Heartbroken...

Zambrodom3 · Jun 23, 2014

Hey boys! I am back, I have been abcent for 3 weeks now, but I have my reasons. My story is long, but I would try to keep it as short as possible. I am here to hear what you think and to hear what you would advise me to do. I am in a very shit situation and I do not know what to do....

I met this girl on facebook 2 months ago, on a group of the staff we are in now. We work for a party company in Sunny Beach (the wild horny drunk party sex of Bulgaria). Here we get LOTS of tourists coming only to drink like crazy and fuck like crazier. Girls, boys, everything is here to drink and fuck and nothing more....

We met on facebook and it did not take long for me to see how supportive and understanding she is. How good and kind she is. How much she cares about me and how much she is the 1st girl to ever make me feel like I am a full confident man. She was having hard times when we chatted, idiot me- I stayed awake, spent all my free time with her- showing her, telling her how much I support her, care about her, love her.... Even in her hardest times, when she was in pain and crying, shaking, begging for help- I still was there staying awake, spending ALL my free time with her instead of doing my own stuff. Time passed and we met a week ago, this must have been one of the worst weeks I have ever had in my life... I was standing there on the parties looking at how the one I loved, who had spent all her hard moments with me kissing and fucking random guys in front of me. I asked her "Why do you spend time with people who can only be with you in the best time of theirs- drunk and horny? It is the easiest to be with such a girl... why dont you spend time with the people who would be with you no matter what, no matter where or when. Is there something anyone else can give you that I cant?".... Her answer was "there is nothing you cant and they can give me". It was a deal we had made- no feelings, just friends with benefits, she is not the bad one, it is just my fault that I fell in love. But please brothers, tell me, help me- WHAT should I do??? I see the girl I love fucking my colleagues (the ones I see every day) like crazy, kissing them, fucking them in front of me and I still cant say anything about it cause that was the deal- NO FEELINGS. I am NO ONE to tell her who she can fuck or not- I am not her boyfriend or anything. This is her life and I want to put no limits on what she can and cant do- I dont have the right to do so... I am just a friend and nothing more. When she is drunk, she treats me like shit and treats everyone else nice.... when she is sober she has problems and I am the only one that would LOVE to spend his time with her helping her, making her smile... To me her smile means a LOT!!! We had sex a few times... she orgasmed 5 times, I orgasmed 1 time, cause she asked me to... The only orgasm I want is hers, the only smile I want to see is on her face, the only one I enjoy spending time with no matter how bad she feels is her.... and I only get a broken heart... An idiot I am for STILL giving my love to someone who only hurts me and breaks me every time I see her with someone else, but what can I do- people tell me- leave her, she is not for you, what are you doing with her, you can do MUCH better, you deserve MUCH better... and I know it, but my mind and my heart dont go along it seems...

To me brothers, you mean a lot, to me you are a family that I can give my love to and still get love back. Please, help me....

pdguy · Jun 23, 2014

Your only 21, you have your whole life yet to fall in love with a girl who can be
loyal to you if that is what you want. Push her out of your heart before she
kills you emotionally. Are you really in love with her or just in lust with her?

Your better than that, you don't need one girl dragging you down each day
By now you should have the confidence to go out and get the one you really
want because you really don't want her (watching her fuck other guys all
day) you really want to be loved back and she's not that type of girl.
Just ignore the bitch and go on with your life.

Hope this helps you, if not I will have to find you in person and knock
some sense into you. Good luck.

wazedi · Jun 23, 2014

I totaly understand you....i know you expecting to go for her and try.but that not easy.i actually understand you cause that remind me a lot my ex-girlfriend.i was in love him her smile.i was doing everything i could so i can make her happy.after sometime she loved me and she loved the way i was such a nice guy.but you know what?she was still a slutty bitch.and that was a challenge for me to change her,make her a better person.But when we start fighting about our relationship problems(we was 1.5 year together) she start fucking around again.i learn it and we broke up.it was one of my worst period of my life because i gave everything and took nothing back.but i guess thats how relationships work sometimes.i still feel some pain...one year after we break up but that bitch create a small monster.i dont care much about women's feeling that much.i dont know if that good or bad.when we break up i was so angry with me cause i knew she was like that.i could see it,and i was still there.i did nothing but still trying.anyway...my advice is stay away from her.from my experience you cant change a person when she never have the willing to change her self.the only thing i am glad for our breaking up is that she make me wanna make a huge cock.so everygirl i fuck will remember it!!!stay away from that pain.sometime you will learn something hillarious about her and you will stop thinking about her the same way

STAY HARD DUDE

Lightning · Jun 23, 2014

Hello Zam, first off we missed you here brother and so happy to have you back. I was starting to wonder where you went.

