Trying To Avoid A Sticky Situation...

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It was my ex-girlfriend's birthday recently. We've been broken up since July and I haven't seen her since then. For the record, I broke things off with her, but that's another story.

We recently started talking again on a friendly basis. So like I said, it was her birthday this past Monday and I was talking to her on the phone late at night. She was alone, and no one gave her any birthday cake, so... thinking with my dick, I offered to bring her some birthday cake at 3am. She had no objections to the idea, so basically this was a mutual encounter. We both kinda knew what was gonna go down that night, and we both wanted it.

So I drove over to her house in the middle of the night. It was good to see her, she looked good. We had been talking, but we haven't seen each other in almost 5 months. We had our cake...and yup, we ate it too.

The sex was really good. Nothing fancy. We only did like two different positions, but it was just some real good, real juicy down-home FUCKIN'. It was like I never left her, we just clicked. But that's the thing... the sex was always pretty good. I admit, I'd get bored and frustrated sometimes with her, but we always had great natural sexual chemistry together. We fucked till it got light out. I think she almost cried while we were going at it. Damn emotions.

I thought to myself I'm making the wrong decision, that I shouldn't fuck her... but man, my dick was rock-hard the whole drive over there in anticipation of what was to come. And I still do have feelings for her... she was probably the deepest relationship I've ever experienced. Yeah, she definitely was.

The thing is, I don't really want to be in a relationship right now. And we have a track record of breaking up and getting back together, so I know that now that since I've already fucked her again, our lives will slowly start converging more and more till we're back together, and this is not what I want to happen. I don't want to hurt her again, nor do I want to be hurt either.

I thought that fucking her again may rekindle something within me, but it hasn't really...it all feels like it was a dream. I guess I don't really feel anything because she is not completely lost to me. She's still a part of my life, in a way. So I don't feel my usual feelings of "pining" from her absence. We still keep in touch.

I'm not willing to get into another relationship at this point. I kind of like living on my own time and doing what I want... fucking who I want... we haven't had any kind of deep discussion about what went down or what it could mean, but I know there's something there, just waiting to show itself soon enough.

I want to "play the field" so to speak. My career is starting to go places I want it to go, and with it will be more girls, and more opportunities for new experiences. I don't want to pass that up. And it's not like I want to have her too along with everything else. I'm not trying to "get over". We just had a connection that night. Two old friends. Two old lovers who know how to scratch each other's itch. I hope that's where it stays.

For instance, there is a girl in my life right now(who I also used to have sex with, but we were never an item) that I would like to pursue more with. I am very attracted to her and would like to win her affections again, but if I continue to stay in touch with my ex, that will fuck things up considerably.

I don't know. I just have this feeling that my ex and I's one night of birthday sex will continue to snowball until she says, "I'm so glad we're back together honey." I do not want this to happen, but my ex is so goddamn irresistable and she oozes this sexuality that has a major effect on me. My feelings for her still run deep to this day, but I cannot be anyone's "boyfriend" right now. It wouldn't be fair to initiate things with her again, I've already hurt her many times over, and I've almost forgotten just how unhappy I was when we were together that it makes it weigh heavy on my heart.

Should I initiate some kind of dialogue with my ex girl right now, or should I just wait and make sure I don't fall into the same patterns again? I wouldn't mind being her friend at all, it's just with the sex, things could get real tangled emotionally...and not just for her, but also for me. She means too much to me to just regard her as a "fuck buddy"....there's too much history between us for that. Besides, I think she's worth more to me than just a hot, wet orifice... but I cannot give myself back to her... at least not at this point in my life.

I'm not trying to keep her on the side and lead her on. I expect her to go on living, and if she has another partner, I expect her to go on screwing him. Us getting together that night was just a mutual night of fun, yet bittersweet for the nostalgia of it all. I really did miss her, but I can't let this go any further.
 
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Dude,
Quit tying your knickers in a bunch. You have to figure out what you want. Not what she wants, but exactly what you want. In one sentence or less. Then, when she calls, if she calls, you be honest and tell her your one sentence. She will either say OK, or No. Either way you are not using her, being dishonest, or being rude.

Until you get some sign from her that it meant more than just a happy birthday screw, you are just nellying over assumptions and guesses. Quit being so in touch with your feminine side! Men fuck women whenever we can, it's what we do. Never apologize or obsess about it.
 

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Fuck buddies my friend, fuck buddies. You've gotta learn how to not really give a shit.

:rocker:

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Yeah, I guess you're right. I just got laid... I should be happy!
 

