Deceitful Forgivness

Godsize

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Let's say you cheat on your girlfriend with an ex of yours. Instead of hiding it from her for the duration of the relationship, you decide to just tell her and take the consequences, whatever they may be (Maybe you wanted her to dump you).

Okay, so you tell her that you slept with your ex girlfriend. She gets upset and cries, naturally, but she forgives you pretty much on the spot. She even demands that you make love to her right then and there, with tears in her eyes.

She says she can "understand" the sentimentality of old feelings, and if the girl you fucked had been a complete stranger instead of an ex that you once loved, she wouldn't have been so easily forgiving.

So then of course, you make love. Things aren't exactly back to normal afterwards, but they eventually get there.




This exact situation happened to me a couple years ago. I was amazed that she forgave me like that. It leads me to think that the reason she was so quick to forgive me was that she was doing the SAME THING behind my back.

See, I didn't have to tell her anything. But I couldn't look at her knowing what I had done, plus I kinda wanted her to dump me. I was trying to sabotage the relationship. I didn't expect her to forgive me, but she did.

She was the type of girl who kept her old boyfriends as friends. She would still talk to them and even hang with them. On a few occassions, I was put into situations where I was forced to meet them and spend time in the same room with them. I really don't go for that shit. It made me HATE her and not want to trust her. It made me not want to go anywhere with her for fear we'd "run into" another old flame. Did I mention that it made me HATE her?

It seemed like everywhere we went, we'd run into another dude she banged. Maybe I'm insecure and old fashioned, but I don't like my women hanging out with guys they used to fuck around with, or worse, guys they actually loved before. I mean, c'mon... the only reason these dudes are hangin' with her is cuz they're tryin' to get another piece of that fuckin' ass. I wasn't born yesterday, man. No such thing as guys and girls being "just friends". Fuck that.

I told her on numerous occassions how much this bothered me, we'd argue about it, have these shouting matches complete with walls being punched and plenty of sobbing and hurt feelings, but it really made no difference in her behavior. She swore that she loved me and only me, and that she's "just friends" with her exes, and that she didn't love them anymore. It didn't help.

I felt as if I was being cheated on already, so when my ex-girlfriend started coming around, I figured I'd kill two birds with one stone: I'd fuck my ex then never call her again, then tell my present girlfriend and she'd dump me and I'd be free from BOTH of those fucking heartbreakers. But it backfired. She forgave me.

So I was wondering.... would someone so quick to forgive such a horrible transgression in fact do so only to cover up that they are guilty of the exact same crime??
 
I think you have some self esteem issues. It is one thing to be jealous of ex-boyfriends, but a woman is not a possession. Sounds like you were really trying to control her and have put her through alot of hell because of your insecurities. It also sounds like you are kind of immature, maybe in your mid twenties, and haven't found that place in your own soul where you can be happy with yourself and confident. That comes with age and introspection.

I think you are just condoning your own behavior by imagining that your woman cheated on you. You feel guilty, and try to rationalize that guilt away by telling yourself that she probably cheated on you, too. This makes you resent her more, which in turns prompts you to cheat again to get back at her for those imagined offenses, which in turn causes the whole cycle to repeat itself. The worst thing is, you get to cheat and then punish her for it.

If she is still with you, she must really love you to put up with your insecure male BS. If she had cheated on you, she would have told you so when you made your confession, or during one of your fights. Women do have their dirty little secrets, but when you piss them off they ALWAYS air their dirty laundry. That's the only way they can hurt us, because we are stronger and bigger than they are. That is why they attack us with emotion, and the best way she could have hurt you is by telling you about her indiscretions.

If she maintains her innocence, no matter how angry and violent you become, then I would say that she is telling the truth.

Godsize, you have to get yourself out of the self-destructive mind trap that you are in. You have to get some counselling or something and learn how to be confident and self-assured. You are only going to be happy with a woman when you become happy with yourself.

Sounds to me that, more than anything, you have to learn to be comfortable in your own skin. Perhaps you should take a break from the relationship, or just a little vacation by yourself, and find out who you are and what you want out of life.

I am no expert or anything, but I am happy, confident and successful, and have had a long and happy marriage.
 

Godsize

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kong -

You are correct on a lot of things. You are almost SO right I want to punch you in the mouth. But you aren't completely accurate about my personality.

It's hard not to get defensive in my reply considering the condescending tone of your response.

Explaining myself any further will serve no purpose since now I'm sure everyone just thinks I'm an asshole. I shoulda kept my question to myself. I still feel bad about how it all went down. After 3 years I still feel it's weight on my shoulders.

Anything I say in my defense is just more rope to hang myself with, so I'll stop here unless someone has a question for me.





RoxyBabe -

Fuck you. You weren't there.
 
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Godsize

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Hey fuck off cunt. If I wanted a cunt's opinion, I'd go ask a fucking cunt. This conversation ain't meant for the likes of you, so fuck off.
 

RoxyBabe

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Godsize said:
Hey fuck off cunt. If I wanted a cunt's opinion, I'd go ask a fucking cunt. This conversation ain't meant for the likes of you, so fuck off.
Got you panties in a noose limp dick?
 
Godsize, I doubt she was cheating on you, but I don't know- I wasn't there. As for saying anything about insecurities, I am still in the process of getting past my own, so I'm not gonna pound on you for yours. I was in a relationship that I utterly sabotaged out of my own insecurity and I felt really guilty about it for a long time. I finally called the girl out of the blue and apologized for the insecure asshole I had been. She pretty much laughed inmy face and blew me off, but at least I got the monkey off my back. My insecurites have been a huge detriment to my marriage as well. My wife has said some pretty hurtful things in response to my ashholish, childish behavior and it often made me react even more dispicably. Two events helped me mature and are still helping me get past my insecurities: having a child and simply growing older. Those things have really put a lot of stuff in perspective.

Like I said, i doubt she was cheating on you, but I am also very skeptical of women and I know they can be manipulated (and manipulative), so without being there I can't really say.

Best-
 

RoxyBabe

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Godsize said:
Yeah, I'm sure you've seen a lot of limp dicks in your day, dickface.

Yea only loosers like you who are to much of a pussy to get it up cause your afraid of how small it is....I can get anyone hard, but you....Becoming Limp Dick
 

Godsize

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Honestly, Texan, I don't think she was cheating on me either. This thought of her cheating on me to explain her quick forgiveness is a thought that had only occurred to me recently, years after it all happened. I never thought it at the time.
 

Godsize

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Hey Roxy"Babe"

Well, if you suck cock as good as you fucking type I'm sure you've helped inspire many a SOFT-OFF. Get bent, stinkbox.
 

RoxyBabe

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Godsize said:
Honestly, Texan, I don't think she was cheating on me either. This thought of her cheating on me to explain her quick forgiveness is a thought that had only occurred to me recently, years after it all happened. I never thought it at the time.

Of coarse she was you got a small limp dick and cant even fuck to save you life. On another note, you the most depressing person I have ever met. New York Shity....and the rest, I just did a search on your pasts posts, what a loser. "My dicks to small...I hate my life...I am limp Dick...go grab that rope already and sop wasting peoples time with your whining you big pussy
 

Godsize

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Ha ha. You're funny like that.

Well, I'm done with this. Have fun getting the last word.

See ya.
 

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