Naming The Penis?

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Hey Sizers,

I wanted to share this excerpt from the book "How To Make Love All Night" by Barbara Keesling below.

What are your thoughts?

Men typically treat their penises as though they were separate, disconnected objects with brains of their own. They say things like, “Don’t talk to me…talk to him. He did it.” They give their penises names like “Little Robert,” “Big Jim,” “Captain Fantastic,” or “Mr. Doozy.” I have to admit, this really makes me laugh because women are so different. How many women do you know who have pet names for their vaginas? How many times do you hear women affectionately refer to their genitals using names like “Miss Lucy” or “The Cannibal”? You don’t hear women saying things like, “I guess little Beth down there doesn’t want to come out to play today.” There are lots of possible reasons why men treat their penises in this disconnected fashion. No doubt, there are some men who split themselves off from their penises because they don’t want to take responsibility for their own sexuality or the consequences of their own sexual behavior. It’s a great way to justify being careless or insensitive. I think even more men distance themselves from their genitals because they have problems dealing with the frustration of being unable to control their bodies. This makes any perceived sexual failures or perceived shortcomings easier to tolerate. Because the penis is physically externalized—hanging out there, so to speak—it is more open to scrutiny. If a woman fails to get aroused, only she knows for sure. She may not be happy about it, but you won’t read about it in the tabloids. Not so for a man. If a penis isn’t doing what it’s supposed to do, everyone in the room knows it. If a man is having difficulties, the evidence is out there in the open for all to see. Even those satellites in outer space that photograph license plates are going to recognize a penis that isn’t doing its job. That’s a lot of pressure—too much pressure for the average man.

Your New Best Friend

It may be easier to think your penis has its own personality, but a disconnected attitude like this ultimately will not serve you well. It may spare you some anxiety and discomfort, but it also robs you of much of your pleasure. Your penis is not a separate entity subletting space in your underwear. It is not that noisy tenant downstairs who keeps you awake all night long. Don’t treat it that way. Your penis is an important part of you; it’s sometimes the most honest part of you. When you’re scared, your penis shows it. When you’re excited, your penis shows it. When you’re depressed, your penis knows it, and it behaves accordingly. You can fool some of the people some of the time, but you can’t fool your own penis. The two of you are totally connected, and you will be for the rest of your life. Now that’s no stranger, is it? I tell men: Embrace your penis! Put out the welcome mat. Open a dialogue. Let it know it’s a part of you and let it know you care. It’s time to bring your penis in from the cold. The sooner you do, the sooner your sexuality will start to change. Now here’s the best news. If you like your penis, your partner is going to like your penis. If you’re proud of your penis, your partner is going to be proud of your penis. If you embrace your penis, your partner is going to embrace your penis. Sound good? I thought it would.
 
My whole life and actually all the way back to my Italian descendants we have always called the penis a GG. I have no idea the origins of this but I do know that’s what all of my family just called it. I wonder if there’s some Italian cultural things I don’t know about.
 
My whole life and actually all the way back to my Italian descendants we have always called the penis a GG. I have no idea the origins of this but I do know that’s what all of my family just called it. I wonder if there’s some Italian cultural things I don’t know about.

Do you agree with what Barbara said or disagree? :)
 
Do you agree with what Barbara said or disagree? :)

I agree with some of it and other parts I don’t know. What I can say is a big issue for men is they think with their penis instead of their brain. I am constantly telling them to stop walking on their hands and thinking with their dick and start walking on their feet and thinking with their head.
 
Holy fucking fem-speak! How on Earth could she possibly 'know' anything about a man's penis and the ownership thereof. Are we really devolving to the point where we (as men) are going to heed the 'advice' from a woman about OUR BODIES? Try flipping the script and telling women what to do with their body-parts and see what kind of response you get. This feels like a thinly veiled attempt at shaming men and making some lame excuse for our DNA Firmware. Just another attack on masculinity all wrapped-up in a cozy mani/pedi robe.
 
Holy fucking fem-speak! How on Earth could she possibly 'know' anything about a man's penis and the ownership thereof. Are we really devolving to the point where we (as men) are going to heed the 'advice' from a woman about OUR BODIES? Try flipping the script and telling women what to do with their body-parts and see what kind of response you get. This feels like a thinly veiled attempt at shaming men and making some lame excuse for our DNA Firmware. Just another attack on masculinity all wrapped-up in a cozy mani/pedi robe.

Hmm...That's an interesting perspective.

I did not see her shaming men at all. How I read her piece is that she was encouraging me to embrace our penis as part of ourselves instead of compartmentalizing it as separate. I did not see how tearing down men at all.
 
