Seeking out help... again

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I'm back in the dating scene... again. Last saturday night, I had THE best date that I've had in a while, probably ever rofl Anyway, things really became heated between us. It was a very physical date and I really wasn't the one initiating it. I've just got two questions.

1) At the end of the night, when I gave her the 'gentlemanly' peck on the cheek and hug, she held onto me. The hug lasted for like 2 minutes. When I pulled away, she pulled me back. Kinda floored me, it was almost like she never thought she'd see me again or something. Is this normal or is she just attention starved?

2) I really want another date with her. We actually talked about it at the end of our last one. My plan is to give her a couple days to think about everything and ask her out again... sound like a good plan?
 

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I'm back in the dating scene... again. Last saturday night, I had THE best date that I've had in a while, probably ever rofl Anyway, things really became heated between us. It was a very physical date and I really wasn't the one initiating it. I've just got two questions.

1) At the end of the night, when I gave her the 'gentlemanly' peck on the cheek and hug, she held onto me. The hug lasted for like 2 minutes. When I pulled away, she pulled me back. Kinda floored me, it was almost like she never thought she'd see me again or something. Is this normal or is she just attention starved?

2) I really want another date with her. We actually talked about it at the end of our last one. My plan is to give her a couple days to think about everything and ask her out again... sound like a good plan?

sorry Dude if that was me I would have hit it that night! No doubt she wanted it. She may have put you into the wuss catagory because you did'nt just rip her panties off and tap it. Then again she might have not written you off yet. Dude if she is throwing it at you like that man you gotta take it, or you end up missing it all together. Yeah wait a couple of days, then call make plans, don't ask her, tell her what the date is going to be, tell her Fri night, you'll know from her response if she's down for another date or not! Good Luck Bro!
 
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Dude....sounds like you were on the right track...just cut out that gentleman BS....be a MAN forget the gentle part but being classy is ok. Just don't confuse class with wuss.

Seriously, once you have your shit together you will be going out with girls and being intimate with them that first night so get used to it :)

Good Luck
 
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Yeah, I would have gone for it, but I never sleep with someone on the first date unless I'm not liking her and just want to hit it. Problem is, I like this one rofl I'm looking for a serious relationship not a hit and run.

She definitly didn't put me in the 'wuss' category. I initiated many moves throughout the date, lol
 
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Screw the 'player' rules, i just landed another date with her. Must be doing something right. Woohoo!
 
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I hear ya dude. If your looking for a long term relationship, play it slow and cool. Kinda hard to get but not to hard. You dont want to be easy like the rest of the guys. You have plenty of time. Does she know your Bi? Just curious.
 
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Screw the 'player' rules, i just landed another date with her. Must be doing something right. Woohoo!

Good going!! Keep us posted! :)
 
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Has no idea and she probably won't know for a while. Very few people know and it usually scares women away when you tell them right away.
 

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Screw the 'player' rules, i just landed another date with her. Must be doing something right. Woohoo!

Good Job man! Tease her....and tease her some more, eventually she'll throw herself at you! Will you tell her about Penis Enlargement?
 
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After my last girlfriend, I don't think it would be a good idea. My last girlfriend flipped and thought I had some kind of confidence problem. I did at first, but got over it a long time ago.

By the above post I made, wasnt insulting any of you players out there. Just saying that it doesnt work on all females rofl
 

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After my last girlfriend, I don't think it would be a good idea. My last girlfriend flipped and thought I had some kind of confidence problem. I did at first, but got over it a long time ago.

By the above post I made, wasnt insulting any of you players out there. Just saying that it doesnt work on all females rofl


Yeah your right, with some girls the rules don't apply at all, each woman is different, she is playing her cards, if you know how to peak at what she is dealing, you'll win most of the time! So you really like this girl? Cool man, feel her out before you get your emotions involved, that is the best advice I can give you for now!
 
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And... before I even have gone on a second date, I've got a third. Get this... she asked! I'm such a pimp, lol
 

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But hey, had you hit it that night then she would have no reason to hold back later. (You never know what they may be thinking).

-ItsElectric
 

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And... before I even have gone on a second date, I've got a third. Get this... she asked! I'm such a pimp, lol
Just keep doing what you are doing! (Unless she appears bored!)

Nice work. :)
 
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You sure are a pimp! WIth your current stats ( Currently: 7.25x5.25 ) I say you give her a little something! DONOT be greedy! What if she really wants to fuck the shit out of you and because you like her you punisher and do not give her some?
 
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I think you did the right thing by not banging her that night or trying to. She'll know that you actually want to date her and not just fuck her every once and a while. If you build the relationship around actually dating her instead of just sex, it stands more of a chance to last/work out.

I'd be up front with her though about your sexuality and Penis Enlargement. When things get onto a more serious level, I'd definitely tell her. SWM wasn't exactly up front with me about his shit, which caused us some problems. Now, I'm extremely supportive of his Penis Enlargement. I encourage him to do his workouts on days he doesn't feel like doing them, and I constantly encourage his Penis Enlargement. As far as his sexuality, I'm supportive in anything he wants. I'm the only woman he cares for, and that's enough for me. If she doesn't have any security issues, then she'll be the same way.

Honestly, a lot of the times I threw out hints to have sex with my dates(back in the day of course), was because I thought that's what the guy wanted. Thinking it might make him want to date me again, and I'm into him..so I throw out the hints. When they acted on the hints, I didn't feel very good about myself the next day(I was young and had my issues). The first date with SWM when things got really heated, the first thing he said was, "Don't do anything you don't want to. Don't feel obligated because I'm not expecting anything and I really like you anyway." So, I gave it up LoL. But..our relationship was a strong one because of that.

So if you really like this girl it sounds like you're doing the right things so far, and yes I'd be honest once you trust her to an extent.
 
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