Kicking my Addiction

quazimodo_007;746930 said:

We do not win every battle we fight. Your sons life is your sons life, if he doesn't listen there is nothing you can do.You can only be there to lift him up when he falls and help his children when they need help. I will keep you and all your family in my prayers.

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wise words.

Once your son has lifted the fog he's in, he'll understand the chaos and pain he's created. Having a solid moral compass and a strong parent will pilot him through...it just may create a bit of collateral damage.

I'd be more than happy to provide a disinterested 3rd party perspective if he's ever open to it...you know how to reach me

be prepared for the marriage to end (women never forget and rarely forgive) and in the 1% chance they survive as a couple, the affair will always tarnish/taint their every step.
I'd agree in the sense that there're fundamental issues causing him to look outside, but it's also in our biology as men to seek/hunt and therefore be susceptible to straying (not giving excuses). We are bound by our words/promises and for your son to jeopardize all that he's worked hard to build there must be a compelling draw that's so strong as to make this a worthwhile trade.
As adults, it's our choice to behave as we see fit...the real tragedy is when children are swept-up in the selfishness of their parent(s)

fell off the horse while ill damn damn damn

quazimodo_007;747869 said:

fell off the horse while ill damn damn damn

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Get right back on it! It is only a fall, never a fail. Get back on a ride even further this time! And if you do fall, do not punish yourself, you are attempting a very difficult issue and it will take time to get under control.

doublelongdaddy;747931 said:

Get right back on it! It is only a fall, never a fail. Get back on a ride even further this time! And if you do fall, do not punish yourself, you are attempting a very difficult issue and it will take time to get under control.

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Thanks Yes im back on but being ill just made me lose my will, but i guess i wanted the dopamine which i get from the ����.

quazimodo_007;747946 said:

Thanks Yes im back on but being ill just made me lose my will, but i guess i wanted the dopamine which i get from the ����.

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I hear you but also know that dopamine can come from many other sources. You have identified an issue now you simply need to correct it. Certain triggers for me I had to eliminate to have the best shot at curbing this habit. As I identify triggers I put in place safety measures. But, just like you. I am not perfect and I will contnue to pick myself up and keep climbing that hill!