Can a girlfriend help her boyfriend with PE?

Hi there!

I'm new here, and I've been through a bit of the posts on these forums, but I haven't seen anything that would relate to my question. So I thought I'd get up the courage to just ask.

I suppose I should start by explaining a little of mine and my boyfriend's background story.

I have a very emotionally-sensitive boyfriend. I really can't blame him, he's had one hell of a life. He's been told that he doesn't matter, he's not worth it, etc, etc, all those nasty things that human beings in general really shouldn't have to hear about themselves. I'm his first girlfriend, and his first lover (and I
hope that I will forever be his only girlfriend and lover) and I really want to help his self-esteem, and not make him feel worse about himself than he already does.

Here's the deal - his penis is... Smaller than what I'm used to. I would say it's around five inches in length, not sure about the girth... It's not that thick. It's not that hard when it is erect, and often he has trouble with staying erect.

When we first started making love, he couldn't hold an erection at all. He became depressed about it, considered therapy, drugs, surgery - but I pushed through all that with him, encouraging him, telling him that it was just nerves, and to be patient, and when the time was right things would happen. And I was right, he's erect enough to be able to achieve penetration, now.

He's also asked me several times if it was big enough. I said it was. I wasn't about to tell him that it wasn't, and ruin all of the progress that we had made. But I haven't been able to have a good orgasm with him. I get really, really close, and it takes forever to even get to that point, and I just don't really get over the brink.

I've been considering that maybe the problem is mine, not his, but... I have to consider that when I had sex with other men who were bigger than him, I didn't have trouble reaching an orgasm. But in any case I've been doing female kegels in hopes that it will help, even though I'm already very tight with good vaginal muscles.

I was thinking that DLD's Newbie Routine would be a good start, but... How to explain to my boyfriend why I'm pulling his penis behind his buttocks... And I don't want to hurt him physically, either.

I'm really not sure how to approach him with starting Penis Enlargement. I don't want to devastate him. I don't want him to feel like he's not good enough. I love him dearly, and I want to help him, and at the same time, help myself as well.

Can anyone offer some sound advice, please? And please, don't flame me about this... I already feel guilty enough for looking for solutions. Maybe I'm blowing it all out of proportion?

Thanks in advance,
HGF, AKA Hopeful GirlFriend.

This really is a delicate subject to talk about with your boyfriend.

I'd maybe talk to him about the exercises as a means to be able to get rock hard erections and better control of orgasms than as enlargement exercises.

Hell, when he sees himself get bigger, he'll be in for a happy surprise.

Emphasis his benefits to doing them. Like turning you on even more ( even would be a key word here to avoid self esteem issues ). How he'd be able to make love to you a lot longer. ( I don't know a guy who wouldn't like that )

So yeah, emphasize the health benefits of it, instead of the enlargement portion of the exercises. I think that would be a good way to introduce him to the exercises without crushing his self esteem.

HGF,
If your BF really is that emotionally sensitive, then you broaching the subject of enlarging his penis could be quite a problem. One suggestion I'd like to make is that you never, ever bring up the subject during any type of sexual situation at all. As you've already seen; that could be lighting the fuse on an explosion.
If HE, however, brings up the subject then you could mention, (in the most casual way) something like, "Hey, if it really bothers you why don'tcha just make it bigger, guys do that, right?"

The way it sounds, to me, is that yer BF has got a few more concerns in addition to penile size. However you choose to approach it all, good luck.

Its not a bad idea at all, . . . although being straight foward would rock anybody, pitching it out in the open wouldn't even give him a chance to shy away from it. How you bring it up is gonna be tricky, if you guys already have discussed his erection quality, make up a best friend from kansas and tell him her boyfriend had the same problem and found this miricale website,
(which it truely is) and send him packing. If he thought already about surgery, he most certainly would spend up to an hour strengthening and at the same time making his penis stronger. The PC excersices alone if he does them will make his willy strong like steel ( to a degree ) and the excersices definetly do work, anyway best of luck!

no way do not bring this up, you will crush him. you need to let him be open to explore his options and when he finds pe you need to suport him 100 percent.

Your boyfriend that you talking about has a problem, not about his penis, but in his head. His weak mind set about himself wont let him to improve in any way. If you bring this Penis Enlargement on him, will diminish him even more. Strong mind set and thus improvement must come from within himself, only then you can help him. Sorry

'Strong man can't help weak man, if weak man doesn't want to be helped' -Somebody smart

Thank you for the replies.

I told him that I wanted to give him a penis massage and that it was good for penile health, just to get the idea to him. He was just fine and dandy with that. I'll take it slowly with him, maybe just do jelqing? And then possibly move on, considering what sort of a reaction he has to it. It's a start, at least. And if he sees benefits from it, I'm sure he'd be more willing to try other things, too.