Hmm...That's an interesting perspective.

I did not see her shaming men at all. How I read her piece is that she was encouraging me to embrace our penis as part of ourselves instead of compartmentalizing it as separate. I did not see how tearing down men at all.
My objection is that fact that she's attempting to have you treat yourself the way a woman would treat herself...that's NOT how we function as men. The presentation is very warm/fuzzy and of course we should love our bodies, but the very essence of our 'maleness' is to be able to 'compartmentalize' everything/anything. This excerpt she wrote is insidious in it's warmth...this isn't how we speak/think/feel and for her to project otherwise is just another salvo aimed at us XYers.
 
Reading into it, yes, it can be taken in a different ways I suspect.

What's wrong is that I know woman might call their boobs "my girls" etc., so that's a bit biased I would say.

But overall, I do feel that naming our units can cause certain kind of separation. Our bodies are whole (for large majority) and I wouldn't see my penis as an external part from it. Of course it dangles, hangs around etc., but it's truly part of my body and part of me.

What I do agree a lot is that different moods will affect erections very strongly. A happy penis is usually a sign of good heart health as well, just a heads up. ;)

What I strongly agree upon is that we should embrace our bodies. No matter what sex you might represent, embracing our bodies and accepting them is a way to happier, healthier life.
 
Well, I'm the Y-generation, moaning "why" all the time. :D

I do agree that during these PC times the whole subject of being a man is seemed as a big no-no.
More and more there are cases where a boy acting in certain way would had been totally normal 10-20 years ago, but nowadays things are getting out of hand.
 
I disagree with what she has to say, from my own personal experiences of never having a name for my penis, or thinking in that mannerism she described.

Its very ignorant what Barbara writes, because she is assuming most, if not, all men are like that! pretty rude, and discriminating if you ask me.
 
They’re coming to get you Barbara LOL
 
They’re coming to get you Barbara LOL
'Graveyard Carz' (I built a '68 Dart convertible...took out the 340 and replaced it with a Gen III Hemi, a Tremec 6-speed, coil-overs and discs on all four corners) been a Mopar junky since my 1st car '69 GTS
 
'Graveyard Carz' (I built a '68 Dart convertible...took out the 340 and replaced it with a Gen III Hemi, a Tremec 6-speed, coil-overs and discs on all four corners) been a Mopar junky since my 1st car '69 GTS
Lol We from the same generation LOL
 
The intro to every episode of Graveyard Carz has the 'we're coming to get you, Barbara' sound-bite and in this new season, they actually show the clip (the dude looks nothing like i had imagined, lol)
 
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The intro to every episode of Graveyard Carz has the 'we're coming to get you, Barbara' sound-bite and in this new season, they actually show the clip (the dude looks nothing like i had imagined, LOL)

No he’s like a college nerd LOL it’s also one of the first movie is that a black man stared in. I can’t remember his name but he did a brilliant job. It’s one of my favorite cult movies.
 
HaHaHa...
"...little Beth down there doesn’t want to come out to play today.” Actually, little Beth will never be able to play outside. You will already have to go inside to play with little Beth. Unless, little Beth is a "pink sock."
Personally, i have always called a woman's vagina, "Pussilla"
 
Personally, i have always called a woman's vagina, "Pussilla"

What?! :D That means, roughly, "with a bag" , in Finnish!
Indeed, we must get inside to play with Little Beths. Or do women call their clitoris with a pet name?
 
What?! LOL That means, roughly, "with a bag" , in Finnish!
Indeed, we must get inside to play with Little Beths. Or do women call their clitoris with a pet name?
Well, then, a vagina(Pussilla) is nothing but a pink bag (LoL ?)

Some women i know name their breast, each one individually. Also, they name their vaginas.
...this Barbara Keesling is a Psychologist is sex therapy and sex surrogate. Like with anything you may read or learn. To take want you can use and throw out the rest that doesnt apply to you.
 
Well, then, a vagina(Pussilla) is nothing but a pink bag (LoL ?)

Some women i know name their breast, each one individually. Also, they name their vaginas.
...this Barbara Keesling is a Psychologist is sex therapy and sex surrogate. Like with anything you may read or learn. To take want you can use and throw out the rest that doesnt apply to you.

Exactly...A balanced view indeed.
 
I had three women that I was with for many years and they all had various vaginas LOL one had huge labia which I did not like, the other girl had smaller Labia but she stunk LOL my favorite was Jen my last girlfriend, she had a simple tiny little line. So perfect and clean I called it my line LOL. I do not like a mess I like it very clean.
 
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