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Bottom line, I've been fucking up during sex. My current g/f, when we started having sex.. things were pretty good. Sometimes I last for quite a while and can manage to stay hard. However, now.. it feels like whenever I roll on a condom , I feel like ejaculating like right away. Then there are other times when I can't stay hard.. ionno what's going on, I've given thoughts on using generic viagra.. I have some in my desk, but I'm only 19.. I just got this notion in my head that I'll become to reliant on it? So.. I don't get it, I didn't have a problem staying hard and not climaxing so early, but now it happens everytime. I been doing kegels to try and have better control, but I'm still working on that. I tried breathing different, clearing my thoughts, etc etc. Just doesn't seem to work. Anymore advice that anyone can give me? :s
 

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Try this:

Jerk off before having sex with your girl. That oughta slow you down. If you're afraid you won't be able to get it up if you jerk off before you fuck her, you always have that generic Viagra, right? I think your problem is solved right there, bro.

You won't become dependent on it, so don't worry.
 
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Hey I kinda had same problems when I first started having sex. Just relax and stop thinkin about it. Let it happen. Get a raging boner that always seems to help. Let it happen. When you are having sex concentrate on pleasing the woman and also try to enjoy yourself.

Also, if you masturbate 40-60 minutes beforehand you will last forever.
 

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Don't obsess over the girl's pleasure too much dude. Worry about your own. She'll cum on her own, whatever. Have fun feeling your own pleasure. If you're worried about making her cum, eat her out before you fuck.
If she's the understanding type, then talk to her about your concerns... maybe she'll try to help you. You don't have to be wishy-washy about it, just talk it out with her. If she's really worthwhle, she'll gladly help you overcome your "problem".

It won't be a problem for long. Use that Viagra. Completing the sexual act in a proper manner will boost your confidence so that next time, you won't need that Viagra.
 
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you dont have to take the whole Viagra pill if you dont want to. How many milligrams are they? Because you can split them into halves or even fourths. I think Stillwantmore does this.

But thats kinda weird. You almost cum from just puttin on the condom ?

If you and your girl arent cheating, then see if she'll take birth control. Then you can ditch the condom and practice and train yourself, w/ your girl, to last forever. Because nothing feels better than all natural skin on skin.
 
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Hey guys, thanks for posting back. Yeah, the viagra is 100 mg.. and i split them into fourths. I'll try what each of you have said though. I normally don't cum when just putting on a condom , it happened like once. For some reason, I think performing well for me depends on some factors. For instance, I'm a college student and I commute to school so I'm still living with my parents. Sometimes when we're engaging in sex, I feel distracted if I know one of my parents is home, or if I'm not fully naked, etc etc.. just some factors. Other than that, my girlfriend is really understanding.. I feel bad myself when I can't last long, but she says it's ok and we can work on it. I guess more practice will help, thanks a lot guys :p .
 

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Sorry so late but......

It's great to hear your girlfriend is so understanding. I'd like to suggest something that's worked for me an a few of my friends who've had the same sort of issues.

First, it's very common for this to happen once in a while. Second, like has been said above, don't sweat it.
Third, talk to your girlfriend about it and see if she's willing to devote a night to your pleasure. You, basically, just lie back and have her do all the work for a night or two. Ask her to go slow and help keep the mood light to reduce the pressure. It's really very helpful because it can put you at ease and make you much more relaxed.

A lot of times we get into bed and feel the need to perform like a ringmaster, putting our own needs second. The question we all have is, "what can I do to please her?" and then try to work out a plan of action. It's pretty absurd but the more we care, the more we do it. Letting her control the action for a few nights can really help relieve that pressure AND it also tells our subconcious that we're wanted not just for what we can do for her but because we're hot and sexy ourselves; desirable because of who we are. Sure they like a hot cock but that's just the banana in the split.
 
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Originally posted by shonen
I've given thoughts on using generic viagra.. I have some in my desk, but I'm only 19.. I just got this notion in my head that I'll become to reliant on it?

could you become reliant on it? I'm always worried about that whenever I take drugs, I'll get dependant on them
 

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