robjeremy

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I wanted to start a thread so we could share the moment or events that led up to us becoming insecure about our penis and the need for a bigger penis.

I was alway middle average and I knew that was not good but I slept with a few women and they never complained and they got off really well. I thought to myself that it all must be in my head. Then I met my my soon to be wife. She has been with close to 20 men. In the beginning we had great sex but doggy style was a little hard because she has a very big booty kind of like Nina Hartley and she is a bbw. I started doing some training on my penis and I grew about an inch in length . I never told her what I was doing at the time.

One day she noticed and said "your penis is getting bigger!" for one instant I was the happiest man in the world then the next words out of her mouth crushed my soul and my man hood. "Thank God"..... she said to me "your penis is getting bigger thank God" Well I called her out on it and said are saying that I was or still inadequate? she new she screwed up and tried to say something about no that it was good because her butt was so big. The old "it's not you it's me" routine but we all know what that means.

Well I might have been able to get over that but some time latter she felt the need to tell me about how her ex was hitting on one of her friends and that he was telling her friend how "hung" he was. Why would she need to tell me this in the first place and why did she have to use that word? I'm pretty sure it was some kind of dig at me. Once again I called her out on it and she said that "well just because he says he is hung does not mean he is hung" I asked her well is he? she would not say.

This woman, my wife I Love her but she has destroyed my self esteem. I don't know if I'll ever feel good about my penis again. Especially since I've hit a wall in my Peing I'm about 6.8" bone pressed by 5.125 girth on a really good day. I just can't get past that point.

She talked me out of a great bachelor party before we got married so I just had a few drinks with a friend because she said that we should not be doing anything naughty like going to a strip club. She was supposed to come home and make love to me at 2 am that night. She did not get home till sunrise and I latter found at that she went to a strip club and was getting wasted and spanked by naked male strippers!

What the fuck have I gotten my self into? I'm not sure if I can ever be happy again with her, I have not even began to tell you about her borderline personality disorder and all her counselling sessions.

I can't seem to live with out her either. She's a lot like that chick Nancy Spungen in the Sid vicious movie "Sid and Nancy"

sorry for the rant, please share your stories and maybe we can all help each other a little.
 
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allergix

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Heaps of things made me insecure.

A girl in highschool said my dick was small because 'she'd seen it', but I'd never shown her and never taken any photos of it or anything so I don't know where that came from. Still it got to me.
Had an exgf tell me (and all her and my friends) that her new bf was way bigger than me. Turns out he gave her herpes so the joke's on her.
Had a few people tell me that my size is 'perfect for sucking' because it doesnt go so far back that they want to hurl. Which is a nice way of saying 'you're pretty standard'. LOL
All of my mates have bigger dicks than me. Yeah I have seen them.
The 'average' sizes quoted all over the net certainly don't apply to any cocks I've ever seen in my life, other than my own. And I'm a buttpirate, so I've seen my fair share of dick.
In gay world, you're a bottom if you're not well endowed, thats the rules. But I have never bottomed, not my style (not suBathmateissive, im masculine and dominant), so my size ultimately prevents me from having as much sex as I could be getting.
And lastly, I do the occasional porn shoot and nude modeling. Dick size isn't as important in gay porn, its more about good looking faces and bodies, but when you're in front of a camera it's hard not to get self conscious sometimes. And people who comment on your work don't help either.

So thats me, fag with a size complex. ;)
Over and out.
 

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Girls just do that cuz they know it is so easy to get under your skin. The second you dont let it effect you it's like nothing.
 

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robjeremy - That stripclub story sounds fucked up, life is too short not to forgive but thn again if she does stuff like this offten, its time to ler her go.
Be a man, dont let a woman rule your world. There is no reason to have any insecurities about yourself. There is plenty better women out there.
I myself could never be happy with woman whos been intimate with so many men.
 

robjeremy

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she only did that the one time but here comments about my size have been made more than once, she finally stopped about a year ago after a huge fight when I told she had to stop ever saying anything like that about my penis again. But those comments just live inside my head and will not go away. With all the men she has had I'm sure a few were huge and that always makes me insecure.
 