Don't try doing it for him. He is the one that is going to have to do it. Just figure out a way to bring it up in a conversation at lunch or dinner or something like it's no big deal. Be like oh so I was searching for ways to make myself tighter for you by doing different exercises and did you know guys do have all sorts of exercises for their penis or something like that. And then work in all the benefits. Or tell him how you do kegels and how they help and how things like that could help him. He should be doing kegels anyway. I heard of people gaining girth just from kegels.

dont say '' ive been lookin for ways to make myself tighter for u''


thats like saying '' go to mattersofsize.com and get a bigger penis ''

the subject is delicate i guess.. im small also. only 5.5 inches non bone pressed but if i had a girl who offered me a solution to a bigger thicker penis i would probably start doing it.. knowing the girl is NOT A SLUT by demanding size .. but by making a suggestion and supporting him emotionally will help him.. heres my solution it might be dumb but this is wat i wud do




turn on a �naked people movies�.. if u guys do that.. find one where the guy is about 7 inches.. no more.. and say something along the lines of

This guy has definetly done that jelqing program or something.. if he enquires to u about it or looks stumped.. just say '' yeah all these �naked people movies� stars do penis enlargement exercise found on the internet dating back to god knows when ''

something like this.. to indirectly kick into his brain... he will most likely be suprised such thing is possible but he will research it and begin from there.. make sure u delete all ur posts so when he comes here to MOS he doesnt see this and think '' hey my girl talked to me bout pe during a �naked people movies�'' lol

hope this helps if not just ignore it!

MissionPossible said:

dont say '' ive been lookin for ways to make myself tighter for u''


thats like saying '' go to mattersofsize.com and get a bigger penis ''

the subject is delicate i guess.. im small also. only 5.5 inches non bone pressed but if i had a girl who offered me a solution to a bigger thicker penis i would probably start doing it.. knowing the girl is NOT A SLUT by demanding size .. but by making a suggestion and supporting him emotionally will help him.. heres my solution it might be dumb but this is wat i wud do




turn on a �naked people movies�.. if u guys do that.. find one where the guy is about 7 inches.. no more.. and say something along the lines of

This guy has definetly done that jelqing program or something.. if he enquires to u about it or looks stumped.. just say '' yeah all these �naked people movies� stars do penis enlargement exercise found on the internet dating back to god knows when ''

something like this.. to indirectly kick into his brain... he will most likely be suprised such thing is possible but he will research it and begin from there.. make sure u delete all ur posts so when he comes here to MOS he doesnt see this and think '' hey my girl talked to me bout pe during a �naked people movies�'' lol

hope this helps if not just ignore it!

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Haha this is actually a good idea.

Now, if you're TRULY dedicated, you should turn your mouth into a vacuum enlarger.
No man can resist.

'' hey my girl talked to me bout pe during a �naked people movies�'' we know she did nice idea mission

HGF said:

Thank you for the replies.

I told him that I wanted to give him a penis massage and that it was good for penile health, just to get the idea to him. He was just fine and dandy with that. I'll take it slowly with him, maybe just do jelqing? And then possibly move on, considering what sort of a reaction he has to it. It's a start, at least. And if he sees benefits from it, I'm sure he'd be more willing to try other things, too.

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An idea off the top of my head and just going off what you have said, the next time he talks about his penis size and you mention that it is fine for you etc, you can drift the convo to saying something like ... "I don't think penis size matters as much as how you use it". Then you can say, "watch, let's look on the net and see if people say that penis size matters". You two can go to Google and search for: penis size matters , without quotes. On the front page of google results should be this site, mattersofsize.com . You can then go "wow, a lot of info there". You can see the what is average link together http://www.mattersofsize.com/average-penis-size.html , then explore the site some more and dift to the forum. "Oh wow, a free forum". "Holy shit, look at how many members there are, there must be A LOT of guys thinking the same as you, having the same concerns, etc". The last comment should make him feel much more secure. Say it again if you want: "wow, 500 people online right now and 100,000 registered members"! Then look for some threads with some impressive results, or just read DLD's story about going from 6.5 inches to 10 inches etc. The best thing that will happen is your boyfriend will decide that he wants to join the community and work for a bigger dick. You can tell him you like it as it is but if he wants to make it bigger then you won't stop him.

The only problem I see with this is ... this thread. But, what you can do is come to some closure with this thread and then tell us to delete your username and this thread. Then, you and your boyfriend can register with a different username and none of us will even know it's you and you'll never stumble on to this thread again. Just tell DLD and I'm sure he'd take care of it.

Good idea persist!

If the clit is on the outside and the g-spot is only about 2 inches on the inner wall then why wouldn't women be able to orgasm with a 5" dick? Is it more of a girth issue?

I heard some womens clit was in their throats. You could get him drunk every night till he passes out and do his Penis Enlargement for him. I would not mind that at all either.

