Here's a story about two best friends.

[Shion]

There were two girls. Let us call them Donna and Aria. Aria was a blonde girl that everybody at her school knew. She was loved by everybody and had lots of friends. Donna was a brown-haired girl that had only one best friend: and that was Aria. Donna really appreciated having Aria as a friend, and they talked all day, every day. They were inseparable. But one day, there were a few social problems in the relationship. Soon they began having arguments all the time. The two girls, neither of them knowing how to fix such a blow to their relationship, and both of them having too much pride to be the first one to try and fix it, broke it off. Aria and Donna went their separate ways. Over time, things got to be rather melancholy to Aria. But life went on, and eventually she got over the loss of her friend and lived life. Her life was really active and plenty of people encouraged her to go on. Donna, however, immediately realizing that Aria was her one and only friend, began to be miserable. Suddenly, every single day of her life seemed as if she was consciously making her life horrible, even though she knew it was because of Aria. But every moment was lonely and painful, because Aria was the only friend she had. She felt very angry and betrayed. And because there was no one else to live for, and she was very angry at Aria for not caring about her feelings, she began to devote her life to hurting Aria.
The other kids in the school took notice of this, and guarded Aria for her. As Donna tried to make Aria’s life miserable, perhaps just ruining her day by throwing things at her or yelling at her...in addition to being noticed by the teachers and punished for being bad, the kids were in confederacy against her for trying to hurt the wonderful Aria. Aria lived her life with lots of friends, while Donna was ignored, hated, and lived a miserable rest of her life because of a misunderstanding. She eventually killed herself out of chronic and severe depression. Nobody cared when Donna died, or even that it was Aria that hurt her. They all overlooked it, simply because Donna was outnumbered.

My question is...is there anyone here that feels like Donna? Doesn't it seem such a sad fact that friendships can be so easily separated, and that the amount of friends you have after said breakup is the deciding factor between living a good life and living a dark, cold, empty one?

I had a friend named Alec. I met him in high school, he was one of those friends for life. Really nice guy. We'd often talk about a lot of philosophical things and it was fun for us. Pretty soon I graduated and he was still a junior. I still kept in contact with him online. Recently, we'd been getting into arguments instead of chats. And one day, when he laughed in my face after I told him about something very fragile to me (y'know...a "bear your heart" kind of thing), he laughed in my face and was a complete asshole. But I was more shocked than anything, and I blocked him. I'd done it before though, and everything worked out after a few days. But he hadn't shown up online after I unblocked him after a couple of days, and it was only recently I'd confirmed with my friend Kim that indeed he had blocked me in retaliation for me blocking him. And knowing how he solves fights, he's never going to unblock me. He didn't care that it was such a blow to how much of a friend he was to me that he just ripped out my heart. He was just "goodbye...I guess. You were just too depressing to me blah blah blah i'm not gonna be sad or anything yada yada yada."
My best friend here on campus is Cameron. He and I got into a huge fight the other day and when I walked out of the area we were in, I thought we'd never see each other again. I sent him an e-mail anyway. Turns out he was actually planning on VISITING me to apologize. And, well, I'm actually kind of glad we had that fight cuz I found out a lot of things about him and he found out a lot of things about me that not only cleared things up but also brought us together more. I'd just, not expected that to happen. Cuz, not just with Alec, but I'd had a lot of the same problems with Kim in the past. Except Kim was virtually my only friend in the area I lived in at the time, and whenever we got into a fight, she would go live life with her other friends until I "came back" and wouldn't do a damn thing...while I was alone and miserable all the time. I thought the story would illustrate the kinds of things I thought about during those times, and the memories were brought back by Alec just throwing me away like garbage. My girlfriend said "give me a number. I'll call him and get things fixed; I know you better than he does." But I said "no...I don't want to be friends with someone that will so easily drop a friendship." And I meant that.

But back to my first question...any of you feel that way ever?

 

[Wang Chung]

Ive lost some good friends for one reason or another. After thinking about it, i didn't really see any reason why i should say friends with them in particular over anyone else. That is, i see friendships and relationships as purely coincidental. I mean, although there is some common ground that must be established for them to happen, it may be as minute as you both being college students (that is to say if you are not particularly aversive to people). When these relationships end, if they do, the only thing i need to be sure of, is that i was ultimately not unreasonable in concluding them.