because my ex girlfriend use to make me feel jealous a lot and it used to really bother me. Now that Ive done Penis Enlargement I look back and think if she tried to do that now it would have never happen.

If it really bothers you ask her about it but dont accuse her or be angry with her. Bring it up to her respectfully and use "I" statements and say "I feel..." about the situation. Give her the chance to tell you where she is coming from and then move on. Its the past and you should become stronger in you relationship because of this. Handle it with a mature attitude.

If you like this girl let it go MAN! Who gives a fuck who she was with, that was then! The past is nothing but an elusive flicker of non-existence. You have the prize, so celebrate. Do not punish her for this, what if she did the same to you for your past? It is not right. True confidence in a man will always be more valuable then ANY OTHER ASSET! If a woman sees you have insecurities about the past she will definitely see you as unconfident and her respect will wane.

Rather it be a friend then some of these slim balls that girls give it up to. Yeah your problem sicks but it could be WAY fucking worst, LET IT GO.

doublelongdaddy;387820 said:

If you like this girl let it go MAN! Who gives a fuck who she was with, that was then! The past is nothing but an elusive flicker of non-existence. You have the prize, so celebrate. Do not punish her for this, what if she did the same to you for your past? It is not right. True confidence in a man will always be more valuable then ANY OTHER ASSET! If a woman sees you have insecurities about the past she will definitely see you as unconfident and her respect will wane.

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I couldn't say it any better than this.

She's actually yours today and she has given the best that she can possibly offer, all to YOU.
You have something ahead of that friend of yours. You have a deep level of companionship that you can enjoy and rest in during sex, as well as romantic emotions, whereas, all they had was a bit of the romantic momentary emotions that YOU can basically have with any woman you are attracted to. Big deal. You're the man here. She's offering you companionship love, love at the deepest level. This puts you on a league that TRANSCENDS other males. This is one of the reasons why I firmly stick to what I am saying when I say: She offers you the best that she has ever offered to any other guy.

Seriously, don't underestimate DLD's words here, try looking at those words from a totally different lens to the one your current mind set is in now. Seriously.

I wish you well.

If you like this girl let it go MAN! Who gives a fuck who she was with, that was then! The past is nothing but an elusive flicker of non-existence. You have the prize, so celebrate. Do not punish her for this, what if she did the same to you for your past? It is not right. True confidence in a man will always be more valuable then ANY OTHER ASSET! If a woman sees you have insecurities about the past she will definitely see you as unconfident and her respect will wane.

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The man always comes thru with words only wise men speak. Greatly said DLD

All2Real;389378 said:

The man always comes thru with words only wise men speak. Greatly said DLD

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I speak the truth from experience.

Neither you nor your wife (or even the friend) can change the past; what has happened will always have happened. So now your biggest decision is whether you are going to conquer the situation or are you going to allow the situation to conquer you? Just exactly HOW you choose to deal with it is up to you, but you might want to start by explaining to yourself just why this incident seems to be hitting you so particularly hard.

The past does not exist but in the mind. Allowing the past dictate your now is simple irrational. live in this moment, not the next or before.

Exactly, she can never recapture the moment ever again, it's all just a delusion by looking into the past, it really is.
Even for positive things, it still is a delusion because you're thinking about things and trying to recreate things when it's not there in reality. She can never recapture it to it's full extent, and it's just not reality.
You are the reality. I agree with the whole 'flickers of the past' thing, that's a very good way of putting it.
You are what she will have in reality. Reality is as real as it will ever get.
You're getting away with it here, you have her in reality, right now.

In this moment all is right.

I like to say, "Every experience is a learning experience, if you approach it properly."