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Hello everyone.
The topic has come about quite often on this forum as to whether or not to tell your wife/girlfriend about your doing Penis Enlargement, and on why is it that some women react badly to it.
Some guys support the idea that we shouldn't tell, others say that we should. Some say that we should keep on doing whatever we want to do regardless of what our partner thinks, since it is our body, while others, like me, believe that the relationship should come first and that penis size comes second. So we have opinions for all kinds of tastes, and following those opinions has lead to both successful and unsuccessful cases of "Penis Enlargement telling".
Speaking for myself, I believe I've been very lucky with this, as my girlfriend is very straightforward and doesn't have the tendency to over react things, she keeps it simple and usualy takes things as they are. Based on this, as I was replying to a post on another thread, I had a sort of epiphany on this subject.
I believe the question of how our partner reacts to us doing Penis Enlargement revolves around one "simple" thing: trust (it could be "confidence"; in my language, Portuguese, we use the same word for both meanings, so bare with me
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Trust in what? It could be lots of things.
Maybe she doesn't trust you enough and thinks that you're on a hunt for some pussy on the side?
Maybe she doesn't trust herself and starts to think your trying to enlarge your penis because her pussy isn't tight enough?
Maybe she doesn't trust this "Penis Enlargement bullshit" and fears that you're going to damage your penis?
Maybe she fears it will get too big and make sex painful?
Maybe she feels guilty and is wondering what she might have done/said to make you think you needed to enlarge your penis?
There could be lots of deeper meanings/feelings/possibilities involved in it.
However, I do believe that trust (or the lack of it) is the main culprit.
If she trusts that you are a faithful man, she won't be jealous about the possibility that other women may even slightly glance at your bulging crotch.
If she trusts in herself (i.e., self esteem about her body) she'll know you love her pussy just the way it is.
If she trusts your judgement, she'll feel comfortable about you doing it because she'll know you woudln't harm yourself.
If she trusts your judgement and her judgement, she'll know you both will be able to tell when it's enough, so as to keep sex pleasureable.
If she trusts herself and she trustes in your self esteem, she'll know you're not doing this because of anything she might of said about your penis.
So how do we get her confidence up?
Well, the obvious and foremost option is to just tell her. Answer all her questions. Put her mind at ease. Tell her it will all be alright, etc., etc., etc.
This might not be enough though, in some cases. And when telling her isn't enough, then I think the only alternative is to actually show her that all you said was true.
It's as simple as this – we are all here because our penis size was fucking up with our self esteem. Well, girls have self esteem issues too. So it is our job to make them feel comfortable with us in every situation. We need to make them feel like we're in control of this. We need to make them feel that we still love them. We need to make them know that our penis is perfectly safe with Penis Enlargement (mind to perform your exercises correctly). We need to snow them that they are the only woman we care about.
The bottom line is this, it takes action, not just words. We need to match our behaviour to our speech.
I hope this made sense.
The topic has come about quite often on this forum as to whether or not to tell your wife/girlfriend about your doing Penis Enlargement, and on why is it that some women react badly to it.
Some guys support the idea that we shouldn't tell, others say that we should. Some say that we should keep on doing whatever we want to do regardless of what our partner thinks, since it is our body, while others, like me, believe that the relationship should come first and that penis size comes second. So we have opinions for all kinds of tastes, and following those opinions has lead to both successful and unsuccessful cases of "Penis Enlargement telling".
Speaking for myself, I believe I've been very lucky with this, as my girlfriend is very straightforward and doesn't have the tendency to over react things, she keeps it simple and usualy takes things as they are. Based on this, as I was replying to a post on another thread, I had a sort of epiphany on this subject.
I believe the question of how our partner reacts to us doing Penis Enlargement revolves around one "simple" thing: trust (it could be "confidence"; in my language, Portuguese, we use the same word for both meanings, so bare with me
)Trust in what? It could be lots of things.
Maybe she doesn't trust you enough and thinks that you're on a hunt for some pussy on the side?
Maybe she doesn't trust herself and starts to think your trying to enlarge your penis because her pussy isn't tight enough?
Maybe she doesn't trust this "Penis Enlargement bullshit" and fears that you're going to damage your penis?
Maybe she fears it will get too big and make sex painful?
Maybe she feels guilty and is wondering what she might have done/said to make you think you needed to enlarge your penis?
There could be lots of deeper meanings/feelings/possibilities involved in it.
However, I do believe that trust (or the lack of it) is the main culprit.
If she trusts that you are a faithful man, she won't be jealous about the possibility that other women may even slightly glance at your bulging crotch.
If she trusts in herself (i.e., self esteem about her body) she'll know you love her pussy just the way it is.
If she trusts your judgement, she'll feel comfortable about you doing it because she'll know you woudln't harm yourself.
If she trusts your judgement and her judgement, she'll know you both will be able to tell when it's enough, so as to keep sex pleasureable.
If she trusts herself and she trustes in your self esteem, she'll know you're not doing this because of anything she might of said about your penis.
So how do we get her confidence up?
Well, the obvious and foremost option is to just tell her. Answer all her questions. Put her mind at ease. Tell her it will all be alright, etc., etc., etc.
This might not be enough though, in some cases. And when telling her isn't enough, then I think the only alternative is to actually show her that all you said was true.
It's as simple as this – we are all here because our penis size was fucking up with our self esteem. Well, girls have self esteem issues too. So it is our job to make them feel comfortable with us in every situation. We need to make them feel like we're in control of this. We need to make them feel that we still love them. We need to make them know that our penis is perfectly safe with Penis Enlargement (mind to perform your exercises correctly). We need to snow them that they are the only woman we care about.
The bottom line is this, it takes action, not just words. We need to match our behaviour to our speech.
I hope this made sense.
