Facing A Dilema

A little background:

Some time ago I was belittled by an ex-wife about my size. This was long before I knew about Penis Enlargement. After that, I married again and spent 13 years with that woman. Things went haywire, long story short, we ended up divorced too. It was then that I decided something had to be done with my size, if possible. I felt really insecure about dating or having sex with any other woman because of this. I avoided the situations that put potential sex within reach. I had never had these feelings earlier in life, I just wanted as much sex as I could get. Size was not a concern then. Not the case after the divorce. I too had made the BIG mistake about asking about previous lovers sizes and found out to my dismay that she had been with only one that was smaller...Ugh, that sent me further into depression about my size. I took a chance with one of those advertised penis enhancement pill ads which gave me a link to a free exercise site. Thus began my journey down the path of Penis Enlargement. My obsession led me to �other forum� and eventually here following DLD. I have made great gains thanks to DLD. Sorry about rambling on but, on to my dilemma. I am currently 7-1/2 X 5-1/2 and still feel small in my mind. My ex wife and I are still kind of involved, but there is a problem. Things are going well for the most part between us except for the sex. She says I am too long now and bottom out every time no matter what the position and it causes pain for her. We tried it in the doggie position and it really hurt her. She won't do that again, (one of my favorite positions). I know that I am not just hitting her uterus as I feel it part way down the shaft and also feel my head being flattened at full thrust. She says I need to stop with the length increases, and girth is close to full stretch too. Let me tell you it's a great feeling indeed. If I was sure that I was going to stay with her, I would consider going to a maintenance workout. I still have not been able to go out with someone else for a two fold reason. One being my continued size hangup and the other is that I do not want to chance getting involved with someone at this time. I'm not sure which one has the greater influence or if it's just fear itself. So with that said, should I consider stopping for now or should I continue on to my ultimate goal which is 9.5 X 6.25. If my ex and I do end up getting back together at some point, size will be a problem, on the other hand, I will still have my issues with size and this really presents a problem for me. I'm not sure that however big I get I will ever regard myself as anything but small in my mind. What do you think I should do?

I wouldnt base goals on "If" you get back together with your Ex. I mean what if you stagnate for her sake and things dont work out. Then you will feel like you really wasted a lot of time you could have been Penis Enlargement-ing and will be behind.However, I would say your size now is probably more than adequate for 99% of women out there. I would think only true size queens or perhaps those will abnormally large female anatomy would not be staisfied.

What were your starting stats?

well you could just work girth and see what happens? And then when you're at 7x6 you could decide further. Rock on dude! :bottumsup

Thanks for the input bigbutnottoo,

Total beginning stats were I think:

Maybe 5" erect length on a good day and guessing somewhere around 4" girth. Unfortunately when I started Penis Enlargement, no one suggested start out measurements. Wish I had them though. I just know my ex had a small dildo of 5" length and it was bigger than me all the way around.

mowinman, I am so proud of you. This is such a success story and others need to really take it in. You have changed your life and now are living a miracle! What has your ex said about your size in comparison now?

Originally posted by hangh
well you could just work girth and see what happens? And then when you're at 7x6 you could decide further. Rock on dude! :bottumsup

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hangh, thanks for the reply, I have been working for more girth lately but, length still nags heavily on me. I think if I can see it, that may help alleviate my self conscious behavior.

Originally posted by doublelongdaddy
mowinman, I am so proud of you. This is such a success story and others need to really take it in. You have changed your life and now are living a miracle! What has your ex said about your size in comparison now?

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Thanks DLD, without your help I don't know if I would be where I am now. As far as where I fit in the scheme of size, From what I remember, I am in the very upper end now, about #4 in the rank now i think. I won't make the mistake of asking again, her or any other...LOL Just remember the longest was at 10-11" or so and the largest girth was probably around 7" give or take.

Originally posted by mowinman
Thanks DLD, without your help I don't know if I would be where I am now. As far as where I fit in the scheme of size, From what I remember, I am in the very upper end now, about #4 in the rank now i think. I won't make the mistake of asking again, her or any other...LOL Just remember the longest was at 10-11" or so and the largest girth was probably around 7" give or take.

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Listen, knowing your girls previous lovers sizes can be depressing if you allow it or it can be a inspiration. I thought JEN was with a guy that was huge in the beginning of our relationship, no real specifics only that he was big. I imagined he was 9 or 10" and after I started doing Penis Enlargement I used this as drive to make the gains I have. Later when we sat down and really discussed her previous lovers I found out that huge meant 7" Oh well...the mind is powerful.