I was once in your shoes. I messed around with many younger sluts, �� actresses and strippers looking for love in all the wrong places. I would do exactly what you are doing now. Spend all my time listening and supporting all their problems and giving them good advice, love, and entertaining and holding them. All this to find out I was just a side dude or a sugar daddy.

Just like I once was, it sounds like you are the nice, mushy, needy guy and most young immature girls don't want a nice guy, they want a bad boy or thug in the younger years of their life. You are going to have to get past this and find a more mature lady at least 28 years old or preferably early 30's who has got past the party and slut stages of her life and is not thinking about random cock everyday. You may be able to find a younger girl who has a kid already that settled down and matured faster from having and raising a kid. You are a mushy that got trapped with a slut and it happens to the best of us. I grew a steel heart due to this happening to me many times when I was younger that when I did meet good mature women that wanted to be a strong relationship with me, I ended up treating them like shit. It took many years for me to study women and girls and learn the game and learn how to love and fully trust the right person once I meet them and that didn't happened until a few years ago.

So my brother, I leave you with this. Find another lady to get over this one but look for someone mature and settled if that is what you want right now. It don't make no sense crying to her telling her how much you love her because that is a turn off to her and she will use you more and pull you in deeper. You are better off ignoring her and playing the bad boy that don't have time for her when she needs you. Then she will start missing you. Maybe even start showing up around her with some other really hot chicks or girlfriends of yours to make her see you don't need her. Maybe get some really hot chicks to start hitting you on Facebook so she see's that. Girls want boys that other girls want. At this age, it is all a game brother and you must know the game to get what you want. I wish you the best.

Anthony78 · Jun 23, 2014

It's easy. You want what you can't have. I went through the same situation in 07. The best thing got you to do is ignore her and stay away from her. Girls like that are mentally unstable and she's playing games with you. Stay away from her for a month. Don't look at her don't talk to her and DO NOT MENTION HER TO ANYONE YOU WORK WITH. Then she will try to talk to you.

DLD · Jun 23, 2014

Anthony78;587693 said:
It's easy. You want what you can't have.

The number one cause of Heartbreak!

Zam, We love you here and you have the full support of the Brotherhood. You will be in my prayers.

Disco Dave · Jun 23, 2014

Hey Zam; I was 2 days away from starting a "Where The Heck IS Zam" thread. Lol. Iam not lying. Good to see you back. Now from the words of the ancient Romans. "You cant turn a hooker into a house wife" LoL. So simply fuck her in the ass and then smack that broad with a dirty,sweaty Flaccid Jackit and be done with her. If you dont have a Jackit, then you can use mine. Lol. But on a real note, Dont look at her. Look through her. She has no self respect and she cant learn that over night. Time is precious so dont waste yours. She will only become serious with you when she needs a father for her unborn baby that may not be yours. Semper Fi.

DLD · Jun 23, 2014

Disco Dave;587721 said:
Hey Zam; I was 2 days away from starting a "Where The Heck IS Zam" thread.

Thumbs up for the LOVE this Brotherhood has!

Lightning · Jun 23, 2014

Disco Dave;587721 said:
She will only become serious with you when she needs a father for her unborn baby that may not be yours. Semper Fi.

So fuckin true. In fact, one of the strippers I was fucking with that dragged me in deep ended up getting knocked up from someone else while I was with her. When I found out, she bragged on how he was going to take care of her and the unborn baby. That dude completely dissed her and left her hanging and then she tried to come back crawling and crying. By then I already met another chick I started getting serious with. The chick I was with was cool with me being in a polygamy relationship and the other girl that got knocked up was down with it as well. However I said fuck that hoe and left here hanging. She ended up moving back with her mom and got on welfare. She named the baby after me.

DLD · Jun 23, 2014

LIGHTNING;587728 said:
She named the baby after me.

Thoughtful Ho

tef1 · Jun 23, 2014

Let her go Zam. You don't want someone who is fucking other guys in front of you. Find someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve.

DLD · Jun 23, 2014

tef1;587741 said:
Let her go Zam. You don't want someone who is fucking other guys in front of you. Find someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve.

She is out there and she will be the one that gets you through this! Keep your head up Zam!

Shenlong · Jun 23, 2014

Wait, you had an agreement? Was this before or after your facebook chats because, if I'm reading this right, the agreement didn't come into the picture until you met IRL and, if so I have two questions:
1) Why did you agree to that?
2) Do you honestly think she's unaware of your inability to keep feelings out of it?

Unless I'm misinterpreting your post, she's using you.

smerc · Jun 23, 2014

What Anthony78 said + what LIGHTNING said about badboys.

