Need help Please

Siq

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Hey guys. I'm having dating issues. I've liked this girl for three years and didn't act on it. It was high school, she was a senior I was a sophomore, when we first "met". We rode the bus home together and would talk and stuff like that. Anyways, she likes to act (I think its an act) that she's unattractive and stuff like that.
We went out a couple of times when I got the courage to ask her. We're the "F" word (friends), and I think my chances are shot down. When we go out, we split the bills (its normally a movie then dinner). We really started going out this past year, but she has a bf away at college (a year older than me). She commutes to school. I really like her cause we "click" but IDK. So my question is: How do I tell if she's just playing me or if she's genuine.

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Siq

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I'm sorry. I kinda figured out that I was screwed over. My real question is that is there any way that I can get out of being the dreaded "F" word?
 

austin316

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this is the same kind of situation i am/was in with this girl i really like, every facet about her is infatuating (we click, we have loads in common and so on) and we've both shown interest in each other but have never acted on it, as i have a girlfriend and she has a boyfriend.

Theres a way i can think of how you can discover if she has any feelings for you that are more than friends, do you watch movies together like at home or something? if you do in the middle of one (do it with some finesse) say that youre kinda tired and ask if you can use her legs as a pillow (this is how i discovered a girl i used to go out liked me) and se how she acts and things, little mannerisms that demonstate feelings above friendship to me are things like her stroking your hair and just things like that.

i dont know if thats the kind of thing you want to hear, but i am in the same boat as you, and im determined to win the heart of this girl that i am in love with... before its too late.
 

AlloyCG

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Have you ever heard of the ladder theory? I ran it by a few women and they totally agreed with it. You might want to do a search for it or something, but basically once you are on the friend ladder and not the "sex" ladder, there is no chance, and by trying to cross ladders you risk losing the friendship altogether.

And don't forget man, she has a boyfriend. Try to be respectful of that. If I was with a girl I wouldn't mind her having friends or even guys that are interested in her. But them approaching her about it is out of the question. It's hard, I know, especially if you are in love not being able to be with that girl. But be a gentleman about it and don't get down on yourself about it. There ARE other women, and wonderful ones at that.
 
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