Are You Capable Of Love Anymore?

Shion I have to say...you're feelings and experiences (a fair chunk of them for the most part) are so similar to my own I have to wonder if you're some sort of long lost brother of mine or something

You know what I wonder though? Was the world always this superficial - or does it seem to be a recent trend since the world has become so small now?


Sorry if my posting is a bit incoherent tonight. Heh, it's been absolute hell at work this week and I haven't gotten a wink of sleep and even better I have an early AM meeting tomorrow. Joy lol.

To quote Ross Jeffries: "There's no such "thing" as love. There's no such "thing" as
passion. There's no such "thing" as attraction, or chemistry, or
lust... these states are processes that take place inside the human mind
and body... First, understand you do NOT
fall in love with someone when you are in their presence. No.
You fall in love when you're off by yourself, thinking about
them afterwards."

Which is also true for our unhappiness. It's completely self inflicted. Our happiness is our own responsibility. It's no one's else's fault if we're not happy. Other people don't make us miserable. We do it to ourselves. If we don't like our circumstances, it's up to us to change them.

It's our own beliefs that decide our reality, and beliefs are completely arbitrary. A belief is nothing more than thought coupled with emotion, and rarely do thoughts or emotions that form beliefs have much basis in reality. They are usually based on our assumptions.

To quote Major Mark: “We use models of possibility so we don’t have to think.” & “Whatever you expect to find is that which you will find. Whatever you seek is that which you will find.”

What's the point? Whatever you believe, is true. If you're not happy, if you don't like your reality, then change your ideas. Change what you believe about your world. Don't limit possibility to what you have experienced. The universe is here to provide endless opportunities for you.

I also agree with C-Guy. It is very important to understand the difference between infatuation and love.

Has anyone ever loved the wrong woman?

I think I'm in that position at the minute. She's married with a little boy, and I think I've fallen in love with her.

I can't say for sure if it's 'love', because I've never really felt 'love' for anyone else before this.

But I just feel so complete around her. It's like everything else in my life, all the bullshit - It just vanishes when I'm with her and when I'm talking to her.

She makes me feel like no one else ever has, and, at the minute I'm sure no one else ever will. I'm also not sure I'll ever feel this strongly for someone else again.

I remember somewhere someone describing love as a series of connections so to speak, all on different levels. And obviously the more of these connections that connect with the person you have these feelings for, then the stronger the 'love' between you is.

Only problem was, there will always be someone with even more of these 'connections' and hence you would develop a stronger bond with this person, that is if you got to know them and so on. So yeh, it's hard to describe the word love and just what it actually means to be in love.

But yeh, loving the wrong person fucking sucks! Causes me so much pain to know that I'll never be with her.

I would love to know how she feels about me too, if I could just know that I'd be happy. And if we were in different situations how things might have turned out.