Psychology Shame as a reason to quit

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Hey brothers,

I hope you're all well.

Many times I've began and quit due to one reason - shame and guilt. As soon as I get around a month or so in, there is this creeping shame about the fact I'm doing PE and it just becomes such a limiting factor. Have any of you encountered this? I'd appreciate any suggestions or advice here as I'd really like to keep at this.

EDIT: @DLD has been such a saviour in my own personal log thread; no matter how many times I quit and come back, he's always there welcoming my back with open arms - thank you, brother.
 
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Arnold didn't felt ashamed and quit working out with guilt as those muscles didn't come naturally.

PE is just like any other workout for me, so no. I don't have any shame or guilt doing it.

(Shame on the blisters that's taking my PE away from me ?)
 
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Thanks for the replies so far, brothers - really helpful.

You're both right: trying to see it in the light of physical improvement through hard word is the best way to see it. I think they thing that gets in the way is just what is *socially acceptable*, that is, bodybuilding is but doing PE is something we all have to keep so secretive. I guess that's what plagues my mind the most.
 
Talking about being secretive, I am married with 2 kids. There is simply no privacy, or time for that matter, to be locked up in a room or bathroom doing hanging sessions or manual stretches, as questions will be asked.
The thing that works for me is using an extender and concealing it under my clothing. I still have to visit the bathroom more often to remove and readjust etc but it works for me.
So yeah, I have to keep the secret cos I am going this for ME and no one else.
 
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Dante Embar said:
Talking about being secretive, I am married with 2 kids. There is simply no privacy, or time for that matter, to be locked up in a room or bathroom doing hanging sessions or manual stretches, as questions will be asked.
The thing that works for me is using an extender and concealing it under my clothing. I still have to visit the bathroom more often to remove and readjust etc but it works for me.
So yeah, I have to keep the secret cos I am going this for ME and no one else.
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Very well said, brother.

I feel selfish to say that I have my own apartment for the time being, so I don't have that same contraint yet feel this way.

I think it's also - as you say - finding reasons why *I* want to do it and not for someone else.
 
dcy said:
Hey brothers,

I hope you're all well.

Many times I've began and quit due to one reason - shame and guilt. As soon as I get around a month or so in, there is this creeping shame about the fact I'm doing PE and it just becomes such a limiting factor. Have any of you encountered this? I'd appreciate any suggestions or advice here as I'd really like to keep at this.

EDIT: @DLD has been such a saviour in my own personal log thread; no matter how many times I quit and come back, he's always there welcoming my back with open arms - thank you, brother.
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Always my brother! Maybe what you need is just some coaching and it will help you stay consistent. I can write a custom routine and coach you if you desire. I don’t charge anything for this I only want you to get what I got. I think it’s very important that people share the awareness after they have made the gross they desired.
 
Feeling that way can be normal right? But getting massive in the blink of an eye is a lie, that's why feeling guilty might be senseless, when persistency, discipline,consistency, n hard work are applied shame n guilt aren't as important as we may think..Hard work in PE not an easy thing to do at all!
 
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