Regarding the titled topic: "So how long is TOO LONG?” It probably depends on the girl but in my case my lady is feeling pain when I’m very aroused and drilling her really good, she always says, “Ouch it hurts! Your too big!” and tries to push my hips back with both hands. Keep in mind that when I’m at my best I’m 8 inches long. In addition we split up now and she’s now with a guy that has a smaller package. So I guess it can be true that you can be too big for some women.