Do i Have ���� Addiction Problems?

Don't finish and ejaculate.

You're repetitively training .. habitualizing .. patterning .. yourself (and some really complex psychological and dopaminergic-synthesizing mechanisms, ventral tegmental area, etc, which I think you know this stuff) to expect and do exactly that ... to 'go about ten minutes ..or so.. and then finish and ejaculate'.

Change the tune ...

Go half an hour and don't finish. Go for five minutes and then just suddenly stop and go make a sandwich. Go for an hour and don't finish. Etc. Change it up.

Going to eat a sandwich, or chocolate .. to be more direct, can be an important re-patterning exercise since your body is expecting some manner of dopamine reward from the sexual activity, and dopamine's a -powerful- neurologic driver. You probably have the willpower to go off it 'cold-turkey', but if you need help ... food also causes it but isn't tied into the same behavioral rut.

(You might even be able to manually 'anchor' the neurology of not-finishing by simultaneously rubbing your nose, or pulling your ear, whatever, .. don't want to get into all of that right now, you can find info on it under stuff like NLP and (because your type of patterning here is also including functionally negative judgments about your ability and/or your body) maybe look up The Inner Game of Tennis -here- or -here-.

And .. work-in not only some 'rest-sets' .. where you can relax and de-escalate for a few moments (in actual sex this could be stopping to kiss something, or to switch positions) but also work-in some 'pacing' .. where the escalation never goes too far in the first place, and some 'reverse-kegels' too.

edit - added this [ ♫ Relax, Don't Do It, When You Want To Sock it To It... ♫ ]

Long ago, some chick told me after sex "wow, you're totally not just in it for yourself" .. cos I was into rocking their world and didn't care if I came or not ..

Later on I discovered that -saying- this ahead of time was like a magic wand for completely eradicating what people later named 'LMR' (last minute resistance, link from web) and will get you in-like-Flynn on a first date. Don't abuse that.

But you have to kindof mean it .. and be able to back it up. Patterning to always go ten minutes and pop your cork isn't going to back it up, -- patterning to go for as long as you want and not care whether or not you pop your cork is how to back it up.

Physiologically you only need to clear your pipes two or three times a week anyway, ... more than that begins increasingly to tax the endocrinology and nutritive upregulation of the HPTA through excessive 'prolactin rebound' and pretty much this from the web (save me some typing. That's a huge page, I'm only linking its first paragraph) and eventually even this(!)

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aguy01;639492 said:

Edging to ���� without ejaculating is the worst thing you can do. When you cum it releases Prolactin, which reduces the dopamine production and makes you lose interest sex. Without finishing the dopamine stays elevated and leaves you with less energy for future sex and other activities. What happens with ���� is that you get hooked on the 'novelty' effect of seeing a new woman, rather than enjoying a single woman for long periods of time. Eventually you need the novelty effect to be able to cum at all.

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Asanon;639104 said:

There's a difference in PE between Edging and Cumming. Dial back your cumming to just three or four times a week, or even less. Masturbate/Edge if you need to for PE purposes, but don't repeatedly assert what amounts to premature ejaculation into what your neurology expects to encounter for sex. Look at it this way: essentially, cumming is a neurologic reward (and physiological burden) for a success that you didn't actually have.

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Asanon;639104 said:

You're ejaculating waaaaaaaay too often. There's an endocrine function attached to that activity, and to its dopaminergic rewards system in your brain, and you're wearing them out, along probably with the essential mineral nutrients it takes to accomplish the ingredients of the ejaculate, and of the neurotransmitters for the neurological desire that triggers the system.

If you ate your favorite food every time you were bored, you'd soon get sick of it, or from it, and for very similar reasons. Whatever meta-thing there is about the food (some nutrient your body needs, the way it triggers your dopamine/noradrenalin/seratonin, some emotional memory it reminds you of) - eventually that system will get satiated/wore out from overexposure. It gets drained (no pun intended), inflammatory, and stops responding.

