The reason for homosexual urges among straight men!

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Although I am lucky to have found and married a woman I can consider my soul mate, I have always been intrigued with my own mild bisexual curiosity as well as that professed by others. I have done alot of soul searching and research into this phenomenon and I think I have come up with a reason that this tendency exists. I think it will set alot of minds at ease if you approach my theory with an open mind. It may even make you feel empowered and liberated at long last from the lingering feelings of guilt our society likes to instill in us.

I have always felt a need for male companionship. I don't say this in the way you might infer. I am not talking about having someone's dick in my ass. That has never happened and never will and I am not the least bit interested in it. Nevertheless, I have always tended to form very close, intimate male friendships. It has always been a need that I have had. I love women, and I am fiercely devoted to My Woman, but I have always had to have a buddy, too. I recently lost a close friend, and I really miss him. I miss that male intimacy. I feel a lonely ache if I do not have a buddy to horse around with and, at times, tangle with in a good natured way. I think many men feel that way. I don't think it is even strictly sexual. I think there is something in us that longs for that thing we lost long ago.

We evolved in close-knit tribal communities, of which the males alone ventured out to hunt. They ventured out into a dangerous world, not alone but in small groups, and a bond was forged between them in their struggles...an intimacy. Did they fuck each other? Of course they did-- and it tempered their bond. That is why homosexual behavior exists and wasn't evolved out of us. It existed and still does as a survival mechanism to keep those warrior-hunters we once were alive, for who would you risk your life for the most? A stranger...or your fellow warrior/lover...a man you not only hunt with in a dangerous enviroment, but maybe fuck as well when it is dark and cold and you are far from hut and wife. And who would risk his life for yours so that you can make it safely back home to mate your wife and father the next generation? Why, the man you rubbed cocks with in secret the night before. That's the man who would fight a bear to save you! It is so simple and makes perfect sense! Homosexual behavior is not an abberation that should have evolved out of us, but a survival mechanism that helped us stay alive.

A light went off in my head when I realized what this longing I felt stemmed from, and it gave me some peace with it and my own "conflicting" needs. That need is there in us because it is an evolutionary trait. We are not confused men who don't know what we want. All men have, somewhere in our genetics, this old hunter bonding programming. It is probably also influenced by our testosterone cycles, as I have noticed that my need for male companionship seems to crest and fall. It is probably also why we are repulsed by the swishy guys, as they would never be allowed in a hunting party and would be required to stay at the village with the women. We sense their weakness, and know instinctively that they would not be able to protect us physically if danger struck! I'm sorry if that offends any swishy men here, but I think it holds true.

And why would the sight of an erect cock arouse a so-called "pure straight"? Why do you look at a dick and sometimes get a little bit of a wood, no matter how much you like pussy? It is a symbol of virility and strength, something that has to be preserved and kept safe for the good of the tribe so that life can be continued. That is why our dick pics garner such attention. We want to see each others cocks, because we measure virility by size of cock and balls. Who are the most respected members of this forum? Not necessarily the smartest guys, not the best looking, or richest...it is the men with the biggest, hardest, most virile and masculine cocks. Guys like DLD, Supra, Stillwantmore, Redzulu. In an earlier thread, I asked all you men who you would fuck if you had to choose, and those were the names that kept coming up. We're all size queens, because we know subconsciously that the biggest, strongest cocks are the most likely to impregnate the women and continue the tribe.

In the modern world, we are expected to stand alone, without our fellow warriors/hunters at our side. That evolutionary need to bond with other males is still there, but is not being fulfilled. I feel it as an ache sometimes. Sometimes it's not so bad, but it's always there. There's something a little wild in me.

Don't feel guilty about this need, guys. Don't be scared that you are gay because Electric's dick got you hard or one time you downloaded a gay porno clip off Kazaa and jacked off to it. No matter what society tells us we are supposed to be, we are Alpha Males, we are descended from the strongest, meanest, HORNIEST hunters in the tribe. Don't fear that you might one day "switch sides" because that is not what it is about. You are not one of those weak brothers who stay at home and tan and sew skins with the girls. Your genes came straight down from the bad-asses who fucked their women silly and then went off to hunt some mammoths or bisons, and I pretty much guarantee that after a few days in the bush, those horny mothers were eyeing each other...and it helped keep them alive. The one who didn't was the one who let the tiger eat his companion, and the one who wouldn't give it up was the one that nobody ran back for when the bear was after them and he fell and broke his ankle. Laugh if you want, but if you are open-minded and honest, you know its true.

I am lucky in that I have come to this insight. We are living in a society that represses this need. It all stems back to repressive religious doctrine, designed to seperate the common man from his brother, trap him in a little house with a little wife and little kids, and suck his money and soul away into gilded church coffers! How could otherwise free men buck off the yoke of the church if they are seperated and weakened by guilt? As you can tell, I am not much for organized religion (or mind-slavery, whatever you want to call it) although I do believe in God. It just seems pretty obvious that our current society, as well as most of the civilized societies of the past, were designed to seperate us from forming close bonds. I suppose we are easier to control that way.

I am 1/8 Cherokee, so the savage is not too far back in my family tree. My Great Grandmother was full blooded. Maybe you think this is all a load of hogwash, but I can assure you that most of the males in my family are a little bit wild because of it.

