The pressure on black guys is crazy

[FKP]

Women put on ridiculously high stardards for black males. When I was at high school and trying to flirt with girls, they would tell me their unrealistic expectations, that girls call guys with huge girth and medium size of "beer can dicks", but that she would like one as thick as a beer can with high lenght, like 9 or 10 inches. And I'm pretty sure that she was refering to what she expected from me.

Another case was when a girl made a "joke" modeling a dick with clay dough which looked enourmous, she told other girls that this was my dick and they started laughting.

I'm brazilian and I'm considered upper middle class in here, so the social circles that I lived in had very few blacks. As an example, I was the only black guy in my classroom(Brazil has a lot of inequality).

My dick is 7.5x5 and I know this is considered above average. I did not create this thread to show off or to get you guys to tell me my dick is a good size, I have a good notion of what the statistics say and I do believe in them. I made this thread to get this off my chest. I feel like even with my current size, girls will get disappointed by it, because they expect every black men to look like the ones they watch in adult entertainment. You're not as big as Mandingo, Dredd and Julio Gomez? Then I'm disapppointed.

I'm currently 20 and I never had sex, partly because of this insecurity.

Sorry for any English mistakes.

 

[Haursen]

Thanks for sharing and I know this may be tough.

How about saving yourself until you meet the right woman you would like to marry? This way you can work on being the best version of yourself and you don't have to play mind games.

 

[REDZULU2003]

Nice input, and sorry for your experiences which are kinda sour.

I guess you might have women watching that adult entertainment with Mandingo, Dredd, Gomez, but surely not the norm.

That type of sex - interracial - seems to be portrayed rather one way depending on what side of the fence your on ... what do I mean? well, I like dark skinned women, and have looked around on such websites that show off the exotic sexiness of the black woman, and 9/10 times they are having sex with a white man, usually just over average or average size I would say, nothing massive.

The acting depicts them enjoying themselves as even the white girls on black men through blacked do, its all acting anyway, but the black ladies seem more at ease in the scenes, not trying so hard, not so desperate if that makes sense?

Anyway, yeah I went off topic some. But seriously, these women your on about are NOT typical, they are just being playful, naive, and immature.

I've not had sex in 10 years through my own spiritual choices, however I have had allot of pussy before, and most women were shocked by my size, and I'm nothing like Mandingo, and some of these women loved black cock, yet they even said I was bigger then the blacks. So, in the end, some of those women contradicted themselves.

What it all means is that SOME of today's women, due to them on a whole being more open, and experimental about sex, feel good to have horse play about sex, and it sounds like they have been having banter with you, because black men are rumored to be massive in size, and all like stallions in the bedroom, which has been proven to be complete fabrication, apart from one Nigerian penis size study which showed the slightest larger flaccid in black men measured.

I think you have nothing to be insecure about, its just telling yourself this.

At the size you are, trust me, these girls who claim such size to you, will be shocked by what you have.

You must know that those who shout the loudest, and beat their chests have the most to hide, or are full of shit? in my culture in the UK this is what we know, and usually the lass who says she has a big one at the weekend, loves them massive, loves being stretched out, is just all talk ... like us men talk allot of shit about what we have, like fast cars, been with so many women, knew such a celebrity etc etc bragging, making stories, and not being modest.

Social validation in this age with all the technology, and the generations seemingly more and more dim, I urge you to be confident in what you have, because your a survivor, indeed being the only black kid and you were strong for not allowing any outside interference put you down, it means you can overcome this.

Dont take everything a women says as truth, not being disrespectful to women, but again to reiterate what I typed above, they like us men, talk shit.

If women are really sat watching blacked I will eat my hat its a niche fetish market, aimed more for men based on how the women look .. just look at the women, the size of them, appearances, all white, some VERY white its all to appeal for the audience, and if women did watch, they would be more aware of the female actress , and compare themselves to such.

If you require any assistance please do ask me.

 

[REDZULU2003]

...and your English is EXCELLENT

 

[Avglen61]

You have nothing to worry about. This is just the result of watching one-sided adult entertainment with huge black cocks. There are more types of adult entertainment available in which black dudes are just of normal length and have great sex. So you do not have to worry about anything.

