Thirty-something blues

[Texan]

In reference to that web-cam girl with smokin' hot ass: this shit depresses me. That ass is not my reality. I live in a college town and I see girls built like brickshit houses everyday and I'm tellin' you, it's hard on a man. I love my wife, but fuck, I can nearly taste that ass. I seriously have no desire to leave my wife, but shit, I want to fuck nearly every girl I see between the ages 16 and 40. I don't know how to turn it off; I just turned 30 and this is not a good feeling. I'm not trying to be funny... it is really depressing as hell. Of course it is Finals time in law school and that doesn't help a goshdamned thing.

 

[TomdW]

I think every man wants to fuck anything female between the ages of 16 and 40. I know what you are saying, some days I can't help myself. I just stare at anything female. I think it's just part of being male. Loyalty is difficult but in the end if you love your wife then it is worth it. You are not alone.

 

[Texan]

OK, here's what I think my problem is: I slept with one other girl before I got together with the girl I eventually married. Of course it was early in my relationship with my now-wife that I asked "the question" and found out that I wasn't "the Man" that I thought I was (which is funny considering my my size at the time: 6.2 bp x 4.7 eg- yeah, I know, I was delusional). Now I think I have this semi-subconscious feeling that I have/had something to prove and I missed the opportunity when I had it. Now I feel like that opportunity to have a girl think of me as "the Man" slips further away eveyday as I get older. I guess this is the onset of mid-life crisis? I know I should be past this by now, more mature than to let such superficial things impact my life, but if anybody would understand these feelings, I figure some of you guys would.

 

[TomdW]

The more stories I hear of the onset of mid-life crisis the more I don't beleive that men are only supposed to have one lover for life. More than 50% of men have affairs nowadays, doesn't that say something. For the lucky few mariage and one partner for life works but for the majority it doesn't seem to. I think the important thing is that you talk about this with your wife. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

 

[Texan]

The more stories I hear of the onset of mid-life crisis the more I don't beleive that men are only supposed to have one lover for life. More than 50% of men have affairs nowadays, doesn't that say something. For the lucky few mariage and one partner for life works but for the majority it doesn't seem to. I think the important thing is that you talk about this with your wife. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

I don't see that going over well... I once tried to talk to her about me wanting to have sex with a girl. I tried to explain I loved her and that me fucking some 20 year old hottie would have no more emotional significance than me going through the drive-thru at McDonald's and getting a burger. That just pissed her off worse.

 

[stillwantmore]

Equating some "strange" to the drive thru at McDonalds' LOL.

I'm 26, and though I'm single, I can semi relate. I find myself sometimes breaking my neck just to look at a girls' ass. I married at 19, and that didnt work. I'm in no hurry to get married again. I just feel like there's still a lot out there that I can and will experience before I commit myself to just one woman for the rest of my life. That's the fundamental value in marriage after all....committing yourself to one person from that day forward no matter what. In today's society most people just dont seem to be long term minded. No matter what is said in one given moment under whatever circumstances...it seems like just about any damn thing can be rescinded ....even if there's a big financial loss involved.

With that in mind, there's nothing at all wrong with having a healthy fantasy life. Thinking about things you cannot have. Sharing fantasies is a more healthy approach....however, if your significant other is not as open minded about such matters...that usually presents a problem. So you have to keep your fantasies to yourself...so what? Why feel guilty about wanting to fuck the 18 year old cashier at the quickee mart with the DD titts and tongue ring?? Nothing wrong with that. It just means youre a healthy male with a sex drive. You dont necessarily have to share these fantasies with your S/O. In fact, a lot of times it's in your best interest not to. Keep the fantasies to yourself. Nothing wrong with that. Enjoy what you HAVE. Be thankfull for what you HAVE. It's usually not worth it in the long run to pursue "better" things.