Help with a situation

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I've been dating a girl for a little over a month now and we're both falling for each other. We met last year, after she had broken up with a guy she had been dating for about three years. We dated for about month last year, then she got reeled back into the ex. That didn't last very long, maybe a couple of weeks, but I didn't want to have anything to do with her. I would see her out, but I wouldn't speak to her.

The summer rolls by...

I start hearing from every direction that she regrets what she did. Still not interested. I get cornered by some of her friends and they beg me to just talk to her, they tell how much she regrets ditching me blah, blah, blah...I get drunk one night and decide to talk to her. I'm being an asshole to her, and she is appologetic...but the two of us just seem to click and I go home with her. I'm still bitter and won't let go of my pride, so I don't call her. A couple months go by and I do the same thing. Then ,once again, I hear from everywhere that she really likes me, would do anything to make it up to me...she corners my best friend one night and the next day he corners me, and he is like 'Dude, you really need to call her, I talked to her for a long time and...'

So, I swallow my pride and take her out. Everything is great, we click like magic...She's a very straight forward, honest girl, so she fills me in on a few things because she wanted me to find out from her and not from someone else. During the time I was being a dick to her, not speaking to her..., she had been sleeping with one of my friends. Which really pissed me off at first, but in reality I wan't giving her the time of day and nothing was going to happen between us. I looked over that.

Which brings us to now. We went out last night, had a few drinks and were having a really good time. Go back to her place, and somehow the conversation leads to me asking if she had slept with anyone else, which leads to me finding out that she had slept with two other guys that I know(not friends but would speak to them at the bar for a minute).

This is bothering the hell out of me. If I had known this before I wouldn't have thought about trying things out with her again. But, the situation is that she really hasn't done anything wrong, and we are really good together.

I could go on a little bit more, but I think I've rambled long enough. As it stands, what she's done would have never had happened if I hadn't messed with her head. Am I being silly for stressing about this?
 
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I personally don't care if a girl I am just seeing is sleeping with anyone else basically she's gonna do it if she wants no matter what, so I don't ask for details....I mean making sure she's not loaded with VD is one thing but asking for a list of guys she is seeing or has seen is something else...and is usually irrelevant and unproductive.

Cut out the she wouldn't have done it if you didn't act the way you did thoughts....its in the past either deal with it or cut her out of your reality....also it seems like she gets it on or has gotten it on alot within your same social circle so the truth is I would party with her but not take it very seriously.....

Also it seems like you take her back whenever she wants you back so the TRUTH my friend is that she is doing her thing and when she gets bored or lonely or whatever tries to hook up with you again....if you broke up with her each time you must have had a reason so why are you taking her back....or if she dumped you she had her reason and will continue to dump you for another guy....get your head straight bro....and good luck...any more questions ask away.

By the way how old are you and how do you know this girl?
 
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I'm 24 she's 23 and we met through a mutual friend.

Everything is cool now. I was stressed out about quite a few changes that are taking place in my life right now(new job, grad school, my penis getting bigger and demanding more room in my pants :p). To top it off, we were drunk when we got into it.

Thanks for the advice. My head is back in the game!
 
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