How would you deal with this situation?

Ok, for those of you who don't know, I'm taking a trip across the country to see my old girlfriend from high school. It's been 4 years since we have seen each other and I really cannot wait.

I'm going out to California for 5 days, staying in a hotel, got the rental car. It's going to be great. Anyway, I really do not know how to handle this situation. Lemme explain.

We were never really serious in high school. I guess it was just young love. We knew each other for about 3 years before she moved. We had one of those relationships where we both knew we had feelings for each other, but never really went anywhere with it. After she moved, we grew closer. We talk all the time, mainly on the internet with the occasional phone call. She has asked me numerous times to go out there and visit her, but I never have. Mainly due to money and age problems(damn rental cars). Anyway, after all this time, I'm going out there to see her again. We're both older now, she's 20 and I'm 21, which is a big jump from 16 and 17. I just don't know what I'm going to do out there.

I really feel strongly about this girl, I always have. I feel like I'm getting a second chance and really do not want to blow it. The problem is, how much can I accomplish in 5 days? Just looking for general advice I guess.

Just relax and have fun. Don't let your emotions get the best of you. Have a good time with her, but keep things light. Don't, for the life you, admit what you feel for her first. That effectively kills the feeling for a woman. Again, have FUN and then leave there with her waiting for the next time you return. Keep a handle on your emotions. It always works better if a woman has to work a little for you. Remember, woman have guys coming after them all day. They will also go for a guy who poses SOME type of challenge. Don't be "difficult", but remain a man. Make her earn you and your time, not the other way around.
goingdeeper is right...for God's sake don't do anything stupid like tell her how you feel.

I mean it is pretty strange to have such deep feelings for a girl you haven't seen in years that lives far away and you only knew loosely in high school. But I'd say keep the tone fun and light. I mean I guarantee you that her biggest nightmare for the trip would be you arriving in her town acting all serious and telling her about all those strange emotions you have for her.

Dude what are you getting a second chance at...the girl lives accross the country from you...that means that if you want to maintain any kind of relationship with her it better be fun and cool on your part...What do you think you can do? I mean you're not gonna tell her how you've felt for all these years and just expect her to move in with you or ask you to move in...this is not a fairy tale buddy. And why would a fun, cool 21 year old be in such a hurry to get hitched anyway? :)

So go over and have FUN!!!!!!!!!! If you can BE COOL and FUN to spend time with for five days I guarantee you that you will make a huge impression on her.

And oh Yeah...make sure you bang her brains out if you really want her thinking about you all the time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I guess I do sound like a raving maniac, lol. We knew each other much more than 'loosely', but you guys are right. I'm just going to go out there, have a good time, and see where it goes from there.

I never planned on spilling my guts to her though, lol. I might seem like I'm crazy about the girl by the way I posted, but it's not like that. I can keep my cool :)

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