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aright heres my latest problem w/ my gf of over a year...she recently found out that her mother has cancer...she has since become boring in every way a gf can be. we dont go out...she calls herself a homebody now....she gets dressed up all nice to go to work or if shes goin somewhere but for me she sits around in pj pants and a huge tshirt all day...and she wont have sex w/ me anymore...i have been home from school for over a month now and i could count on 1 hand the amount of times we fucked. on top of all of this we fight everyday and its she blames it all on me...too blind to see that the fact that she may have too much to deal w./ and cant handle it any other way than takin it out on me. what should i do? i mean this is the time she needs me most bbut on the other hand its like im not gonna waste my college years w/ someone who has become soooo different than the girl i fell in love with
 
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Well, ...Is this the girl you want to marry. If you love her, then suck it up and do what you have to do to help her through this time, which will likely be one of the toughest, if not THE toughest of her life. If you just see her as your college girlfriend and are more concerned with having fun while in college then just try to bow out with dignity...but be aware, she will probably always see you as the guy who bailed when she going through a tough time.

These are things happen in relationships. It's part of life. If you absolutely can't deal with how she's acting under the circumstances, I would learn from it. Personally, I would probably stick with her- be her friend and be supportive- until the situation gets a little better- things smooth out, cancer goes away, or, worst case, mom dies. Then break it off with her. But I wouldn't drop her during a hard time like this; not only will she probably never forgive you, but if you have half a conscience, you will feel guilty about it when you get a little older and more mature and have experienced some tough times yourself AND she will tell all her friends and a lot of people will see you as an asshole.

Best of luck, though. I know it's hard...I've been there. My wife's dad died while we were going out, before we got married, and it was tough at times. We stuck it out, though, and I'm glad.
 
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My gf did the same thing to me awhile back and it was having an effect on our relationship, it got so bad that i told her to go and talk to her family doctor about what was happening, and he ended up giving her something from depression. After a few weeks we got along much better, and we did finally end up married. Maybe the stress of her mother being sick is just to much for her and she just needs a little help from the doc.
Just my 2 cents
 
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