Orgasm trouble

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Out of the passed 7-8 tmes that I've had sex i've only had 1 orgasm. I dunno what to do. It came from a blowjob but that took like over 30 min of hardcore strokin and suckin and focusing on my part to reach. I dunno whats goin on. I don't wack off a lot so I don't think thats a cause of it. I'm wonderin if Penis Enlargement may have caused it. Does anyone else have this trouble? Does anyone know what I could do or if there are any herbs or stuff to take that can fix this? Any help would be appreciated.
 
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If you are with a new partner, it could be anxiety. Cumming inside a woman is a very intimate thing, and it may be hard to relax enough to reach orgasm if you are still a little jittery about being with her. The first two times I slept with my wife, I did not cum. I was just too nervous. I got it up fine, but I just couldn't seem to get there. It wasn't until the third time that I felt comfortable enough to let the juices fly. My advice would be to make love until she is satisfied and happy, and then have her finish you off or do it yourself on her or in front of her. Just let her know that you are nervous and she will be fine and help you out. Once you cum all over her puss or boobs a couple times, you will not be so anxious about it.
 
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BigD, its not too uncommon to experience what you're talking about, and as Kong said its likely a mental thing. As soon as you start thinking "shit, it'll look bad if i cant cum" you start a vicious cycle that means you wont!
Just get relaxed and focus on the feelings your cock is getting, even think of someone else if you want - your mind will be used to you getting guilty pleasure thinking of girls when masturbating and will enjoy the guilty pleasure of banging one girl while thinking of another :)
But also, if you are slow to climax, enjoy it! Thats a lot more pleasure time, and if you are worried about the girl not enjoying it, throw in some new positions, or take a break and just pleasure her with your fingers or tongue for a while. But basically, turn this percieved negative into a positive :)
 
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Everything is fantastic but i can't cum. She's getting upset because she has like 2-3 everytime and I've only had the one ever. I was nervous the first time but she makes me feel so comfortable that i don't have any nerves anymore. I'll try just not worrying about it so much and maybe I'll be able to. It could be some subconcious thing too. I dunno. We'll see. Thanx guys
 
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I see it as all the more reason to keep pounding away!
She'll love the stamina! And maybe when you are ready to cum, some really dirty thoughts might help the situation).
 
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Yea she loves it but after 3 orgasms she gets too sensitive for penetration so then we try oral and still nothin. I'll see what happens on Saturday.
 
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Break it up BigD, dont attempt to go all the way to climax for yourself in one session. After a while stop, and do some cuddling, or all over body kissing or light fingering/tonguing before returning to penetration. Do this a few times, I would be shocked if this didnt help :)
 
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tried it already
 
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Man, I wish I had that problem. Only advice I can give is get her up on all 4s and go at it doggy style - gives you something good to look at and usually makes me lose it pretty quick.

Is she getting super-duper wet, where you can barely feel it any more? If that's the case stop and try to dry things up a little with a towel before continuing.
 
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joeym said:
Man, I wish I had that problem. Only advice I can give is get her up on all 4s and go at it doggy style - gives you something good to look at and usually makes me lose it pretty quick.

Is she getting super-duper wet, where you can barely feel it any more? If that's the case stop and try to dry things up a little with a towel before continuing.
She does get really wet. I'll try that out. Thanx
 
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Try jambing it in her ass!
Seriously! The feeling of doing something taboo might get you off dude.
 
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Im with Matt on this one....
 
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i have yet to have sex....over 18, don't worry.....but all of this stuff is helping me so much for when it is time, thx all
 
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I finally had one the other night! She was leanin on the kitchen counter and I was gettin her from behind. I think the angle of penetration standing up helped out a lot.
 
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Bro i rarely ever cum on the first go around. I usually cum on the third or fourth round. My wife loves it cuz she cums 3-4 times each round... 'til i cum. There are some days that i just can't cum no matter what or how many time we try, on those days i just fuck her for fuck's sake.
 
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