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Ok, let me try to make this short..

my girlfriend lost her virginity to me, I have had sex with one other girl prior..which we only had sex ONE time that I would say was pretty decent..So im not very sexually experienced..

my problem is, my girlfriend now is really tight, she lost her virginity 2 me and was in a lot of pain..It still hurts her sometimes when I GO IN HER..she is timid and doesnt get loose in bed..she is stiff 2..basically, Im not the biggest guy in the world either.. flaccid im like 3 inches and erect im like 6' I dont know if its my penis size or what..at times I think it is..at times i think it isint because when I go in her deep it hurts her. Maybe she doesnt enjoy it bcuz I dont have enough GIRTH! I dont know what it is..sometimes I cum to quickly, cuz she is so stiff I feel like im having sex with her while she is running away/pulling...so I cannot satisfy her..only orally..I feel bad sometimes, I think its my size or I am just clueless..I wish I could last longer and make her enjoy sex...

we were having a chat at the beach with some of our friends and I over heard my girlfriends best friend saying how she recently lost her virginity and it was the BEST FEELING EVER...it makes me feel bad..I want my g/f to experience that 2 . any advice or comments..?
 

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pyro, my first wife was a virgin and my situation was very similar. The first time we had sex it was painful for her. My size at that time was around 6" also. Over time things got better and so did the sex. A virgin requires a lot of patients and time. Take your time, experiment with her, find out what she likes and dislikes. Having a VERY open sexual duologue is so vital in a relationship and when things can be discussed openly both of you will benefit. I can assure you now Jennifer does not like certain positions because of pain, and she IS experienced. So we have a very open sexual relationship where we both know what we like and dislike.

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Hey Pyro,

Do You have ForePlay? If You are jumping straight into Intercourse this could be a reason for her pulling away. If she has not gotten Horny enough to want you, she is probably feeling stiff to you because she is not ready for Intercourse. Maybe you should try to get her Real hot and wet with your hand first to try to loosen her up then try to penetrate her (Gently Please!!!).

There is a Great Piece of Info Floating around in here about Sex.

Oh, Here it is...

http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=533

Hope it helps you out, it helped me out.
 

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Just thought Ill let you guys know whats going on...

I can penetrate her now with almost no pain to start but the only problem is we dont have sex very often, so sometimes I get to excited and cum to quickly..any ideas?
 
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Hey pyro-

I'm pretty new here, but here's my two cents...just relax a little..this is just sex...like DLD said, an open dialogue is SOOOOOOO esential dude....I can't even explain to you how important this is. The first time I had sex back when I was 16, (I'm 27 now), it was f-ing TERRIBLE, dude....TER-I-BULL!!! For me and for her. You just have to communicate with each other...tell her what feels good to you, ask her what feels good to her...there's no shame in that, dude...nobody is a mind reader. make sure YOU'RE having a good time too...don't only worry about her...It'll get better dude, for sure.
 
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I actually wanted to write a bit more on this subject but I was interrupted last night...the other thing I wanted to say was, don't go by what your girlfriend's friend said....she could be lying out her ass and you'd never know the difference...who knows? maybe she's not lying...maybe it was easier for her because she masturbated frequently growing up, isn't as tight as your girl, etc, etc...you'll never know. but I'm willing to bet she's talking out her ass. Most women I've known said their first time was "less than extraordinary"...ESPenis EnlargementCIALLY the ones who lost it to guys who were also having their first time or guys who didn't have a lot of experience.

Anyways, just my two cents, dude...but it will get better, for sure.
 
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Hey Pyro,

I had the same problem with my X-Grilfriend, she wasn’t a virgin, I was her second. However, she was still waaaaaay to tight and most of the time it hurt her. I did figure out a way to solve my problem.

- Try to use lube.
- Make her dripping wet.
- have a long foreplay
- tease her
- talk dirty to her.
- talk to her before sex, tell her that you care, that you will be careful, that you will make sure that she enjoys it.
She is just to scared, since her past sex experiences were painful, it’s not your fault. You didn’t do anything wrong. That is why she cannot relax, that is why she cannot get horny as she is supposed to, and that is why she is so tight, and it hurts her. There is nothing you are doing wrong. All you can do is make sure that she relaxes before sex, and that you get her dripping wet.

About you cumming to fast: I had that same problem too 5 years ago when I was fifteen. There is nothing you can do about it right now. No, just kidding. There actually is, this is what helped me to hold out longer during sex.

Basically have the girl go on top of you. If she starts stroking up and down, tell her not to do that. Tell her to stroke Front to Back. This will increase the stimulation on her side, and decrease yours. TRY IT. It helped me a lot, and every time I had a girl on top of me riding front to back, EVERY TIME the girl came before me.