You're also conditioning yourself to go for a few minutes afterwhich you always cum. While that's a handy (no pun intended) methodology for masturbation, going for a brief time and cumming tends to be detrimental to actual sex, or at least for repeat and referral business of satisfied customers. ���� addiction or not, stop ejaculating that much. Here's a quote from a post of mine on this subject from last May:



As far at "too much ����", the things to look out for are:

1) If you're moving into harder and harder forms of ����.. which are less and less likely to resemble the real opportunities of sex that you'd encounter in your real life .. then you're doing it wrong. That's a spiral of erotic escalation that leaves real life by the wayside. If ���� is 'cooler' or 'more attractive' to you than a real chick, or ever becomes that way, yes .. you're out where the buses don't run. Dial it back by a lot, either quitting it completely, or at least only seeking forms of it which are exactly like the chicks in your life (body type, hair color, boob size) and the types of sex which you two would actually have. In that manner it might be used to Imprint towards available partners .. rather than drown them out in an ocean of un-haveable fantasies. [It's even possible to use this for re-imprinting towards a chick that's 'not your type' if you ever run into somebody surprisingly cool but who's not what you'd usually go for].

2) Failure to thrive. If your instinct to seek real sex is, instead, being satisfied by over-masturbation, then you're masturbating too much. Make chicks (or legal whomever) the primary goal of your instincts, and masturbation-to-issuance just an occasional relief valve. Organizing the social skills and power to land and keep chicas can positively effect all aspects of your life (confidence, value, status, money, career, friends, stability, happiness, procreation) the same way that replacing those instincts with the comparative ease of collecting ���� on an electronic device can trigger the exact opposite effects. "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." ~Aristotle. You develop a talent for whatever you repeatedly practice.

3) Preference for ���� over real/available sex. If you have the ability/opportunity available to have real sex but instead invent some way to dodge it to go have imaginary sex with ���� then yes that's a radical ���� addiction. Stopping all ���� is the only way to start getting out from under that.

But bear in mind that all of the points above are levels of addiction, not just the huge monster example that I wrote last.

There's a difference in PE between Edging and Cumming. Dial back your cumming to just three or four times a week, or even less. Masturbate/Edge if you need to for PE purposes, but don't repeatedly assert what amounts to premature ejaculation into what your neurology expects to encounter for sex. Look at it this way: essentially, cumming is a neurologic reward (and physiological burden) for a success that you didn't actually have.

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AnthonyMachine;639500 said:

thanks everyone for replies.had sex last night for first time in months,smoked weed and drank prior but had no issues keeping an erection and lasted for like 30 min until i FORCED myself to cum,however in the morning when i watched the tape(we filed it) i came much faster.i think im at that point where i prefer my hand and images to actual sex!?

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JakeM82;639662 said:

Bro, just go to Your Brain On ���� | Evolution has not prepared your brain for today's Internet ����

You need to read up, and start the process of removing this form your life ASAP. You CAN recover from ���� Induced Sexual Dysfunction, but you need to remove the ����.

Source: Personal experience having been addicted to ���� in the past and now working as a counselor/therapist for HUNDREDS of Men who have had ���� addiction in their past (at least now it's in the past for most of them).

���� is destructive, period. Sorry if anyone disagrees but the evidence is staggering.

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JakeM82;639662 said:

Bro, just go to Your Brain On ���� | Evolution has not prepared your brain for today's Internet ����

You need to read up, and start the process of removing this form your life ASAP. You CAN recover from ���� Induced Sexual Dysfunction, but you need to remove the ����.

Source: Personal experience having been addicted to ���� in the past and now working as a counselor/therapist for HUNDREDS of Men who have had ���� addiction in their past (at least now it's in the past for most of them).

���� is destructive, period. Sorry if anyone disagrees but the evidence is staggering.

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DLD said:

It's hard but avoid ���� as much as possible

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squirt_inducer_man said:

Warps our sense of reality.

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DLD said:

Stay away from big dick videos
They will crush your confidence

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squirt_inducer_man said:

Good you say that.
I think I need to quit everything.

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