DELAYED EJACULATION - Waiting for the day this is finally addressed.

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I have suffered with this for so many years. I dont know why it developed or how. One thing I know, just like I naturally thought about PE without anybody telling me about it or without seeing it somewhere, I started edging naturally since a very early age. Eventually I made myself multi orgasmic. But as I kept growing, it became harder and harder to reach the point of no return. I guess in a way I desensitized my brain.

HOWEVER, the weird thing is that when I was married years ago, I could time myself PERFECTLY with my ex wife, Sometimes I could do a quickie, or could do a full 1 hour or more session. After her, never again. It takes me a LONG time trying to reach that point, concentrating, etc. 90% of the time I jerk off to cum.

Certainly this helped me in the ���� industry. Because in ���� you not only need to last, but also need total control over your cumshot. Most scenes are setup anyways. Meaning you fuck, act like if you pull out and going to cum on her face, but at that point camera stop rolling, you jerk off to point of no return, let them know, they keep rolling and then you cum on her face. So the final scene looks like one single transition.

Since a minority of men suffer form delayed ejaculation and the vast majority suffers from premature ejaculation, not enough research has been done. I WISH I had premature ejaculation. And I truly mean it. I WISH I had to stop or slow down not to cum and then that way cum whenever she's ready for. Instead, I fuck and fuck and fuck way after she's already cum.

There are 2 things that I have come down to from the little research out there. It seems its a psychological phenomenon. Therefore the two things are acupuncture, hypnosis therapy.

I just wonder if anybody else suffers from this, or has suffered from it and cured it, etc. I would do ANYTHING to cure it. I have tried for example not jerking off for along time or change my hand grip in order to retrain sensitivity in the penis and it "helps", but sensitivity is NOT the cause. Its more of a psychological thing. How do I know that? well, on the opposite, a guy with severe premature ejaculation can cum on his pants without touching himself just by having a girl dancing on top of him for example. What that means? it means its psychological, not over sensitivity if he never touched himself. So on the other opposite, my case, is the same. Psychological, not sensitivity.

Any advise is appreciated,
 
Well, as certain medication can dull the "nerves" and pathways to give more time before ejaculation, I do agree it's more psychological symptom.
With that said, one could thing about dopamine levels etc., overall well-being and such.

In my personal experience, the dopamine levels factor ejaculation, orgasm and so on.
I've used Dopa Mucuna (Mucuna Pruriensis) to elevate my dopamine levels. Mainly I use it to balance out my mood, usually 1-2 doses a week, sometimes not even once.
Personally I want to feel, be it good or bad, not to dull my senses too much. In that sense Dopa Mucuna has elevated my mood without dampening my feelings or other issues so far.

You or anyone else could give it a try. It's supposed to help your "swimmers" as well.

Overall I would see that it's a very complex thing, at least on a neural pathway sense. (OK, now I'm starting to speak out of my ass. :D )
Considering your history in adult entertaiment it can be a longer road to achieve easier ejaculation / shorter PONR. But I honestly think it can be done, meditation, possible therapy, going through past experiences.
As you mentioned, you were able to control very well with your ex-wife, what was the special thing with her?

Thank you for bringing this topic to the table! :)
 
arkailija said:
Well, as certain medication can dull the "nerves" and pathways to give more time before ejaculation, I do agree it's more psychological symptom.
With that said, one could thing about dopamine levels etc., overall well-being and such.

In my personal experience, the dopamine levels factor ejaculation, orgasm and so on.
I've used Dopa Mucuna (Mucuna Pruriensis) to elevate my dopamine levels. Mainly I use it to balance out my mood, usually 1-2 doses a week, sometimes not even once.
Personally I want to feel, be it good or bad, not to dull my senses too much. In that sense Dopa Mucuna has elevated my mood without dampening my feelings or other issues so far.

You or anyone else could give it a try. It's supposed to help your "swimmers" as well.

Overall I would see that it's a very complex thing, at least on a neural pathway sense. (OK, now I'm starting to speak out of my ass. LOL )
Considering your history in adult entertaiment it can be a longer road to achieve easier ejaculation / shorter PONR. But I honestly think it can be done, meditation, possible therapy, going through past experiences.
As you mentioned, you were able to control very well with your ex-wife, what was the special thing with her?

Thank you for bringing this topic to the table! :)
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Indeed a very good topic! I have many methods to accomplish this. Not everyone is the same so having multiple ways to deal with this is very good.
 
This EXACTLY! I could literally have sex until my body is too tired to keep going...and still not ejaculate. I'd guess it's 90% mental and the rest a mixture of age/diet/stress/ennui. On my semi-monthly 'field-trips' there have been times when climaxing was nearly impossible, and conversely, being able to orgasm during normal coitus (inside a condom,which definitely exacerbates the problem)...it's all very 'delicate' but simple at the same time.
My 'triggers' have everything to do with my partners reaction/enjoyment to my size, and if she stammers-out and 'OMG' or 'Holy Crap' then I can get to my PONR almost immediately. That's why I surmise this to be 'all in my head' :)
 
@arkailija You touch a very good point when you say "what was special about her"? And that relates to what @Big Schwanz Acht just said about his triggers.