After she cums, you can just bang her the way you want to, and finish it off.

I hope this helps dude, that “girl on top riding front to back” really helped me.

Make sure you use a condom , don’t f**k around with shit like that. Also let me know if you need more advice, Ill be glad to help you.
John S.
 

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Finger her till she comes like a beast. And when that's done go down on her for 10 minutes. Then when she is absolutely shaking and dripping tease her with your penis for a little bit - don't put it in right away rub her with it and the put in one inch at a time.

I broke in my woman with that one inch at a time idea. I took her virginity over a period of one month. She was completely satisfied every single time and passed out from pleasure a few times. By the time it was fully it, her vagina had adapted nicely. She's completely open about trying anything new with me at the drop of a hat because she knows that it will always be pleasurable for her and I will always protect her the best that I can from pain.

The biggest thing that she complained about when I was breaking her in was burning in the shower afterwards and a little discomfort for a day after.... slowly, very slowly :)

It will even work at this stage of the game since she is very tight.
 

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You need to loosen her up. If she is to tight not only will she feel uncomfortable but it will make you cum quicker. I would recommend you use Astro Glide. Its a gread lubricant for intercourse. Good Luck!
 

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Originally posted by JohnSchwab909
Hey Pyro,

I had the same problem with my X-Grilfriend, she wasn’t a virgin, I was her second. However, she was still waaaaaay to tight and most of the time it hurt her. I did figure out a way to solve my problem.

- Try to use lube.
- Make her dripping wet.
- have a long foreplay
- tease her
- talk dirty to her.
- talk to her before sex, tell her that you care, that you will be careful, that you will make sure that she enjoys it.
She is just to scared, since her past sex experiences were painful, it’s not your fault. You didn’t do anything wrong. That is why she cannot relax, that is why she cannot get horny as she is supposed to, and that is why she is so tight, and it hurts her. There is nothing you are doing wrong. All you can do is make sure that she relaxes before sex, and that you get her dripping wet.

About you cumming to fast: I had that same problem too 5 years ago when I was fifteen. There is nothing you can do about it right now. No, just kidding. There actually is, this is what helped me to hold out longer during sex.

Basically have the girl go on top of you. If she starts stroking up and down, tell her not to do that. Tell her to stroke Front to Back. This will increase the stimulation on her side, and decrease yours. TRY IT. It helped me a lot, and every time I had a girl on top of me riding front to back, EVERY TIME the girl came before me.

After she cums, you can just bang her the way you want to, and finish it off.

I hope this helps dude, that “girl on top riding front to back” really helped me.

Make sure you use a condom , don’t f**k around with shit like that. Also let me know if you need more advice, Ill be glad to help you.
John S.

that is the best advice that anyone could ever give in my opinion. i couldn't have said it better myself.

except i do not use a condom my girl is on the pill and we're just lettin it fly now :cool:
 

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Originally posted by JohnSchwab909
Hey Pyro,

I had the same problem with my X-Grilfriend, she wasn’t a virgin, I was her second. However, she was still waaaaaay to tight and most of the time it hurt her. I did figure out a way to solve my problem.

- Try to use lube.
- Make her dripping wet.
- have a long foreplay
- tease her
- talk dirty to her.
- talk to her before sex, tell her that you care, that you will be careful, that you will make sure that she enjoys it.
She is just to scared, since her past sex experiences were painful, it’s not your fault. You didn’t do anything wrong. That is why she cannot relax, that is why she cannot get horny as she is supposed to, and that is why she is so tight, and it hurts her. There is nothing you are doing wrong. All you can do is make sure that she relaxes before sex, and that you get her dripping wet.

About you cumming to fast: I had that same problem too 5 years ago when I was fifteen. There is nothing you can do about it right now. No, just kidding. There actually is, this is what helped me to hold out longer during sex.

Basically have the girl go on top of you. If she starts stroking up and down, tell her not to do that. Tell her to stroke Front to Back. This will increase the stimulation on her side, and decrease yours. TRY IT. It helped me a lot, and every time I had a girl on top of me riding front to back, EVERY TIME the girl came before me.

After she cums, you can just bang her the way you want to, and finish it off.

I hope this helps dude, that “girl on top riding front to back” really helped me.

Make sure you use a condom , don’t f**k around with shit like that. Also let me know if you need more advice, Ill be glad to help you.
John S.
That was a great first post.


Pyro I can add nothing to what these guys have already said. It's great advise!

Edit: This thread should help with cumming fast http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=1614
 
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