You said you are black and have a 7.5x5 dick. Let me tell you something, YOU CAN HAVE A GREAT SEX LIFE. Not because of your already big penis, but because of the fact that penis size has nothing to do with great sex as long as you know how to control your penis (as long as you don't have sex with a "size queen". In that case it does matter). As long as you have 3.5"-4" long penis(erect), your sex life would be great. If not, you need to see a doctor. This is not your case so be happy.

Let me tell you something which I have learnt throughout these years. IF A WOMAN HAS THE RIGHT TO JUDGE A MAN BASED UPON HIS "SIZE", THAT MAN HAS ALL THE RIGHT TO JUDGE THAT SAME WOMAN BASED ON HER "SIZE". That's KARMA for her.

As long as sex is concerned, be honest with yourself and tell me something, do you really want to have sex with someone who is going to judge you on your size because she saw a bunch of black guys in adult entertainment with huge dicks? Do you really want to have sex with a woman who is going to judge your size based on your ethnicity?

In this era of technology, adult entertainment is easily available and people only see the things that adult entertainment want them to see. Black guys(or guys of any ethnicity) are just a subset of an enormous community of male humans. Men in adult entertainment do not speak for men like us who have a normal penises.

So be smart and do not fall into this mess. I am speaking from my own experience. I am an Indian and women do not have any expectations from my people(cwl) which is funny because we people literally wrote Kamasutra(cwl). We(Indians) are supposed to be great in sex but we aren't because this is reality(also there is a lot less indian adult entertainment available).

With that said, happy PE

PS: I am 21 and I've also never had sex. I don't think I am ready for such a drastic step in my life but I am preparing myself for it and I am in no hurry and neither should you.

 

[Tmn8364]

I second what Redz and Haursen have said. While I went thru long periods of celebacy for spiritual reasons long before PE, I also smashed alot in my younger years. Back when I was 6x5. Now, Im not black, but I would agree the culture we have grown up in thanks to adult entertainment has for sure tweaked everyones perception of sex. And more importantly relationships. My point is, while you may have a very real cultural expectation, use this time to better yourself. Pick your own reality, dont be fooled into accepting someone elses concept of you, or what they expect of you. And you will attract the people/women worthy of your respect. They are out there. I think of the women(sluts) that turned me off relationships, then the years spent celebate, building myself, then finally the woman I married that I am proud to call my wife. Hang in there. Become what you want to attract!

 

[DLD]

https://mattersofsize.com/threads/the-mandingo-complex.4927/

 

[Haursen]

https://mattersofsize.com/threads/the-mandingo-complex.4927/

This post added to Are Black Men Bigger? Thread.

 

[REDZULU2003]

Lots of good input here

 

[DLD]

This post added to Are Black Men Bigger? Thread.

It is a ver old but awesome article along the same line of thought.

 

[REDZULU2003]

A study going back to 2007 from the Nnamdi Azikiwe University Teaching Hospital, Nnewi, Nigeria took 115 adult men and did some measurements of the flaccid stretched length . See “Oversized” Penile Length In The Black People; Myth Or Reality | Tropical Journal of Medical Research for the full write up.

Compared with other nations, the Nigerian study had a larger size overall but wasn't significant to support the ascription of bigger penile dimensions to people of the Black race.

The mean full-stretch penile length of the Nigerian Blacks was 13.37cm and the mean flaccid length was 9.36cm
Compared to white British which was 13cm stretched.

Its only 0.14566929133858 inches larger over the nearest larger white population.

More studies on various populations including a good graphical calculator to compare yourself over at calcSD - Dataset List

 

[DLD]

Many people believe in the myth that black men have much larger cocks than other ethnicity. The sad part is this is that it is not true and the people that suffer with the most are black men because they feel as though they need to live up to a size that’s completely irrational.

 

[nobias]

I would says its about keeping men and women seperated (all races) and especially Men of all Races if i had to geuss.

 

[DLD]

I would says its about keeping men and women seperated (all races) and especially Men of all Races if i had to geuss.

Excellent point

 

[Avglen61]

But why is it that only black men are considered/potrayed to have huge cocks....?
I mean, why not Asians, or whites or indians or any other race?

 

[DLD]

But why is it that only black men are considered/potrayed to have huge cocks....?
I mean, why not Asians, or whites or indians or any other race?