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I think you should tell her that exactly what you are thinking, just like if you were typing to a bunch of guys on a Penis Enlargement message board. I remember having a GF that I was with for years and we brokeup and got back many times. The last time we just basically had this really long talk about whether to get back together, be friends with benefits , or not see each other at all. It was hard (pause.) but the best thing was to not see each other at all.

If you have a history of having an actual real relationship with someone on a certain level, I dont really think its possible to just go to an occasional physical thing without losing your mind.
 

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Yeah, I don't think I could be "fuck buddies" with a girl I was in love with. The desire to get laid is strong, but I'm not heartless, either. Plus, I think I hold her in too high regards to just shrug her off as an occassional piece of ass. I could do that with girls I never loved, but this is different. Sure, I could try it, but it would backfire. As long as things stay friendly, I'll be her friend. If I end up fucking her regularly, each time we do it will bring us closer and closer to what we were: in a relationship together.

It's kind of funny, but if you're bored of your girl and want the sex to get better, break up with her for a while. For some reason they always put more effort into sex after you're not together anymore. It's like they're putting on a show to trick you into taking them back. Then if you fall for it and get back with them, it turns back into the same old boring shit.
 
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I was in your exact same position a few years ago. Your story could be my story, but I continued to give in to the temptation. Of course she was giving into the temptation as well, but somehow the guy is always the one to blame.

Anyway, we dated for close to four years and were off and on for the last year plus another year of fooling around after we officially broke up. The break-up was hell and a very long story...

I felt exactly the same way you do. I was in love with her when were together, I cared about her immensely and did not want her to be my fuck buddy. I also did not want to get into a relationship with her, becasue everytime we tried it blew up in our faces.

I reccomend avoiding the hookups, espescially if emotion is still involved. Eventually somebody is going to get hurt, and your friendship could possibly end. What sucks for me is that my friendship with my ex is now alomst non-existent, and we run with the same group of friends so we are always around it each other.

This is a sticky situation. Just be honest with yourself and her and do what you know is right. She's worth more to you than a piece of ass, and you can get a piece of ass from just about anywhere and it will be emotion free.
 

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Well... it begins...

Looks like I'll be fucking my ex again. Maybe, but I wouldn't totally rule it out. Besides, she doesn't have a gun to my head...I WANNA fuck her. I'm still attracted to her very much. She's got this fucking magnetic power over me I cannot resist.

Anyway... I have been doing some hardcore Penis Enlargement lately and I might have some evidence of what I've been up to still showing on my dick (like discoloration, abrasions, etc..). Not to mention that my dick is bigger, yet she hasn't seemed to notice that! *grumble grumble*

If she notices my Penis Enlargement battle scars...should I just tell her I do Penis Enlargement? I don't want to, especially since the change ain't all that dramatic and I wish she would take notice on her own.
 
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If she says anything (and I am sure she won't), tell her a girl you picked up over the weekend was into some pretty kinky stuff that was a lot of fun but bruised you up a bit. Then clam up. Competition drives women mad, and the thought that she might not be as much fun could lead to even better sex. At the very least it tells her you have a life besides her and that is much more attractive to women than needy losers...
 

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While I do agree with you PirateSteve, I don't think I could do that. Even if it were true, I think saying something like that would hurt her feelings way more than it would inspire her to give me the fuck of my life. She most likely wouldn't even fuck me at all after that.

If it were the other way around, I know I wouldn't particularly want to fuck her after hearing something like that. I'd probably just wanna kill myself. Heh heh.

I do know what you mean though... jealousy, if controlled, can really keep things alive in the bedroom. There's a great article about just that topic at yohimbe.org

Too bad I don't handle jealousy all that well.

Besides, I thought I was gonna fuck her today, but I ended up not being able to see her. So I don't have to worry about my dick's trampled appearance. I'm "quietly confident" that I'll be mushing my face into her pussy within a week's time, though.

I'll keep ya posted.
 

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My ex dropped by my house today to wish me a Happy Thanksgiving. I never could have expected it. I woke up out of a dead sleep to knocking and there she was... making a pit-stop on her way to see her family.

Long story short, we fooled around. Nothing major, I finger-fucked her and she wanked me off. She said. "Your dick feels good!" I wonder what she meant by that exactly...Good like what? Hmmm.. good like bigger, I wonder?

Since we didn't actually have sex, I couldn't "test" my cock properly on her pussy. But ya know, my cock did feel bigger (girthier) while she was jerkin' it. And when I would look down at the action, it looked bigger (longer) to me. I dunno. Sure was a good nut, though.
 

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