Before i explain the problem i would like to say that i know this is a non Penis Enlargement subject but i need it to get attenstion asap. Please Mods just leave it on for one day. Well anyway my problem is that theres this girl i like and i know by now you thinking 'not another one of these stupid questions' but this is 10x harder. You see im a shy guy but i really like this girl and i mean its so weird because i have hardly even spoke to her but i just know shes for me. Well my problem is that she is goin to the same party as me and my friends tomorrow, now heres the problems...
Last party i saw her at she got quite drunk so im asuming she will this time, now i like to get drunk at partys becasue it gives me a boost in confidence. This may aid me on trying to get with her. But on the otherside i may make a dick of myself and put her off. So im not sure what to do, help please?
I dont know what to say! normally when im on the verge of drunkness if i like a girl i just tell them how much i like them and how nice they look etc. Should i do this or is there a better way so she knows i like her?
One of my mates wants to get with her too, now no offence to him but ive been told by quite afew girls that im alot nicer than him, but he knows this girl slighty more than me. We both agree that whoever she goes for (if any) that we remain friends so thats ok, but i just need to know any tips in general that will help me.
I hope you guys can help me, my objective is not really to just sleep with her at the party (although that would be nice) but rather just to let her know i like her and she if she likes me back.
Any past experiences or advice please send asap, because the partys tomorrow and i just dont wanna screw up or chicken out.
Be yourself. If you get drunk, do not get too drunk. When you meet her don't think "Oh, what should I say. What if she doesn't like me bla bla." Think selfish "Can she make me feel good? Is she capable to make me have a good time tonight?" Sertainly yes. Just don't add pressure to yourself... Well, it is easy for me to write hehe...
To me it doesn't matter if this thread is off topic... I feel your stress and wish you good luck... Please tell how it went!
Man, you should be a straight pimp about your shit. Get your drank on, spit some game at the females, and some at her as well. If she's diggin you she'll make it obvious. And if she really is the best scenario going on at this party then get with it. As for your homie he shouldn't be trippin hard on this broad either. If you come on too strong and make an ass out of yourself your chances of pullin this girl will be slim to none. You gotta be smooth and casual but stand out and them hoes will come callin. Good luck
Ahhh! You are known as an AFC -- average frustrated chump. You think being nice to a girl and telling her how pretty she is, etc, is going to win her over.
Every other AFC does the same thing -- and women run away from "nice" guys.
Instead of gushing on about how you like her and how pretty she is, be cocky and funny instead. If she got drunk in the past, that is something you can kid her about now.
Don't tell her how wonderful she is -- make fun of her past drunkeness. Do it in a joking manner, not in an insulting way. Playful, not mean.
Looks for characteristics to exaggerate and kid her about.
Women aren't interested in doormats for boyfriends. They want MEN. Men are a challenge -- sometimes they are bad boys. They are interesting because she has to keep on her toes to keep you. You are the prize.
When you make her the prize, she has the power -- and she usually uses that power by rejecting you, the pathetic nice guy. Then she runs off with the biker dude with the tatoos to screw in the alleyway.
You have to offer her the vision of someone who it would be fun to hang with. It isn't going to be some groveling guy who waits on her every word, walks around all smitten, brings her flowers and candy every day, etc.
So be agressive, give eye contact (lock eyes with her and hold it until she looks away first.) When you make eye contact, you have three seconds to say something. "hi" is good. "hi, I love you" is not good.
Joke about the surrondings. Be cocky. Ask questions -- listen to the answers, which will give you clues to the next questions to ask. Chicks love to talk about themselves. It may make your ears bleed, but it is necessary.
Do a little kino (touching) -- touch her arm, hand, whatever. Make it seem natural. You don't have to paw her -- just one or two touches. She'll notice them. You don't have to do more or go overboard.
Once you establish some rapport -- you be the one to cut and go -- don't let her be the one to move on first. That way you can suggest hanging out in the future -- pick something specific. Then ask her for her digits (phone number.)
Then split unless it is really going good between you.
Dont get TOO drunk....do ya get pissed easy???? if not than take 5 mouth-fulls of whiskey or other spirit BEFORE going to this party, like 10 mins before setting off so the alchohol is in the blood.
This will get ya feeling all more confident and shit.
Now at the party your now fine, drink in MODERATION.....NOT HEAVY and have soft drinks inbetween in these situations or even water to delute the drug.
Now the girl - Talk to her, comment on how nice she looks and that she is very attractive tonight.
Smile and keep being charming, but DO NOT get dirty or come out with filthy shit to her, it will put her off.
Just get a conversation going - than you'll know if she likes you and you REALLY like her.
Than take it from their.
But whatever ya do DONT DRINK HEAVY....its a disaster waiting.....lots of booze = trouble and ya will say summut ya may regret, do summut even....just make sure its in moderation and if ya feel yourself getting too dizzy than go straight for the soft drinks.
pUNKY, simple man, with short notice like this, it's hard to build up confidence quick but, if you can, treat her like your best friend, and talk to her as if she was....joke with her, tease her, rag on her like you would your best friend. As far as talking, let her do most of it, look for during your conversation for things. Example: during talk she mentions her garden in casual conversation, focus in on that and respond with something like, you have a garden, i like gardening tell me about it. She'll talk a storm up and may like you because you listen. It's real interesting that women love to talk about what passions them, not what empassions you. Avoid talking about yourself as this gives mystery about you. Answer her questions about you with opaige answers, just enough to satisfy her curiosity but, always try to circle back to have her talk about what empassions her, listen for key words, she'll steer the conversation, she'll find you interesting and you'll appeal to her as a result. As far as confidence, that something that comes with a little practice. Never appear to be needy of her affection/attention, this will repel her, as no one likes a clingy person, don't let on you like her. I could post a ton of shit on this subject alone but not enough space. Good luck!!!
Don't get too drunk. Treat her with kindness, but be humorous. It is okay to joke with her, at her expense, playfully.
You've got to decide what move to make. First, you might decide to make no move if you're getting negative feedback or something you see in her causes you to lose some interest. Second, you could just go for it. That is, if you see she is open and interested, you could move in for a kiss or whatever--something that conveys your intentions. Third, you could have the conversation with her of trying to establish a date. You could approach this with the serious approach of "listen, I'd like to tell you something" or the playful "so when are we going out?" with the wink and smile. You'll have to read the situation.
I guess I haven't told you anything ground-breaking. Good luck and keep us posted.
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how'd it go man? i reckon the right drinking level is to be just slightly less drunk than the girl, so you can be in tune with her but also confident that you're not just spouting nonsense (and that she won't pick up on it!)