Beloved13 said:

Haha this is actually a good idea.

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Actually this is a horrible idea. Think about it. Showing �naked people movies� to a guy who has his inferiority issues will only make his insecurities grow even further. He'll see (confident) guys with huge 8-10 inch cocks fucking hot chicks for 20 minutes to an hour, giving them multiple orgasms. Honestly, who wants to be compared to a �naked people movies� star RIGHT IN FRONT OF THEIR GIRLFRIEND? You think this will encourage his low self esteem???? Bad idea.

HGF, it sounds like you are a wonderful girl who deeply cares to make your relationship work. Here's what I'd suggest (if you haven't done it already).

First reaffirm your quality of love for him. Let him know that you love _all_ of him, even his weaknesses, and everyone has their own weaknesses. No one is perfect. Let him know you are committed to making the relationship work regardless if he chooses to do something about his weak areas or not! This is key! This kind of commitment provides safety for him, which is what he needs, safety, acceptance... You are committed to him, no matter what, even if that means you both must suffer pain, dissappointment and failed dreams for a while in life _because_ you love him and want to make him happy.

Secondly, let him know your pain, but the right way. Let him know that because you love him so much that it hurts you to see him so distraught over his sexual difficulties. The lackluster sex IS NOT the issue here, it's how unhappy he is with himself. That's the issue. Tell him this. What you want is his happiness, even more than your own (sacrifice = the greatest love, EVER). Tell him, "it pains me to see you so unhappy with yourself. The best news is that he need not continue without hope! There are so many guys who have had simmilar troubles with sex, guys who are much smaller than you even, that have have been able to overcome their sexual challenges to become very satisfied with themselves and their partners."

At this point you ask, "Would you be willing to take a look at some _natural_ and _safe_ solutions that have worked for other guys with the same sexual challenges?"

If he's willing at this point, you're off to a great start. Here's where a few people would disaggree on how to let him take his own ownership of his process to change himself. Should you cleverly or "accidentally" scheme to have him wind up here? Or, should you be a bit more straightforward to have him come here off the bat because, "I heard other guys used this website to overcome their own sexual challenges". I think the latter is the better idea because it is more honest and real. The former idea is a bit risky.

Best of wishes to you both!!!

Yavol

HGF said:

Hi there!
But I haven't been able to have a good orgasm with him. I get really, really close, and it takes forever to even get to that point, and I just don't really get over the brink.

I've been considering that maybe the problem is mine, not his, but... I have to consider that when I had sex with other men who were bigger than him, I didn't have trouble reaching an orgasm.

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If it takes a bigger dick to make you climax then to be blunt you probably have a slack vagina,you could buy a vibrating cock ring that will make his erections stronger and slightly bigger and at the same time stimulate your clitoris or you can stimulate your clitoris yourself during sex.

Experiment with positions that allow deeper penetration,try using positions that keep your legs closed which will increase friction.

I would tread very carefully with trying to get your boyfriend to start pe,if you come up with a plan and it back fires and he guesses what you are up to it will shatter what little confidence he has.

if you really want to help him suggest a therapist. it sounds like his emotional issues outweigh his "dick issues." He needs to learn to love what hea already has before attmpting Penis Enlargement anyways , in my opinion. Meaning he is already happy and doin Pe from a positive mental outlook on life rather than doing it because "i hate myself and my small dick" , meaning the excercise is done with negative motivation.

If you want positive things in life you need positive attitude. without slef love to begin with id imagine that Penis Enlargement would only crush his soul even more and make him feel like a failure.

Working out or excerciseing when you already love yourself and have self esteem is the only way to even be happy to begin with. You love what you have and accept yourself.. but you are willing to put in time to improve yourself FOR YOURSELF AND YOURSELF ONLY. if you are working out or whatever for someone else... the motivation is wrong and you will never feel "good enough"

If you get self esteem from outside yourself (other esteeming..even if it is from your body) you will never be happy no matter what that other thing is. There will never be enough. If the other thing is a big dick.. it will never be big enough to make you happy. Self esteem comes from within yourself, not from your dick, your car, your money, your girlfriend etc.. like i said, if those are the things you think you need to be happy then you will never get it. There isnt enough money or cars or women in the world to fill up the hole in your soul that comes form no self esteem.

so you see why i say telling him to just "get a bigger dick through Penis Enlargement" is never going to work and will only make his mental condition worse.

So at the very least i would maybe suggest to him to read litereture or get into a support group of some kind. You get him doing that and you will be able to see the person he really is ( when he can really be happy with himself) and will probably stop worring about shit that doesnt really matter anyway, liek his dick.


also my first post, whats up all.

I didn't read through everyone's responses just if you send a private message with his e-mail I'll just send him an e-mail with all the info on how to do it and I won't mention you at all. I swear. So then maybe he'll just approach the idea and never really think that you had anything to do with it at all.