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Listen I know its easy to say dont let it bother you,etc. but if you are not very strong individual mentally, maybe you need some proffesional help.
Sit with somenone , talk about it and let it all go.
Other option is Penis Enlargement like a madman as I did in some period of my life, not because of insecurities, but because I wanted to physically hurt my gf with my penis.
I started 5,5x5 , Im at 8x6 now and I might very well go for 9x7 if i set my mind to do it.

With the wife, maybe the mistake is to tell her how much it hurts you and let her see that, women will always go there when they know it hurts you the most. You might try act like your fine with it, when she does it just laugh about it then after some time when she seems it does absolutely nothing with you, she wont say shit.
 

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Women are the biggest tricksters and bullshitters around. They love you one minute and hate you the next. I disagree with Konstantin on you possibly being not very strong mentally, its absurd because we have different knowledge and views of the world from our own experiences. One mans weakness per se is another mans strength and vice versa, no one is perfect and to me everyone incl myself can improve all the time ... never ever feel ashamed to ask for help and its never weakness, fuck that shit out of your head for good ... in fact erase the word weak from your vocabulary altogether.

I know of one case when a guy had so many bad experiences in life with women it sent him over the edge with a mixture or psychosis and drugs he chopped a few hookers up and placed them in the freezer. He was sentenced to life in the insane hospital, but my point for brining that up is because if he would have had HELP sooner ... 'perhaps' and 'maybe' he could have been prevented from doing what he did.

The guy also said that women had called him over his penis size as well. I only know all this because I have worked in the secure unit where he is kept and obviously cant mention links, names or locations but take it from me the hatred was kept in and when it was unleashed it wasn't good. Dont let a women or anyone else allow that to happen .... talk to someone, like us on MOS as this is a starting point for sure.
 

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As much as I hate to say this, it was the internet that made me insecure. No girl had seen my penis before and I was only kind of half-worried about it. But one day when I was on Literotica looking for a story that reassured me that it was perfectly fine, instead I discovered a whole HUGE GENRE of stories of women who get off on making fun of men for having smaller penises. I thought it was the most barbaric thing in the world. I went crazy, I went into a huge depression, I looked for therapy in all the ways I could get it. But really, there's only one girl who's seen my penis and that's my ex and she didn't think I had a small penis at all. But there was no way she could convince me of the latter because I'd only seen porn up to this point and I was her first and I KNEW. She'd never had sex with anyone. And because I was overweight my penis looked incredibly small when flaccid. I saw a site that I should have realized was a hidden attempt at playing off of men's insecurities. They mentioned Penis Enlargement as "unreliable" and their little graph showed way too many things about penises that no one should ever have to look at to see what's "acceptable".
Still does. Lack of time to exercise includes lack of Penis Enlargement. I found this site after I continued to desperately search to find at least one credible counterexample. I'm glad I found it. It helped a huge amount.
 
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Before the internet I never had any insecurities about my penis by three times in my life. The first was after I saw John Holmes in a porno. I could see he was much larger than me and for most of my life every women always told me I was huge...big let down. The second was after messing around with a stripper who told me I was big but she knew someone much bigger....ego! The last was after Jen, my girlfriend, told me she slept with a lot of guys...I thought for sure many were bigger. All and all, this was not only a waste of time to obsess over but it was destructive in my relationships with others. The internet only made things worse due to all the big dick porn. At the time I believed everything I saw and this made my insecurities worse. This is what drove me to do my studies, Is Everything Really What t Seems part I, II. I really needed to find the truth and these studies did this for me (and 1000's of other men). If you have not read my studies do so, they will change your life!
 

