Sometimes married life sucks

Texan,
Without being nosey, how old is your wife. Maybe it is a hormonal thing. Remember that women need testosterone just as much as men when it comes to libido (obviously not as much!!), so myabe her T has been dropping lately?

Just a wild guess, but it may help!

Well now, there is no excuse for cheating. There are plenty of oppurtunities to stop it before it gets to that point. No one controls your behavior but you.

Matt brings up a good point. Have you thought of trying some type of herbal or prescription libido enhancement? At least if you sit down and have the conversation with her, you are again reinforcing how much it means to you.

I ws thinking that maybe there is an emotionally connection lost somewhere. For women foreplay starts way before you get to the bedroom. Things like helping around the house and with kids without being asked, shopping with her, and talking to her or uplifitng her. One way a man can get a woman is by talking to her. That is how we are built. If you ever wonder how an ugly guy can have a woman, or how a Pimp can get a woman to hook for him it is what he is saying to her. Or why women fall for the bad guys in general. It is all in the way you talk to her.

I'm not saying you don't do this. Just adding more suggestions.

Maybe I am a prick or something, but I just don't go for all this female domination stuff. I am not romantic. I do not clean the house when I get home from work so that she will MAYBE give me sex. I don't do anything I don't feel like doing. I don't think a pussy is the gold prize you get for being a good little boy, cause I got something just as good.

**************HOWEVER*************

My wife and I have been happily married for 10 years now. We very rarely argue. I would rate our sex life "fantastic". We talk to one another constantly, and that is where I agree with ladylove. Communication is the key. We are best friends. We do not try to control one another. We are both strong willed and independent. We are also a team, and look out for one another.

She loves me because I am stubborn, quiet, independent, loyal, dirty-minded, funny, big, smart and cranky in the morning. I love her because she is sweet, clean, sexy, chatty, caring, busy, indepedent, and quick tempered. Our relationship works because we agreed a decade ago that neither one of us would try to control or change the other, that we would accept each other the way we are.

The thing is, everyone keeps talking about how Texan is doing something wrong, when maybe it is his wife who is. Maybe she is just taking him for granted. Men are so brainwashed into this whole idea of romance, and all it is is a way to keep us tamed and powerless. Don't be taken in by all that crap. I love my wife and would die for her without hesitation, but if she wants me to stay faithful and take care of her, then I got a few needs that have to be taken care of too.

Texan, you're not going to be happy until you stop letting the wifey and her moods run your marriage and take back your 50% of the relationship.

I'm not discounting his wife. I don't know her or her side of the story. I was just offering different perspectives as I think of them. If she were on here sharing her side of the story I'd tell her things she could be doing differently and if she was wrong, I'd tell her. He can't change her, only how he can responds to her.