Asexual [Celibacy] support group

I'm joining this, not for religious reasons or because I want to fall in love, (although I would like to have a girlfriend at some point instead of just random sex, I just never find a girl I care enough about and who actually makes me wait) I just need to do this so as to refrain from distractions and concentrate wholly on my degree. Didn't do so well in my xmas exams and need to turn this thing around! So hard work and no play till June, girls are a big distraction. I will need all the support I can get!
Thanks for the thread REDZULU

Anyone else celibate

REDZULU2003 said:

Anyone else celibate

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I’ve been celibate for 10 years now.

Wonderful to know I am not alone I have been without a fuck for 8 years , and I dont miss it!

REDZULU2003 said:

Wonderful to know I am not alone I have been without a fuck for 8 years , and I dont miss it!

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So I guess we are the support group. We started MOS together we might as well start this together to LOL

Messed up last night *| I did not fight the temptation as well as I could have and ended up letting one off.

I see. Well, I masturbate every now and again, this is normal right? my celibacy is without sex, so no one night stands, casual sex, or relationships.

Suppose it would be a next step to stop wanking.

REDZULU2003 said:

I see. Well, I masturbate every now and again, this is normal right? my celibacy is without sex, so no one night stands, casual sex, or relationships.

Suppose it would be a next step to stop wanking.

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Masturbation doesn’t effect celibacy but I choose to avoid it as much as possible. I kind of treat it like a once a month thing I have to do just to get it out of me. I know when I need to let one off because I start to get frustrated and angry very easily, this tells me that I have some seriously pent-up sexual frustrations. But most of the time I stay away from masturbation because the only way for me to masturbate is to look at ���� which I do not Want to do.

20+ yrs here... Lots of ���� and jacking it in the past but no sex.
It's very hard relating to people so I've had very few friends and even less interaction
with girls. Chased after girls but usually rejected.
What's strange is even if they approach me and she seems attracted to me it leaves me confused and a little repulsed by it. So nothing occurs anyway.

4starmanny said:

20+ yrs here... Lots of ���� and jacking it in the past but no sex.
It's very hard relating to people so I've had very few friends and even less interaction
with girls. Chased after girls but usually rejected.
What's strange is even if they approach me and she seems attracted to me it leaves me confused and a little repulsed by it. So nothing occurs anyway.

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I no longer really have any attraction for women aside from seeing someone and thinking they’re pretty. I have absolutely no desire to have sex. But I’ve been celibate for many years. During some of that time I did use ���� and masterbation but I cut that out 3 years ago. I still occasionally mess up but to me it’s not a big deal as I know I’m doing a million times better than I was in the past. For me really it’s a release of stress that becomes necessary maybe once a month. But I know when I need to release because I’m still with frustration and I’m quick to anger so I choose the lesser of two evils and just get it done with.

Thinking about this more, I see myself as asexual, rather then calling myself celibate, although I'm both.

Good link for those who are asexual


True what the author says here

asexual people can become sexual later in life, and that doesn’t mean they were not asexual before. Similarly, sexual people can become asexual

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I’ve been celibate for a very long time but what I’ve been noticing lately which is pretty cool at least for me, I find myself less and less desiring to look at ���� and if I do my interest wanes very quickly. I think I’ve might’ve reached a point that I can go quite a while without masturbation. I love women I think they’re gorgeous and I love their bodies God created them so beautifully and I do appreciate that. But for me looking is enough, having a general appreciation for women.

@DLD would you not consider youeself asexual though?

HOW DO I TELL?

• Do you find other people sexy—in a way that makes you feel sexual desire or arousal, or a way that makes you think sex or sexual touching with that person would be satisfying (regardless of whether you’d actually do it)? If you don’t feel this with anyone, you may be asexual.
• Do you develop sexual attraction every once in a while, but don’t find its pursuit or satisfaction intrinsically rewarding? Some people would call that asexual.
• Do you think having sex (or the idea of having sex) is okay, but not very interesting or important? Could you take it or leave it, and find leaving it more convenient or preferable? Some people would call that asexual.
• Do you feel sexual attraction sometimes, but only rarely? You may be graysexual,* and you’ll have a lot in common with asexual people if you are.
• Do you sometimes develop sexual attraction when you’ve already developed other important connections with someone, but never feel sexually attracted to strangers, celebrities, or mere acquaintances? You may be demisexual,* and you’ll also have a lot in common with asexual people if you are.

DLD said:

I’ve been celibate for a very long time but what I’ve been noticing lately which is pretty cool at least for me, I find myself less and less desiring to look at ���� and if I do my interest wanes very quickly. I think I’ve might’ve reached a point that I can go quite a while without masturbation. I love women I think they’re gorgeous and I love their bodies God created them so beautifully and I do appreciate that. But for me looking is enough, having a general appreciation for women.

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This is a balanced view about masturbation:

REDZULU2003 said:

Thinking about this more, I see myself as asexual, rather then calling myself celibate, although I'm both.

