Psychology Shame as a reason to quit

[dcy]

Hey brothers,

I hope you're all well.

Many times I've began and quit due to one reason - shame and guilt. As soon as I get around a month or so in, there is this creeping shame about the fact I'm doing PE and it just becomes such a limiting factor. Have any of you encountered this? I'd appreciate any suggestions or advice here as I'd really like to keep at this.

EDIT: @DLD has been such a saviour in my own personal log thread; no matter how many times I quit and come back, he's always there welcoming my back with open arms - thank you, brother.

 

[Mr.Nokia]

Arnold didn't felt ashamed and quit working out with guilt as those muscles didn't come naturally.

PE is just like any other workout for me, so no. I don't have any shame or guilt doing it.

(Shame on the blisters that's taking my PE away from me ?)

 

[Dante Embar]

There is no shame in trying to improve and better oneself, be it physically, mentality or psychologically.

 

[dcy]

Thanks for the replies so far, brothers - really helpful.

You're both right: trying to see it in the light of physical improvement through hard word is the best way to see it. I think they thing that gets in the way is just what is *socially acceptable*, that is, bodybuilding is but doing PE is something we all have to keep so secretive. I guess that's what plagues my mind the most.

 

[Dante Embar]

Talking about being secretive, I am married with 2 kids. There is simply no privacy, or time for that matter, to be locked up in a room or bathroom doing hanging sessions or manual stretches, as questions will be asked.
The thing that works for me is using an extender and concealing it under my clothing. I still have to visit the bathroom more often to remove and readjust etc but it works for me.
So yeah, I have to keep the secret cos I am going this for ME and no one else.

 

[dcy]

Talking about being secretive, I am married with 2 kids. There is simply no privacy, or time for that matter, to be locked up in a room or bathroom doing hanging sessions or manual stretches, as questions will be asked.
The thing that works for me is using an extender and concealing it under my clothing. I still have to visit the bathroom more often to remove and readjust etc but it works for me.
So yeah, I have to keep the secret cos I am going this for ME and no one else.

Very well said, brother.

I feel selfish to say that I have my own apartment for the time being, so I don't have that same contraint yet feel this way.

I think it's also - as you say - finding reasons why *I* want to do it and not for someone else.

 

[DLD]

Hey brothers,

I hope you're all well.

Many times I've began and quit due to one reason - shame and guilt. As soon as I get around a month or so in, there is this creeping shame about the fact I'm doing PE and it just becomes such a limiting factor. Have any of you encountered this? I'd appreciate any suggestions or advice here as I'd really like to keep at this.

EDIT: @DLD has been such a saviour in my own personal log thread; no matter how many times I quit and come back, he's always there welcoming my back with open arms - thank you, brother.

Always my brother! Maybe what you need is just some coaching and it will help you stay consistent. I can write a custom routine and coach you if you desire. I don’t charge anything for this I only want you to get what I got. I think it’s very important that people share the awareness after they have made the gross they desired.

 

[LONGERDICK7+]

Feeling that way can be normal right? But getting massive in the blink of an eye is a lie, that's why feeling guilty might be senseless, when persistency, discipline,consistency, n hard work are applied shame n guilt aren't as important as we may think..Hard work in PE not an easy thing to do at all!