Ignore her and whenever or if-ever she tries to get back to you, don't pay her as much attention as you used to (don't respond as quickly and respond less than she does to you).
This will show you how much you actually mean to her if she gets back to you or tries to pull you in closer.

If you're part of the circle of people that actually care about her and she sees you slipping away, but still doesn't do shit about it, then you know how much she is worth in that regard.

I have just recently, had a relative that always came to me for support, talking, and ETC. Only to have it go in one ear and out there other. My point, a lot of women in their younger ages are all the same.
Some people just want to use you as a sensitive outlet, while they fuck other dudes that don't give 2 shits about them.

You don't HAVE to be an alpha, but I would suggest you don't put up w/ peoples (women's) bullshit.

It was a deal we had made- no feelings, just friends with benefits, she is not the bad one, it is just my fault that I fell in love.

Yes. You fucked up. If you want exclusivity, then go for it. If this deal can't be made. Then settle for a new FWB as you're only digging yourself into an emotional hole.
You sound obsessed the girl, that's not good @ all.

smerc · Jun 23, 2014

Shenlong;587751 said:
Wait, you had an agreement? Was this before or after your facebook chats because, if I'm reading this right, the agreement didn't come into the picture until you met IRL and, if so I have two questions:
1) Why did you agree to that?
2) Do you honestly think she's unaware of your inability to keep feelings out of it?

Curious to know as well.

You almost made it seem like you thought she knew you, before she even met you.
As well he you saying you care about her and love her, before you even met her.
Hopefully this is not the case. I feel my sanity slipping away.

You also mentioned her fucking random guys in front of you. Do you mean literally? Or do you mean the process of guys gaming her and her leaving TO GET fucked by them.

Disco Dave · Jun 23, 2014

Originally Posted by LIGHTNING
She named the baby after me.

doublelongdaddy;587730 said:
Thoughtful Ho

Now that is the funniest follow up I read all day. I almost spit my drink on my phone.

Zambrodom3 · Jun 24, 2014

Thanks A LOT guys, thanks a LOT everyone- for the support and care. MOS is the 1 place I know I will never be heartbroken at

. You are all right, we have talked a lot of facebook and her most honest answer to the question "what turns you on the most" was "what I can't have, I am not interested in guys I can have". I realize this CLEARLY. It is just hard to stay away... WAS hard, today I've been doing my job pretty well with her

.

The way it was- I have never been in love with a girl. When we started chatting SO much I started sharing my story with her (I've had some hard childhood etc.) and she was the only one person that made me feel supported. I, as a person need to know that someone out there needs me and cares about me (what she was like when she was sick), my heart is FULL of love and I just need to point it towards someone

. I fell in love with her over facebook, because she was the 1st person to need me, to care about me... WAS.

The reason on why I agreed on the friends with benefits is that I am NO ONE to tell her what to do. The 1st time she did this, she came to me being sorry. I looked at her and said- Do whatever you want, do whatever you like. This is your summer and just have fun, do whatever you feel like doing. I DONT want to force her doing something she does not want to.... I want her to FEEL that she wants me, I dont want to limit her. If she does not love me, then I am NO ONE to tell her what she should do, with who she should do.

Come to thinkof it- we are COMPLETELY different. I want a family with kids, I want to give all my love to something... she HATES children and does NOT want to get married... EVER. What actually got me into her was that she was the only girl to make me feel SPECIAL. The only 1 to make me feel like I am a full confident man (cause I am very shy

).

Today is her birthday... last night (when her birthday started- after 00:00)- she saw I wanted to be with her, but for some reason she does not want to have sex with me as well. She is kissing people in front of me (I am SURE she did that to hurt me intentionally). 4 days ago I went to her and told her- is that what you want- not love, but people to treat you as a pieceof meat? If that is what you want- then this is what you will be to me as well! She got angry at this, cause she does not want this, but the way I see it is this ACTUALLY!!!! Last night I treated her like that- she started hitting me and pushing me. 4 guys were undressing her and licking her boobs, kissing her lips in front of me (less than a meter away from me). She was just laughing.... I made her a present today- one she would love and she loved BUT I did this just to let her see how nice I am and what she just LOST. From now on- I will not pay attention to her, cause she LOST ME. And guys- I dont want to have sex.... I want to make love. If I get another girl it would not be what I want, and if I ever fuck her- I would make LOVE to her. But that does not matter... FUCK HER!!!!!

I am infinitely thankful for ALL your support and advices, I read and FELT every comment!!!!!! This got me MOTIVATED, the other guys she fucks REGULARLY,EVERY night in front of me is 23 cm-er (9 incher)... (he looked like a 7.5, but he said it is 9... YEA RIGHT

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!). This is just motivation to me, this is just what I need!!!