I have used this for a drive too except that I'm not sure I would want to be 12". BTW she showed the sizes with her hands, not worded sizes. Just a rough size guess for me. I just know she had said she felt like a virgin again...LOL

I guess I need to get over it and go test the waters again. Easier said than done.....LOL

Originally posted by mowinman
I guess I need to get over it and go test the waters again. Easier said than done.....LOL

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Yeah, but then you will know and can use that to drive yourself.

People like you inspire me, Within a year and such great gains and 7 is my goal too
Just get another girl man my advice one who loves your size, theres plenty out there that would be so happy with 7.
Good luck whatever you decide bro.
Ps- Avatar rocks

Thanks TheExecutioner, it's awesome when you hit a goal especially when I didn't really think it was possible. I'm just trying to decide if I should go for the next one, 8 X 5.75. In all likely-hood I will. I really like this avatar too. Thanks.

Well, you aren't "huge" yet, but you are above average now in both length and girth. Certainly nothing to worry about anymore in diddling new women.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but you say you were married twice? Did each one criticize your lack of size at the time and, if so, how did this woman go about it? Was she remotely understanding, or cold and callous about the matter? Did you explain Penis Enlargement to her to help her understand the difference between now and then?

Originally posted by penguinsfan
Correct me if I'm wrong, but you say you were married twice? Did each one criticize your lack of size at the time and, if so, how did this woman go about it? Was she remotely understanding, or cold and callous about the matter? Did you explain Penis Enlargement to her to help her understand the difference between now and then?

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It was my first wife that was the one who belittled me, and yes, she was very cruel about it. She turned into the "Bitch from Hell". The second one never complained, said she always enjoyed it and also had said I was perfect for her with my size at that time. After the last divorce, my ex continued living at my house for about 10 months. We had a friendly divorce and I wanted to help her out. Most people don't understand that, and we are still very good friends to this day. She knew about my size hangup, we had talked about this before. When I began Penis Enlargement, I had told her about it and that I was going to try it. She was supportive with me on the concept but never believed it could happen. To be truthful, I even doubted it. She now knows Penis Enlargement works and has told several people about it. I have posted her responses to my size change in other posts as well. She just thinks I should stop where I am at for her comfort and enjoyment.

Originally posted by mowinman
She just thinks I should stop where I am at for her comfort and enjoyment.

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So what is it that keeps us going?:D

mowinman,
This is for you buddy, not her. Go with the goals that will make YOU feel good about your self image.
As the ancient Greeks use to say: "To thine own self be true."

Originally posted by mowinman
It was my first wife that was the one who belittled me, and yes, she was very cruel about it. She turned into the "Bitch from Hell". The second one never complained, said she always enjoyed it and also had said I was perfect for her with my size at that time. After the last divorce, my ex continued living at my house for about 10 months. We had a friendly divorce and I wanted to help her out. Most people don't understand that, and we are still very good friends to this day. She knew about my size hangup, we had talked about this before. When I began Penis Enlargement, I had told her about it and that I was going to try it. She was supportive with me on the concept but never believed it could happen. To be truthful, I even doubted it. She now knows Penis Enlargement works and has told several people about it. I have posted her responses to my size change in other posts as well. She just thinks I should stop where I am at for her comfort and enjoyment.

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Okay. Well, I was just wondering, because if I were you I wouldn't give two squirts of piss about what your first wife's needs, in terms of your size. Why waste any time worrying about what someone so cruel thinks?

Since you've obviously parted ways with her and the issue is your second wife, then you have a decision to make. Either you have to forgoe something that is important to you, for her convenience, or you simply worry about your desires and ambtions without regard to her needs. Where do you see yourself in 5 or 10 years? Are you completely happy with your arrangement with her and do you see her as your primary sex partner for the rest of your life? If you think you can see yourself going a different direction in the future, then you should continue on the same path you've been going.

just my two cents,

I was reading on penissizedebate.com that if you are too long for a woman's vaginal passage, you just have to work around the cervix. Most women have a small vaginal passage when they are unaroused but gets looser and larger to accomodate different sizes of men up to the size of a baby. I know on that site they get specific with diagrams and stuff on how a longer penis goes above or around the cervix. ANother thing you could do is ask jen how she accomodates dld's length. I'm sure she might have some useful input on the subject.


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