Newbie with questions

Well honestly, watching p**n over many years hasnt helped my self esteem. I know we shouldn't be comparing to those guys, but it's hard to feel like you're above average compared to most videos. That is why I've tried to stay away from it in resent years. It doesn't offer anything good.

DD85 said:

Well honestly, watching p**n over many years hasnt helped my self esteem. I know we shouldn't be comparing to those guys, but it's hard to feel like you're above average compared to most videos. That is why I've tried to stay away from it in resent years. It doesn't offer anything good.

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Entertainment videos, or even amateur voyerism, are from the selected fews who are confident about their sizes. However, the outlook always should focus on what your aims are and the intended size you want to use for. As many PE gainers here would say, 6.5x5 is considered as top of the game for most. If your partners along the way before marriage want more, use that as a reference that the ones in your region want something more satisfaction. Don't compare to other males, but listen to the companions' needs. Once you have that permanent partner, she will want more soon enough. That 6.5x5 won't cut it. Even 7x5.5 won't cut it. 8x6 may be the new golden beginning.

DD85 said:

Well honestly, watching p**n over many years hasnt helped my self esteem. I know we shouldn't be comparing to those guys, but it's hard to feel like you're above average compared to most videos. That is why I've tried to stay away from it in resent years. It doesn't offer anything good.

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It goes against out belief in God which brings so many negative issues we need not engage in

@DD with P*RN we just need to put it in it's proper place. Understanding that actors are chosen with 7in min is already one-sided. If this were real life we would see all types of D's in those, but we don't. Then it would be like less than 2-5% of that would be with men over 7in too.

So wifey used to not be good on top, a mix-up on both her and I. Her because she wasn't in the zone and she didn't know how to ride. Me because when she is on top I was just tapping the cervix, and as an inexperienced man I would say to myself I'm going deep... ATTACK! Wow was I wrong!! When you are at the Cervix you have to reposition, not try and jam it, that I know is the problem with most men when starting to go deep. Technically if she said you hurt you could have repositioned and hit the A-spot and both you and her would be in heaven. Instead of avoiding her on top, I would double down on it.

I say this because this is what happened to me. At 5.75 NBPEL I was there and a few times her on top was the most epic sex we ever had, but with just a little, 6 NBPEL I was there, and then when I repositioned she was like WOW! Talk about real life P*RN in front of you!!!

I'm a grower too, so I hear you bro! Trust the process don't give up. I am at one year of my third newbie routine. I am in Cloud 9, but just like you 2 months, 4 months, 8 months not until 9 months did everything start coming together, and then now at a year...OMG! it's a whole new world with Wifey!!! I want you to read my other post about things I did to spice things up after 14 years of marriage.

This is all great stuff! It is awesome to have a place to talk about this stuff. Even more than just how to get a bigger dick, but how to better your life and relationship. I will go over to your other thread as I have some more insight on there that my wife and I have learned.

DD85 said:

Well I guess like some guys, it looks small to me and smaller from the top down.

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Don't worry, mate... I think all (or most!) guys feel like that. I know for a fact (looking at the ruler, lol) that I'm considered "very large", but I often don't feel it when I look in the mirror 🥴.

Plus, with the p**n thing, you have to remember that most of the guys in the videos are only (or mainly) there because of their large size - they are VERY much the minority though when it comes to penis size... in reality/every day life, you're FAR more likely to find guys under 6" than over 7" or 8". Not to mention, the camera angles and close-ups make the penis look much bigger too(!).

DD85 said:

Well I guess like some guys, it looks small to me and smaller from the top down. Plus I'm a grower, so if Im not super turned on, it might be a little less. My wife has said some conflicting things to me in the past, so not sure what her deal is. She used to hate being on top because she said I was poking her and it hurt. That was before 2 kids. Can't win sometimes...lol.

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LOL I think it's 99.5% of the men out there look smaller from the top down. The base is always wider than the tip. I worked hard in the past few years to get the glans to expand, and refocus harder this year to get it even larger. This is why, for me, I attempt to focus on the glans expansion over the rest of the penile body. I noticed the larger glans helps my wife to enjoy the deep penetration moment without the "owwie!" while stimulating her spots. Lots of work.

DLD said:

It truly is it is about one inch above average in length and a quarter inch above average in girth

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Yes!

Rob35 said:

Don't worry, mate... I think all (or most!) guys feel like that. I know for a fact (looking at the ruler, lol) that I'm considered "very large", but I often don't feel it when I look in the mirror 🥴.

Plus, with the p**n thing, you have to remember that most of the guys in the videos are only (or mainly) there because of their large size - they are VERY much the minority though when it comes to penis size... in reality/every day life, you're FAR more likely to find guys under 6" than over 7" or 8". Not to mention, the camera angles and close-ups make the penis look much bigger too(!).

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We get used to our own penis that is why we do not feel big even when we are.
If your erected length are over 5 Inch length or you are approaching 6 you are big enough to make a woman squirt and feel wonderful squirting orgasms.

As you say, most men in those movies have their penis appear bigger then it is. This will warp your sens of reality, and you will start to believe that every man walking around in reality, are walking around with a 10 Inch long penis. They can make a 7 Inch long penis appear as if it was 10 Inch and a 5.5 Inch penis appear as if that was 7 in those movies. They can even edit videos in post production and use CGI (Computer-generated imagery) to increase the size of the penises (I don't know it they are doing that?).

These videos can destroy your brain.

squirt_inducer_man said:

We get used to our own penis that is why we do not feel big even when we are.
If your erected length are over 5 Inch length or you are approaching 6 you are big enough to make a woman squirt and feel wonderful squirting orgasms.

As you say, most men in those movies have their penis appear bigger then it is. This will warp your sens of reality, and you will start to believe that every man walking around in reality, are walking around with a 10 Inch long penis. They can make a 7 Inch long penis appear as if it was 10 Inch and a 5.5 Inch penis appear as if that was 7 in those movies. They can even edit videos in post production and use CGI (Computer-generated imagery) to increase the size of the penises (I don't know it they are doing that?).

These videos can destroy your brain.
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Awesome post!