How then to deal with these feelings? I have found that it helps me to be around other men. To open up and let myself form intimate male friendships. I have never been sexual with any of my male friends, although there has been, at times, quite a bit of joking and innuendo. I have, in fact, even been offered blow jobs twice...quite seriously...by totally straight, normal guys. I did turn them down, with a laugh, and don't regret it, but the closeness helps fill that need for companionship. I also stay very physically active. My wife says I'm a workaholic. I am naturally a big guy, not real athletic, but I am 6'3, strong as a horse and work like 60 to 70 hours a week. I used to go to the gym, but without a buddy it just wasn't very fun. I am interested in martial arts and have had some training in aikido. I am also currently obsessed with sword fighting. I would love to train in the art of swordsmanship. Does that sound like a typical "closeted gay guy", of which I have been accused of being? I like to think that I am just more open and honest than most about issues that make other men squirm in discomfort.

So what am I saying? Am I advocating everyone going out and doing their best friend in the rear end? Not at all! I just wanted to share this insight into a part of the male psyche that causes some of us such distress and is so denigrated in our society. I'm just saying, don't sweat it! If you ever saw your fishing buddy pissing over the side of the boat and felt your peter twitch, or popped a chub spotting your gym partner, don't be ashamed. Just remember that there's a horny little primate in all of it.
 

Mr.Winkle

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Kong, that was an awesome read. I know the feeling for male companionship. I miss not having a buddy to wrestle with and going to the gym by yourself isn't nearly as good as having a friend come along with you. Your observations are dead on. The hunter theory makes perfect sense. Actually that whole scenario is still alive and kicking in the Borneos. Men there have a wife and a husband of sorts.
 

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Excellent article! I miss having someone to hang around with... last night on ICQ I was whining to a friend and I said that don't have any friends here in town, all my friends are on the internet now. She was like: "So I'm not your friend, just an internet friend?" Man, women, all I was saying that I wanted someone to hang with..
 

loco

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bud I like the male companionship...like good ole buds to go and hang out with etc. nothing like butt darts or crap like that. I don't understand getting a wood from looking at a guys dong or crazy stuff like that. let alone think tribal hunters did some back door pokein' as well. is it possible? yep. did it happen...maybe. do I think it happened...nope. I believe they probably broke out the 5 finger stroker...but not with another man. your view is interesting but like all opinions, nobody always agrees. this is not an attack on you or anyone. JMHO.
 
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loco said:
bud I like the male companionship...like good ole buds to go and hang out with etc. nothing like butt darts or crap like that. I don't understand getting a wood from looking at a guys dong or crazy stuff like that. let alone think tribal hunters did some back door pokein' as well. is it possible? yep. did it happen...maybe. do I think it happened...nope. I believe they probably broke out the 5 finger stroker...but not with another man. your view is interesting but like all opinions, nobody always agrees. this is not an attack on you or anyone. JMHO.
You never got a wood while looking at another guy's dong? You must not watch porno movies. That reminds me of the comedian on the Blue Collar Comedy Tour and the routine he did on his homophobic buddy. It was hilarious...and like all good comedy, totally true!

About the tribal hunter thing...you should read. It happened, and still goes on now in some less civilized parts of the world. There are tribes in Africa where the men are totally seperate from the women, and only come together to breed. The rest of the time, the women are strictly lesbian and the men are strictly homosexual. Not to mention ritualized homosexuality as rites of passage into adulthood. The Romans believed that women were only good for breeding, and that true sex occured only between two men of equal status. I don't agree with that, but that is what they believed. The soldiers of that time were encouraged to have homosexual intercourse because they would fight more fiercely for one another. The samurais of Feudal Japan considered it okay, too. In fact, there weren't many sex hangups at all until the Victorian era. Before that, sex was just a pleasurable act and wasn't even considered all that sinful...just naughty. All our hangups came right down from the Victorian era and they are still with us today.

You say some primitive hunter in the ancient past would break out the 5 finger stroker instead of embracing a close companion? Get your head out of the sand.

I'm not advocating it. Don't get me wrong. Nothing beats a nice tight pussy and a couple of big, fluffy titties in my book, but I think that men in our society are way too uptight about their sexuality. Until we can be free to speak our minds and explore our sexuality, we will continue to be oppressed and sexually mutilated. Fear and ignorance are whips used to drive us along like good little sheep.

I'm no sheep.

PS-- Most homosexuals do not have anal sex, from what I gather.
 
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silkysmooth

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I thought most homosexuals had anal sex. Hydromaxmm...

If a person decides that they are attracted to someone of the same sex and that perhaps they wouldn't mind experiencing some kind of intimacy with someone of the same sex, does that make them a homosexual/bisexual.

I have found that intimacy is a really nice thing. It always has been and sex is just as nice. It is nice regardless of what face and what sexual organ is attached to it. If you are aroused by someone for some reason why must there be a label to what you do at that moment with that person? Maybe I am seeing things like this because I have found many women attractive and maybe have been aroused by a few but have never been driven to become intimate with them for many reasons starting with marriage, fear and perhaps that stupid label people want to attach with those longings. Never mind I just don't want to piss God off any more than I already have.

I don't think men or women should hide these feelings from their significant others. I've read in many magazines that men are hiding these feeling from their girlfriends/wives and are acting on these feelings and carrying diseases over to these women who are clueless. And it is easier for women to get many diseases than it is a man.
 

wtgmojo

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I don't believe I've ever got an erection "just" from looking at another guy's dong. In porno when a girl is getting banged and looking at a picture of a cock are two different things. Imagining yourself having sex with the girl with the porn is one thing but imagining doing sexual things with just the male is another story. Whichever one turns you on or maybe even both conveys a "little" something about yourself.
 
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