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Shion;406461 said:
As much as I hate to say this, it was the internet that made me insecure. No girl had seen my penis before and I was only kind of half-worried about it. But one day when I was on Literotica looking for a story that reassured me that it was perfectly fine, instead I discovered a whole HUGE GENRE of stories of women who get off on making fun of men for having smaller penises. I thought it was the most barbaric thing in the world. I went crazy, I went into a huge depression, I looked for therapy in all the ways I could get it. But really, there's only one girl who's seen my penis and that's my ex and she didn't think I had a small penis at all.
That's just garbage anyway. You're so much better than that YUUCK
 

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I started Penis Enlargement'ing after a 'small penis' comment in the middle of a huge fight with a girl I had only seen twice (but had sex with a few times). It affected me tremendously even though my boner sucked during sex with her (hence 'small'). I was average when I started.

It's fucked me up to the point of fear of intimacy which really sucks..
 

robjeremy

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Thanks Red,

I hope this thread helps others as well. You're right I'm a very mentally tough person but my Penis is my Achilles Heel. I think for a lot of guys it is as well.

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Konstantin;406450 said:
Listen I know its easy to say dont let it bother you,etc. but if you are not very strong individual mentally, maybe you need some proffesional help.
Sit with somenone , talk about it and let it all go.
Other option is Penis Enlargement like a madman as I did in some period of my life, not because of insecurities, but because I wanted to physically hurt my gf with my penis.
I started 5,5x5 , Im at 8x6 now and I might very well go for 9x7 if i set my mind to do it.

With the wife, maybe the mistake is to tell her how much it hurts you and let her see that, women will always go there when they know it hurts you the most. You might try act like your fine with it, when she does it just laugh about it then after some time when she seems it does absolutely nothing with you, she wont say shit.
 

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I think at about 13 the insecurity came. I was doing crazy stuff too like: showing the girls next door my penis ( It was 6 inches then ) and other stupid crap. Felt betrayed, because I was black and I thought were were entitled to a huge fcking shlong. Wasn't until about 18 that I came to a site offer penis enlargement, but you had to pay them about 30 a month to use it ( Plus I was working at some job at the time and didn't have enough income to keep it going ). So, I copy and pasted all of the data in order to use it. Back then, I was using the old 26k dial-up and a 250gigabytes of ram piece of shit computer, so it took a while, but I got it all down. Used the techniques for a couple of months and bounced. After that, I grew from 6.5 to about 7.5bpel and about 5 inch of erect girth. Layed-low for a while ( I guess it grew more and stopped at about 23yrs )


With the motivation from members here, I grew more. Now, I'm almost hit my 6 month newbie range with stats almost to 9bpel x 6 inch erect girth. Still a virgin and haven't layed yet, but man, what a journey. Helped me a lot in becoming more humble. Hope to gain more very soon.
 
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keepingitbig;406867 said:
I think at about 13 the insecurity came. I was doing crazy stuff too like: showing the girls next door my penis ( It was 6 inches then ) and other stupid crap. Felt betrayed, because I was black and I thought were were entitled to a huge fcking shlong. Wasn't until about 18 that I came to a site offer penis enlargement, but you had to pay them about 30 a month to use it ( Plus I was working at some job at the time and didn't have enough income to keep it going ). So, I copy and pasted all of the data in order to use it. Back then, I was using the old 26k dial-up and a 250gigabytes of ram piece of shit computer, so it took a while, but I got it all down. Used the techniques for a couple of months and bounced. After that, I grew from 6.5 to about 7.5bpel and about 5 inch of erect girth. Layed-low for a while ( I guess it grew more and stopped at about 23yrs )


With the motivation from members here, I grew more. Now, I'm almost hit my 6 month newbie range with stats almost to 9bpel x 6 inch erect girth. Still a virgin and haven't layed yet, but man, what a journey. Helped me a lot in becoming more humble. Hope to gain more very soon.
You sound like you have been dedicated for a while. I am happy you found MOS but even happier you have an internet connection that is faster than 26K:)
 

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The size of your penis is the least important care on someones mind when they are mad at you. It is easy to use because our penis' are easier targets than vaginas no matter the quality of the pussy. Trust me, the only time the actual size of your penis can matter is while being intimate, and that is only about 10.75% of sex
 

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Turnover;409567 said:
The size of your penis is the least important care on someones mind when they are mad at you. It is easy to use because our penis' are easier targets than vaginas no matter the quality of the pussy. Trust me, the only time the actual size of your penis can matter is while being intimate, and that is only about 10.75% of sex
Yup, excellent point and EXTREMELY true!
 

