Whats up guys. I'm a newcomer here & I have a big issue...I can't get it to work!

Whats up guys. I'm a newcomer here & I have a big issue...I can't get it to work!

I'm in my 20s and I'm still a virgin (I've done everything except penetration). My biggest fear was prematurely getting a girl pregnant. I've recently gotten over this fear & went out there bought myself some condoms...and I can't penetrate! I'm not sure exactly what the problem is, but when I try to penetrate women my penis seems to do a number of unusual things.

1) My penis bends/curves. I don't believe that it is "peyronie's disease" because there is no pain and this bend/curve isn't dramatic.

2) My penis doesn't exactly stand up at a 90 degree angle from my body. It stands up a little bit, but the head of my penis still kind of faces the floor when I'm fully erect.

3) The "base" of my penis isn't strong. When I attempt to penetrate it seems as if my penis gives in too easily.

4) Sometimes It doesn't remain consistently erect...It may stay erect for 5-10 mins, then soften up for a few mins before it gets back erect for another 5-10 mins and repeat and repeat and repeat. At other times my penis can stay erect for a long while.

I just want to have sex. I'm a man with needs, and I have women with needs...this is hindering my sexual life. ANY HELP? WHAT TYPE OF DOCTOR DO I NEED TO SEE?

EDIT: As a child, I would hump the floor A LOT while my penis was erected to ejaculate as opposed to traditional masturbating.

Looks like you have poor EQ ( erection quality ) if your dick bends when you're trying to penetrate.It's not rock hard like it should be.I would recommend you do some kegels,it will improve your EQ , also have a healthy lifestyle,no junk food,no bad food,only healthy food,only drink water,do cardio.If you take care of your body,your body will look/feel good too.Diet can have a major impact on EQ.And try to stay away from ����/masturbation,i know from personal experience it will kill your EQ..limit yourself to 1-2 times a week for ����/masturbation.

If you have trouble with premature ejaculation try edging.If you have the money try and buy a flashlight ( basically a plastic pussy ) and you can edge with that,this way you're going to get used to the sensation both mentally and physically and you will last for hours in bed.

What's a kegel?---> Penis Enlargement :: Kegel

Edging is basically masturbation until you feel the need to cum,then you stop,wait for a minute or so until the sensation goes away,then start again.Repeat.This will make you last longer in bed

Also i think you need lube lol .Lube your dick up and it will be 10x easier to get in.Good luck man.

What ChilDsh said, and this too ..

There's a couple of main mechanisms for erections and they need to work the right way in sequence. What you describe sounds exactly like the first phase doing its job ok (dilation of arteries), but then the second phase (endoplasmic nitric oxide production by endothelial cells etc, vasodilates tissues and occludes outwards bloodflow) not taking over to make it longer-lasting.

There aren't going to be a lot of possible causes for that .. at your age.

Not being completely into (moving forwards with sex, mentally) .. can be one of the reasons .. and it sounds like that's one of the problems. Ironically the best fix for this is either a string of Successes (builds confidence/rids trepidation*), or 110% being in-synch with the chick as a personality and as genetics ("major histocompatibility complex", it means your genes and her genes would make amazing babies. If you ever run across someone you get hard just being around and think about fcking them 100 times per day, that's a great MHC match going on.)

*trepidation ... the body doesn't care to work in contrary modes. It won't be scared -and- not scared at the same time. A stressful situation (for the purposes here, I mean the exact Same situation) can be experienced in different ways. It can be experienced as Fear, or it can be experienced as Excitement. The difference being just the way you're looking at it.

If you feel you're not really into it, or not really up to it, then you can experience an otherwise great and awesome stimulus not as excitement but as Fear. Then your brain's older/simpler core doesn't think 'hey we need to bang this smoking hot chick', .. it thinks 'oh shit, we're being chased by a bear or something' .. and the last thing on its mind is giving you a strong erection. (At least for most people, there could be some masochistic ursaphiles out there who would be into that sexually, it's a big world.)

Another reason (and all of these could be a factor in your problem ... 33% each or whatever, some trepidation, some environmental, some nutritional) could be phthlates toxins in your food and water and hygiene products. Phthlates are endocrine-disruptive xenoestrogens that mess with your dude hormones. Imagine eating/drinking the wrong things from the wrong containers and then your hormone levels performing like you're a fat 50 yr old guy. Not awesome. Look up Phthlate Detox. Any authoritative answer will involve what all to avoid, and to take in sulfur-bearing vegetables, egg yolks, and a product/substance called N-Acetylcysteine, or N-Acetyl-L-Cysteine, or NAC, for Glutathione production in your body).

Last thing .. (look at the other things above. Even though this next thing can have enough effect to 'fix' your problem without addressing the other matters above, at your age you shouldn't really 'need' these. You don't need a fix unless something somewhere is wrong. Look into the the others things too.) ... Nitric Oxide precursors and Lecithin..

