What a good way to handle the Phone?

bigbutnottoo

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Any good phone tips? For my situation its someone I know that moved away and I got the number as she was leaving. There was a situation going on, but nothing serious. But I decided to keep in touch. We were emailing (any email tips also appreciated)for awhile but I havent heard from her in a bit and I want to initiate phone contact. this may sound kindof stupid I guess (and please save any judgments as far as if it sounds like I am unrealistically into this girl; I know I am...I just want strategy, not value opinions). The deal is yeah, i am pretty much into this chick and wouldnt mind keeping the windows open.
 

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There are lots of good phone, and email tips in "Double Your Dating" download it off of Kazaa.. Here's something else for you.

"The Art of Phone Openers"

Alright, there is a lot of debate amongst my fellow players on how you should treat this whole phone game, particularly how to open a good conversation and generate some interest. So I would like to share some techniques with you that work rather well, if I do say so myself.

Before I begin, the most important thing to understand is that the phone/email/IM are all just tools that you use to meet her in person, so keep the convo interesting but don’t ramble on for more than say 10-15 minutes or you have already wittled away valuable conversation time MINUS the kino! Your goal here is to get her live and in the flesh.

Now, the biggest question is how do you initiate? Granted if this girl already digs you, you can pretty much say anything as long as you don’t make an ass out of yourself, and you will still be able to close for a meeting. A lot of times, if the IL is already there, you can just call, fluff for a bit and politely invite her to go out with you. (yawn!) But how can you make your phone presence more interesting and memorable enough to get her dripping with anticipation for that meeting?

Personally I like to catch girls off guard right from the start and pretend I don’t know them when I call. i do a little role-playing, throw in some C&F and they end up loving me for it! Some examples? Sure.

Calling the Circus Girl
I met this girl at a party and opened her by a simple "How's it goin?" We were fluff talking about our careers. I transitioned the convo into dreams and ambitions. Found out she was studying to join the circus of all things and she was into trapeze, juggling, the whole 9 yards. She was a very interesting person to say the least, and VERY hot! The music was a little loud so I took her to another room where I could lower my tone into "mack mode". We had a great convo for a while, but her ride was leaving so we had to part, but not before I got her number . A few days later I did something I would normally not try, but the context of the whole circus theme was perfect. I used my laptop to record myself making monkey noises and dubbed my voice over itself so it sounded like a room full of chimps (you’ll see why in a minute) Afterwards I rang her while the tape of monkey sounds played softly in the background and my opener was something like this:

CIRCUSGIRL: Hello?
ME: Uh, yes Hi! Um, I am looking for a girl who can show me how to juggle monkeys..
CIRCUSGIRL: Who’s this? (already laughing a little)
ME: (covering the phone) Bobo! Put that down NOW!! (Uncovering the phone) Oh man, I’m so sorry about that. You see, I have these three monkeys over here and I am a little short on cash these days so I figure if I can just get this skill down pat, I can make some decent money on the street with my monkey juggling.
CIRCUSGIRL: (Cracking up) Who IS this???
ME: (Long Pause) Oh damn, I am offended now. You don’t recognize the smooth sound of
my voice?
(bold part said in deep, sexy tone.)

CIRCUSGIRL: OMG, ...Fingers??!

She almost died laughing when I played the monkey recording backwards for her. What a great laugh too, so contagious I even started to crack up! She was excited to hear from me and actually showed up early to our little get-together the following evening. Sounds ridiculous doesn't it? But it worked! See how I let the mystery and humor build in this convo until she was DYING to know who I was? I find this way more fun than "Hi. Do you remember me, etc etc?"

This is an extreme example, but it can be toned down and applied universally if you learn to sniff out the context of a situation. For example..

Calling HB-Dancer
I met this other chick on the street. Opened her by asking where I could find a cologne shop . (Girls not only love to give directions, but are taken by a man who is not afraid to ask for them!) She showed me the way and we walked together for a bit. I asked where she was headed. She told me she was going to Dance class. Turns out she is a dance instructor. I was like “Cool!” We started vibing on the whole dance tip and I told her how much I love music and for me dancing is like the ultimate meditiation. I had the most fun talking to her. She put me on to where some of the lesser known clubs are at and I gave her a pen and paper to write down the addresses of the clubs with directions. She volunteered her number at the very bottom and said I should call her for a dancer’s night out. I thanked her, gave her a kiss on the cheek and bounced. That week was hectic, so I didn’t call her back until the following weekend. This is how it went down.

HBDANCER: Hello?
ME: Hi! I am wondering if you can help me out here. I am looking for a great dance teacher to show me a few moves, could you recommend anyone special?
HBDANCER: (Laughing)
ME:Yeah, you see I already know how to dance a little but would like to learn some more ... sensual moves that would require some private lessons..
HBDANCER: (Playing along) Oh really? How private are we talking here?
ME: Intimately private!
She finally caves
HBDANCER: Who is this?
ME: Why, darling it’s the man of your dreams! (pause) Well..that is if the man of your dreams occasionally gets lost and can’t find his way to the perfume shop..
HBDANCERGIRL: (All Excited) Fingersssss!

You get the point, keep them on their toes, play with them, tease them and right when the vibe is at its nicest, you come off with “Sayyyy, what are you doing right now?” she answers with whatever “Well, I am ten times more exciting than that so why don’t you meet up with me? I am heading to XYZ in a little while and I think it would be fun if we linked up” If she is busy, close her for another night. But when done correctly, you are almost guaranteed to get a meeting with this approach!

Final Thoughts
An important thing to keep in mind when you try this out is that it works best on chicks who:

1. You have just met
2. There is an existing theme for you to use call back humor. (context is everything!)

Obviously this technique only works the first time and your followups should be more casual, but still with the same light-hearted, fun vibe . Get her to laugh and right at the high point, tell her you'd love to chat more, but have to go (your friends are waiting for you). This is when you propose a plan to continue the fun later in person . Always leave her wanting more! Don't drag out your goodbye's either. A simple "bye" followed by *click* will make her state change more obvious. Here she was having a great time with you and now you have vanished as unexpectedly as you appeared!

Ahh, the joys of mystery, the power intrigue!

When you finally do get her in person, keep that charm flowing. Remember to be yourself...not the fake scared YOU that anxiety/society has created, but the REAL YOU, The one who is comfortable in his skin and loves to have a good time. You...DO like to have a good time...don’t you?
 

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Thanks for that. As far as Kazaa though, I dont use any of those P2P programs because they put all that scumware and spyware and messed up my last computer.
 

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Originally posted by bigbutnottoo
Thanks for that. As far as Kazaa though, I dont use any of those P2P programs because they put all that scumware and spyware and messed up my last computer.
Get Kazaa Lite, spyware and adware free. ;) I have 3 programs on my computer to find and kill spyware:

Ad-Aware, Spybot, and CWShredder

-ItsElectric
 

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