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Well, my insecurities have always been linked to underlying doubts concerning my masculinity.

When I was younger, I was very thin and not very athletic (always excelling more in intellectual activities.) I couldn't help but compare myself with the other young boys who played sports and did well at them, who seemed much more muscular, who seemed more confident with the ladies.

At one point, I even wondered (illogically, but still) if there had been some mistake in my formation in the womb, if I had actually been supposed to be a girl, and had ended up with a penis somehow by mistake.

Having been molested by a close relative of mine when I was a little kid certainly didn't help matters: it made me have a subconscious fear of sexuality, and doubts towards my own. Despite having no evidence whatsoever to suggest this, throughout my High School years I often entertained the thought that since I'd never had any success with girls, it might be possible I was homosexual.

I have nothing against homosexuals, it's just that I know that I'm not. I experienced such doubts concerning myself and my masculinity that I even doubted my own intrinsic nature.

I got into pornography to try to make myself feel better. But what should I find except an unlimited supply of guys with dicks way bigger than mine, who have way more muscles than me?

I decided to do something about my lankiness. I realized that muscles would never magically appear on me, I would have to earn them. So I started going to the gym, modified my diet: in essence, I set up a routine. I was skeptical at first, but within half a year, I gained 8 lbs of muscle, and I'm still going.

I'd always kind of also wished there was something I could do about my penis, but my skeptical (or rather, street smart) nature prevented me from being taken in by offers of "magic pills ." This skepticism for the longest time also extended towards any sort of exercises.

I did thorough research on the subject, and I linked my logic towards the subject with my results in weightlifting. I gained confidence in Kegeling first, as I figured this was actually a muscle being worked and therefore was 100% medically sound.

I'm still a little... doubtful about it all, but from what I know, there is scientific validity to the idea. After all, the inner tissue of the penis is much like a sponge, except that it heals itself and regenerates. If you stretch the sponge and pull it, it will heal and fill in, making the stretch permanent.

I've just recently started seriously, and have yet to see any results, but I'm hopeful.

Just so that you all know, I've conquered most of my personal insecurities by deciding to take a positive, proactive outlook on life, and not let the past bother me so much. The past can't be changed, but the future still can. I believe with all my heart that only you can decide your own quality of life.

I'm well aware now that my penis is decent sized. However, it is important to me for my own self-improvement, and for the enjoyment of my future soul mate that I do what I can in order to put in that little extra that makes the difference between ordinary and extraordinary.

Initial Stats:

BPenis EnlargementL: 6.5"
FL: 3.75"
Penis EnlargementC: 4.75"

Goals:

BPenis EnlargementL: 8"
FL: N/A
Penis EnlargementC: 5.25"
 

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I had the normal insecurities guys have as a teen due to porn, but it got worse when I had a hernia operation at 22. The doc told me post op that I did good "for a little guy". I was 5'9" but lifted weights, so I wasn't physically little stature wise. That comment stuck with me and really led to me finding Penis Enlargement.
 

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I'm so glad I was so insecure : otherwise I wouldn't have known how good this way is
 

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I think it's becuz ppl make men ashamed of masturbation yet women can flaunt masturbation at men or at each other, and what do men do: all stare like the green aliens from Toy Story. So women tease men about it, and then guys will kick other guys asses over it too! dont get me started on women who try and make you think it not ok to do it "dont masturbate" (Hilary Clinton)
 
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