Ok, Women and Penis Size

I don't see how enjoying sex equates to lack of self respect. Maybe it is because of the way I was raised. My mom and dad were both kind of flower children, and I was raised in an enviroment that was open and honest about sex, so sex is not something dirty and shameful to me. I have had many sexual partners in my life. I was not a playa. I did and still have a lot of self-respect. My wife has had more than a couple lovers herself. I don't see what the big deal is. We are both good people. We were both very careful in choosing our partners. Neither of us have had any STDs. We have been married 10 years and neither of us have strayed. If you want a woman that has never been touched, never felt any emotion for another man and never desired to experience pleasure or love, then you can find her right on aisle 3 of your local ���� shop. She comes in a big box that says Inflatable Annie.

kong1971 said:

We are both good people. We were both very careful in choosing our partners. Neither of us have had any STDs. We have been married 10 years and neither of us have strayed.

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Then you have done very well in your lives and have managed not to experience any of the negative consequences that often come with a LARGE NUMBER of partners. Personally, I would consider you the exception to the rule. Hats off to you. I know from getting to know you on this forum that you seem to have a good marriage and genuine feelings for your wife.

I do not need Inflatable Annie, just someone that has made good decisions with her circumstances and keeps the current relationship in the proper perspective.

Ditto what Penguinsfan said. Sex is the most intimate physical act there is, and it can become cheapened when it's given away. I'm happy for you that you and your wife have avoided those adverse repercussions, but I'd prefer to avoid the risk altogether.

It might be argued that a woman who sleeps around quite a bit is more likely to have certain undesirable personality traits in a man's experience as well. Anecdotal as it may be, the most promiscuous women I have known tended to have other character traits in common. Chiefly among these were unreliability, immaturity, and serious insecurity. Also, study after study has shown that women have the most satisfying sex in committed relationships with the same partner over a long period of time. Simple horniness doesn't really explain sleeping around a whole lot.

If I may be so bold as to suggest simple biology - men are apt to sleep around as we naturally desire to proliferate our genetics as far and wide as possible. It is in a woman's best interest to have a stable provider for her offspring, hence their natural preferance for relationships. Of course it's all much more complciated than that once you get into it, but the underlying structure is fairly concrete. Frankly I am not particularly impressed when I meet a woman that's really been around, political correctness and sensitivity be damned.

Just as it is their preferance to sleep with lots of men outside of committed relationships, it's my preferance to not want to have anything to do with them. There is also something to be said for the fact that women acting in this manner are somewhat frowned upon by society at large, and yet they still do so. To me it often is a sign of attention seeking or a person that somebody else described as 'in love with being in love.' The unquenchable desire for male adoration and frequent, shrill emotional episodes are both qualities that send me running, and you can bet that many a promiscuous woman manifests them in varying, but nonetheless annoying degrees. I'm really no moral prude, but in this day and age if I understand that an adult woman sleeps around a good deal, I don't hesitate that she's probably dealing with some issues I'd really rather have nothing to do with her. So far this hasn't been a problem, as the most attractive and intelligent women I've encountered tend to agree with me on the issue, at least so much as is reflected by their conduct. It's generally the 'looser' crowd that I find can't hold much of a conversation and don't take care of themselves.

I think Swank nailed this one.

I'm not denying the double standard, but the biological aspects he brought up are very much relevant. Men and women typically think different on their views of promiscuity, because they typically have different ideas on their roles in life. It may not be politically correct and it may indeed be a double standard, but it is as undeniable as the law of gravity.