As many know I struggle with OCD (Obsessive Compulsion Disorder) and BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disease). For those who don't know me or my story I am a long time P.E.er with decent gains and a decent sized penis. My problem is my SELF VIEW...I have allot of difficulty seeing my self as a person with a big penis...I also constantly compare myself to other people and even though my measurements are greater than some people I have a hard time seeing my penis as anything but small.
One particular problem I suffer with is Obsessive Checking, to the point that it can ruin my whole exercise session by taking focus off of my exercises and putting focus on proving my obsessions not true. This is a vicious cycle that leeds to repetitive interruptions and ultimately a poor workout. (penis not hard enough because of the continuous negative thought patterns, frustration, discouragement, etc.) I thought maybe it would be helpful to talk more on the subject so here goes.
Denying and defying OCD is most definitely the cornerstone therapy technique that allows you to live beyond the obsession(s) and gain ultimate control of your life. People often misunderstand what it means to "deny" an obsession. In practice, it means recognizing the existence of an intrusive/unwanted thought and simply leaving it alone, remaining indifferent to whatever the obsession is suggesting. There are other techniques that effectively work to desensitize your brain to obsessive thoughts, but you'll eventually reach a point where the following example serves you best:
Example: You're Jelqing and suddenly receive the intrusive thought of I think my penis is small. My first instinct is to freak out and start trying to convince myself I'm not small and then start referencing and comparing myself to previous thoughts or objects around me. I may even start measuring obsessively at this point . Unfortunately, such REASSURANCE only serves to feed OCD in the long run. I learned that the long and hard way, just as many others have. The most efficient technique, at this point in the example, is to recognize the obsession -- perhaps even laugh at it -- and simply LET IT BE. You heard me correctly! LET IT BE!!! Don't give a "yes" or "no" response to the thought. Instead, let OCD worry about itself. Simply ignore it and move on with whatever you'd like to be doing instead. Is it hard to do? Absolutely! It's UNCERTAINTY in it's finest hour. But you'll learn that uncertainty brings out the best in your WILL and FORTITUDE. Don't try to escape OCD. LET IT BE and keep going with the life you want to lead. It's a process called STARVATION. It works. In time, you'll see obsessions as simply false alarms and you'll be able to live beyond them automatically with much less effort.
I'm repeating myself from earlier summer posts, but I thought a refresher might be in order."
This is a sub-note on Obsessive Checking
"The key to correcting a checking obsession is to deny your brain's tendency to get stuck in a repeating cycle of doubt. I used to be the "master" of obsessive checking. And without the right understanding and proper techniques to disqualify the impulse to check repeatedly, I could very easily fall back into the trap.
In a nutshell, you tell your brain it's only got 1 chance to check. It's a "snooze, you lose" type of discipline. Take a deep breath, check the item with deliberate consciousness ... and move on. MOVE ON!! You brain will SCREAM for a repeat, but put your foot down. It takes practice and the courage to take reasonable risks. When you know you've only got 1 chance, you're alert and focused. You're at your best in that given situation. Be strong and calm. You can overcome. "
I hope this helps people