It will be soon that I will be back with vengance- spamming posts, trying to help and get help. Now, I am going to the party and I will see her fucking people again, but this time I would be just laughing, thinking on how bitchy this slut can actually be! Cheers MOS!!!! You are something MUCH more than a site to me... you are my FAMILY!!!!! I hug every single one of you and know that Zam's heart is full of love, specially for you ALL!

Lightning · Jun 24, 2014

Disco Dave;587755 said:
Originally Posted by LIGHTNING
She named the baby after me.
Now that is the funniest follow up I read all day. I almost spit my drink on my phone.

True fucking story dudes.

Lightning · Jun 24, 2014

Zambrodom3;587788 said:
Thanks A LOT guys, thanks a LOT everyone- for the support and care. MOS is the 1 place I know I will never be heartbroken at . You are all right, we have talked a lot of facebook and her most honest answer to the question "what turns you on the most" was "what I can't have, I am not interested in guys I can have". I realize this CLEARLY. It is just hard to stay away... WAS hard, today I've been doing my job pretty well with her .

The way it was- I have never been in love with a girl. When we started chatting SO much I started sharing my story with her (I've had some hard childhood etc.) and she was the only one person that made me feel supported. I, as a person need to know that someone out there needs me and cares about me (what she was like when she was sick), my heart is FULL of love and I just need to point it towards someone . I fell in love with her over facebook, because she was the 1st person to need me, to care about me... WAS.

The reason on why I agreed on the friends with benefits is that I am NO ONE to tell her what to do. The 1st time she did this, she came to me being sorry. I looked at her and said- Do whatever you want, do whatever you like. This is your summer and just have fun, do whatever you feel like doing. I DONT want to force her doing something she does not want to.... I want her to FEEL that she wants me, I dont want to limit her. If she does not love me, then I am NO ONE to tell her what she should do, with who she should do.

Come to thinkof it- we are COMPLETELY different. I want a family with kids, I want to give all my love to something... she HATES children and does NOT want to get married... EVER. What actually got me into her was that she was the only girl to make me feel SPECIAL. The only 1 to make me feel like I am a full confident man (cause I am very shy ).

Today is her birthday... last night (when her birthday started- after 00:00)- she saw I wanted to be with her, but for some reason she does not want to have sex with me as well. She is kissing people in front of me (I am SURE she did that to hurt me intentionally). 4 days ago I went to her and told her- is that what you want- not love, but people to treat you as a pieceof meat? If that is what you want- then this is what you will be to me as well! She got angry at this, cause she does not want this, but the way I see it is this ACTUALLY!!!! Last night I treated her like that- she started hitting me and pushing me. 4 guys were undressing her and licking her boobs, kissing her lips in front of me (less than a meter away from me). She was just laughing.... I made her a present today- one she would love and she loved BUT I did this just to let her see how nice I am and what she just LOST. From now on- I will not pay attention to her, cause she LOST ME. And guys- I dont want to have sex.... I want to make love. If I get another girl it would not be what I want, and if I ever fuck her- I would make LOVE to her. But that does not matter... FUCK HER!!!!!

I am infinitely thankful for ALL your support and advices, I read and FELT every comment!!!!!! This got me MOTIVATED, the other guys she fucks REGULARLY,EVERY night in front of me is 23 cm-er (9 incher)... (he looked like a 7.5, but he said it is 9... YEA RIGHT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!). This is just motivation to me, this is just what I need!!! It will be soon that I will be back with vengance- spamming posts, trying to help and get help. Now, I am going to the party and I will see her fucking people again, but this time I would be just laughing, thinking on how bitchy this slut can actually be! Cheers MOS!!!! You are something MUCH more than a site to me... you are my FAMILY!!!!! I hug every single one of you and know that Zam's heart is full of love, specially for you ALL!

Zam how old are you?

Zambrodom3;587788 said:
her most honest answer to the question "what turns you on the most" was "what I can't have, I am not interested in guys I can have".

She answered your question there. Since you need her so bad, she is so turned off. Girls don't want a needy man, that is a big turn off. She probably see's you as a big brother that fucked her before now. She wants bad boys and thugs not nice needy guys as I explained earlier.

Women love stories and love to gossip. Whether it be problems from someone else to make her problems seem smaller or having someone to tell her problems and stories to. You are basically stuck in the friend zone. Either be her friend and let a million men fuck her brains out everyday and get over it or move the fuck on and disappear out of her life. She is using you dude.

smerc · Jun 24, 2014

Let her see you w/ another girl. I heard it's a good feeling. Unless someone gets feisty.

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