There are a lot of N.O. precursors these days. Most work on an increase of cell-loading and serum volume of an Arginine variant. These work alright, but don't persist as long in the body, or get stored ready for use as much in the kidneys, as other products ... so I'll skip the more obvious (but inferior) options and say look into some Citrulline Mallate and get a tub or two of it. As a "2:1 Complex" if you can find it, it's better that way but for some reason 2:1 is getting harder to find. Have 2 or 3 grams a couple of times per day. Some people are different but somewhere two to fourteen days you'll get a big boost in erection quality from this. The larger available store of N.O. precursors can jumpstart you into the second phase of erections where you occlude and maintain instead of switching between almost hard but then too soft.

The other thing is Sunflower Lecithin. (Sunflower, not 'Soy'.) Lecithin is an aspect of many erection and ejaculation formulas, but I think we've missed that it's the MAJOR component of them. It's my considered opinion that anyone with a dick is Insane if they're not on Lecithin. Effortless super-hard erections that last for hours, spontaneous erections like being 15 yrs old again, it helps rid the body of endocrine-disruptive toxins, used by every cell in your entire body, improves memory via neurotransmitter production, about 1/3rd of your brain is made out of it for that matter, i could go on .. but .. Erections, seriously. -- Get Powder. Capsules are a waste of money. Two or three tablespoons per day. Some people 'don't like the taste', but I have every possible supertaster and supersmeller gene active .. if anything tastes bad I'll be the one going "Bleaahh!" and I just dump the stuff on my tongue and wash it down with water no problem.

Summing up .. what ChilDsh said, don't overporn, don't overmasturbate, -- and stay away from phthlates as an ongoing habit, and do a round or two of detoxing to blast them out of your body. Probably go on Sunflower Lecithin, and maybe for a while also Citrulline Mallate (2:1 Complex if findable). And get your head (pun?) in the game. -- Take in 'Stress' as an opportunity for Excitement rather than Anxiety. That';; change your entire life. Once you've had some successes at sex, your confidence is going to go waaay up, and with it your feelings of dominance as well, that'll overcome erection-spoiling jitters.

ThatDudeDouble0, Welcome to the Brotherhood! You have gotten some great advice I just wanted to ask a few additional questions. Are you able to get a 100% erection when masturbating by yourself? Have you started any PE yet? What is your starting size?

Sounds like you're psyching yourself out honestly. Between the fear and anxiety about not getting erect you could be panicking yourself out of an erection. Could also be you aren't that attracted to the girl. Demisexual people can't or don't enjoy sex with people they don't feel deeply connected to. Could also be the yips from it being your first time. My first time I went for two hours and still didn't climax. Everyone is different in how they react to it the first time. Just relax and realize it's not really a special case.

Unless you have some serious medical issues, it's probably in your head. Relax. It's just sex.

Longth;666269 said:

. Relax. It's just sex.

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Don't be afraid, its just pussy XD. On a side note I think I'm one of those demigods you spoke of, or I hate everyone.

templnite;666279 said:

Don't be afraid, its just pussy XD. On a side note I think I'm one of those demigods you spoke of, or I hate everyone.

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Demisexual. Humongous difference.

And nobody hates mr t. So just stop.: p

Longth;666284 said:

Demisexual.

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Demeaning? :0

Longth;666284 said:

. Humongous

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Try edging:

You masturbate essentially without ejaculating, do that for 30 minutes then keep progressing to 1 hour.

Try Jelqing: https://www.pegym.com/penis-exercises/how-does-jelqing-work-jelq-techniques-jelquing

Do this while erect.

templnite;666288 said:

Demeaning? :0

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Delightful

Was going to add something else, but for the heck of it (and maybe kindof as a joke) I tried the search engine ... and It Worked! .. wth??

So anyway, instead of trying to make a summation of this concept, here's a link to the original post .. scroll down to where I'm describing the "Uli-Dip". (And some important psychological et cetera.) Enjoy!

http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/...e-anxiety-on-new-girls.html?highlight=uli-dip

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Yes I am

templnite;666289 said:

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What in the hayle. MAd max?

templnite;666334 said:

Just say it, and there will be an end to the horror. There has been too much violence too much pain, just say that thing, and I spare yur live

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Looks like you don't have an issue getting your member up.

I hate it when I miss references in reference humor.

Almost as much as I hate being the reference in reference humor.

So pretty much not at all, but it made you think.

ThatDudeDouble0;666063 said:

Whats up guys. I'm a newcomer here & I have a big issue...I can't get it to work!

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I hope we helped you, please chime back in when you get a chance. We want to make sure you are doing alright.

Yeah as DLD said, also let us know what you'll be considering on doing or trying out and give us the updated news on how everything goes.

Longth;666341 said:

I hate it when I miss references in reference humor.

Almost as much as I hate being the reference in reference humor.

So pretty much not at all, but it made you think.

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what are you talking about ?