Good link for those who are asexual

How to Tell If You Are Asexual

An introduction to asexuality

time.com

True what the author says here

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Do you think you are asexual or do you think you may have low testosterone?

I think I'm asexual by choice, in that I have had tons of sexual experiences, with many women, and now, I dont feel it anymore.

This is really how I slowly modified myself, rather then it being an illness, hope you understand ... this was a choice, rather then it being inflicted upon me.

Remember I have mild Asperger's, and not many even understand that ... relationships have been scary for me, more so then for most.

My testosterone levels are fine, had them done several years ago, if anything they were actually higher then normal, and my erections are fine, I can get a boner when I want tbh.

Its better for me, to be free from relationships and sex, because I dont need either romantically or sexually.
I'm happy without a partner, without one night stands, and I shocked myself by living without sex!

Most cannot grasp this, but we all lived life without sex at some point, we all did when we were kids, and it isnt a must in life tbh although its warranted for reproduction, strengthening bonds between partners, showing love to partner, and pleasure. Even power in those that abuse it.

If anything, in life, we have too much sexualized material around, look at the entertainments sector, its full of it.

These two apply to me

• Do you develop sexual attraction every once in a while, but don’t find its pursuit or satisfaction intrinsically rewarding? Some people would call that asexual.
• Do you think having sex (or the idea of having sex) is okay, but not very interesting or important? Could you take it or leave it, and find leaving it more convenient or preferable? Some people would call that asexual.

Thanks for showing interest

Haursen said:

This is a balanced view about masturbation:

Why Didn't God Call It Sin? - The Marriage Bed

A simple step-by-step exploration of why God didn't clearly say that masturbation is a sin.

site.themarriagebed.com

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Masturbation is in no way wrono. It’s only mentioned once in the Bible and it has nothing to do with masturbation being wrong it has to do with Owhen allowing himself to spill his seed instead of getting his wife pregnant. The issue with masturbation It’s not the action but the material we looked at to make it happen. This is where it becomes sinful. But you are very correct masturbation is not in anyway mentioned in the Bible as a negative thing

REDZULU2003 said:

I think I'm asexual by choice, in that I have had tons of sexual experiences, with many women, and now, I dont feel it anymore.

This is really how I slowly modified myself, rather then it being an illness, hope you understand ... this was a choice, rather then it being inflicted upon me.

Remember I have mild Asperger's, and not many even understand that ... relationships have been scary for me, more so then for most.

My testosterone levels are fine, had them done several years ago, if anything they were actually higher then normal, and my erections are fine, I can get a boner when I want tbh.

Its better for me, to be free from relationships and sex, because I dont need either romantically or sexually.
I'm happy without a partner, without one night stands, and I shocked myself by living without sex!

Most cannot grasp this, but we all lived life without sex at some point, we all did when we were kids, and it isnt a must in life tbh although its warranted for reproduction, strengthening bonds between partners, showing love to partner, and pleasure. Even power in those that abuse it.

If anything, in life, we have too much sexualized material around, look at the entertainments sector, its full of it.

These two apply to me

• Do you develop sexual attraction every once in a while, but don’t find its pursuit or satisfaction intrinsically rewarding? Some people would call that asexual.
• Do you think having sex (or the idea of having sex) is okay, but not very interesting or important? Could you take it or leave it, and find leaving it more convenient or preferable? Some people would call that asexual.

Thanks for showing interest

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Some of those traits I would say I display but not all of them. I rarely find myself attracted to a woman, I rarely even look at women in public. In my private life I rarely think about sex but maybe once or twice a month in an intense way and when I have those feelings I start to become frustrated and angry and that’s when I know I need to let one of off. I am celibate because I have married Jesus Christ and I choose to use that energy to grow closer to God and to help me teach in my ministries better. I am not against sex as long as it’s within the confines of marriage. With that said my belief of what marriage is comes from the Bible also, there is no ceremony or sacrament that the Bible teaches as a blueprint for marriage. So my belief in what God sees as marriage is what he said in Genesis that two shall become one and monogamous. So my believe what marriage is, is when two people fall in love and decide to become exclusive for the rest of their lives. After 11 years of being celibate I cannot miss sex in anyway, I actually don’t even remember what it was like. For me celibacy has brought me to a much better place in life I no longer waste time in areas that can only lead me ti do wrong. I do enjoy talking to women but they are mostly older women or women that are in my ministries. If God sees fit to bring a woman into my life that would help me with the brotherhood and my ministries I would be more than happy to have this but I just don’t see that happening. Between my brothers here and the people that I work with in my ministries I have no time.

We're similar on this, but also different.

REDZULU2003 said:

We're similar on this, but also different.

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I think we’re both shooting for the same thing and I think we’re both benefiting big time. I know it’s a tough decision for many man and that’s why not too many men take up this lifestyle. But for those who do not have a woman and are not interested in dating being celibate is a very smart thing to do. The energy shift is very valuable power that can be used in so many different ways.