Well, it kinda goes through the same path with me. With my ex wife, it seems like there was a deposit strong chemical connection when it came to sex. It was the way it felt, they way she reacted, its hard to describe. It was a strong soul connection there, not just the physical flesh part.

As far as health, diet and all that stuff my body is on point and my nutrition is the best it has been in my life.

I have read some people mentioning brain chemistry as far as neurotransmitters and such. I have tried supplements for dopamine levels, serotonin, for hormones like adrenaline, norepinephrine, noradrenaline, etc....nothings seems to make a difference which makes me assume in an ignorant way because I have never had exams to prove it, by I assume my brain chemistry is just fine, and my condition is purely psychological. Thats why from a long time I have been interested in some day try hypnotherapy in which the specialist re-train your brain under hypnosis. But that costs a lot of money and I haven't put the effort to find a really good specialist in that area.
 
Big Schwanz Acht said:
This EXACTLY! I could literally have sex until my body is too tired to keep going...and still not ejaculate. I'd guess it's 90% mental and the rest a mixture of age/diet/stress/ennui. On my semi-monthly 'field-trips' there have been times when climaxing was nearly impossible, and conversely, being able to orgasm during normal coitus (inside a condom,which definitely exacerbates the problem)...it's all very 'delicate' but simple at the same time.
My 'triggers' have everything to do with my partners reaction/enjoyment to my size, and if she stammers-out and 'OMG' or 'Holy Crap' then I can get to my PONR almost immediately. That's why I surmise this to be 'all in my head' :)
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@Big Schwanz Acht I seem to be that way... I wonder why though lol. One thing I have noticed, every time I am with a new girl or a random girl, there is some sort of an "anxiety" factor, in which the desire is so high that I cant decide which way to eat that woman. Is like if you're starving, and in front of you you have a buffet with all the most delicious food in the world and you just dont know how or where to start. Something like that.

On the other hand if Im with a girl for some time and theres a good connection, I am able to relax myself and just let my body go with it. Hard to explain...
 
Jackxxx said:
@Big Schwanz Acht I seem to be that way... I wonder why though LOL. One thing I have noticed, every time I am with a new girl or a random girl, there is some sort of an "anxiety" factor, in which the desire is so high that I cant decide which way to eat that woman. Is like if you're starving, and in front of you you have a buffet with all the most delicious food in the world and you just dont know how or where to start. Something like that.

On the other hand if Im with a girl for some time and theres a good connection, I am able to relax myself and just let my body go with it. Hard to explain...
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I think that’s the same with all of us. I can tell you that every time I’ve been with a new woman I’ve always had a problem getting a good erection. But as soon as I feel comfortable with the woman I had no problem getting a good erection. Some women asked if I wasn’t turned on by them because of this, but I was just honest and told them that every time I’m with the woman for the first time I have a problem with getting an erection. As soon as I am honest with them I’m able to get a good erection. If we get together again there is absolutely no problems. So I think it’s pretty normal. I’ve been with a lot of women, a huge amount of women, and I’ve always had this issue for most of the time.
 
Since PE and MOS, my anxiety with a new girl is almost non-existent, but the delay is always there. I try to resist going through the litany of 'motions' that have become almost 'reflex' and take each experience as something brand new. I've always relished the unique puzzle each woman presents...part of the challenge, I guess
 
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A bigger piece brings confidence! ??
 
I do suffer from delayed ejaculation myself. You know when I feel the pleasure coming in the first 5 minutes, I control myself to NOT cum that early but what happens next, it is like when you don't go to bed when you start feeling asleep and after some time, you feel fully awake. It is some sort of "seize the opportunity when it pass or else, you'll need wait next time it happens. and it could take a while".

This has caused me issue in my couple because while my gf likes sex, she isn't up for a sex marathon that last 1 hour or more until I come everyday.

I have developed few strategies around my state:

1. Don't put the emphasis on cuming. You should extract your satisfaction in the act of sex itself and making your partner cum. I have found out that if I was limiting sex to maximum 15 minutes (cuming or not), we could have several rounds like this during the day. You need to explain carefully the concept to your partner because I know that some girls take it personal when the guy doesn't cum....
2. Take small pause. After some time, you get used to the pussy feeling. Stopping intercourse for 5 minutes (and keep stimulating her if you want), when you will put it back in, the sensations are going to be magnified. For me, it works most of the time

Also, more on this later when I'll be able to experiment more with it... It seems that my recent p-shot did increase my sensitivity. I definitely feel more pleasure down there... and this makes me climax harder and my load is even bigger now.
 
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