Good question

 

[j1975]

get stretching and get that 9 incher you are starting well above average I was 6 inches bone pressed when i started im now 8 inches bone pressed you could get an extra 2 inches giving you 9.5 in a years time best of luck

 

[huge-girth]

...and your English is EXCELLENT

You said you've not had sex for up to 10 years now. Do you masturbate?

 

[Threak-X]

Women put on ridiculously high standards for black males. When I was at high school and trying to flirt with girls, they would tell me their unrealistic expectations, that girls call guys with huge girth and medium size of "beer can dicks", but that she would like one as thick as a beer can with high lenght, like 9 or 10 inches. And I'm pretty sure that she was referirng to what she expected from me.

There seems to always been some kind of stereotype with ethnic or racial groups...
...in my youth, there were ethnic Polish jokes. It may seem funny to me, but to Polish people it's racism. Just like this girl with her ridiculously high standards expecting all black men to have cocks the size of a toddler's arm is very racist. Just as expecting all Asians to be born mathematicians and know some form of martial arts.

I have talked openly with black women and dated several in my life. They all have said many times, "Not all black men have huge cocks, it's not true"

 

[REDZULU2003]

You said you've not had sex for up to 10 years now. Do you masturbate?

Sometimes

 

[DLD]

Sometimes

every now and again much better than every day wasted. We have made big strides in all of this. As humans we are fallible but in the failures we will always grow stronger when used the right way.

 

[REDZULU2003]

True. I don't actually watch adult entertainment like I did 15 years ago, it just bores me and does nothing for me. The only time I have used it the past 12 months is when horny and just wanting to relieve myself to a quick clip or image or some babe, but from now on I will try to keep it to visualization.

 

[DLD]

True. I don't actually watch adult entertainment like I did 15 years ago, it just bores me and does nothing for me. The only time I have used it the past 12 months is when horny and just wanting to relieve myself to a quick clip or image or some babe, but from now on I will try to keep it to visualization.

it happens and it’s just part of the growth cycle. I used to mess up and spend all day feeling guilty about it. I didn’t realize just how bad this was and how counter intuitive it was to the reality of what happened. I would waste the whole day that God has given me feeling like crap about what I did the night before. This was such a terrible way of dealing with it.

Today If I end up watching something I shouldn’t or I messed up someway it’s important to forgive myself and to look at the victories that I’ve had rather than the present failure. I have come so far from a time when I would waste every day looking at garbage and filth! Today it’s very rare. We’re never gonna be perfect in this world, we’re human beings and we’re gonna make mistakes. It’s what we do with the mistakes that matters most.

 

[MLane33]

I've seen studies where they said black guy on average are .1 to .2 inches longer. The real huge difference is flaccid. It happened in the locker room more than anything

 

[DLD]

I've seen studies where they said black guy on average are .1 to .2 inches longer. The real huge difference is flaccid. It happened in the locker room more than anything

It is probably a black person that did the study LOL

 

[REDZULU2003]

I've seen studies where they said black guy on average are .1 to .2 inches longer. The real huge difference is flaccid. It happened in the locker room more than anything

I can believe that, something to do maybe with how the human body reacts to its environment i.e darker skinned people are said to be more from around the equator, lighter skinned from the North colder areas.

I know for a fact told by someone in the field of study that dark skinned people, especially black people have the hair they do because its a great way to cool the scalp, as the sweat will drip down the hair follicle better to cool off the head, unlike lighter skinned folk which have hair to keep them better insulated in colder climates.

Little things like that, the human body adaptations over time, so yes the black flaccid penis could be longer due to the area they lived for a reason, and I have noticed when its warm my flaccid increases anyway.

 

[nobias]

Yup larger flaccid in warmer climates to dissipate more heat. "Growers" in colder climates to have less contact with the cold makes sense.

 

[nobias]

or extend out because of the heat & hide from the cold

 

[DLD]

or extend out because of the heat & hide from the cold

??? ain’t it the truth

 

[REDZULU2003]

Certainly, my dick HATES the cold, and goes to like 1 inch in the really cold weather

 

[DLD]

Certainly, my dick HATES the cold, and goes to like 1 inch in the really cold weather

When it’s cold and with my belly my flaccid size is pathetic! Got to do some lazy ass stretching I guess LOL