25 years old and incontinent

Hey all,

So this has been going on for about a month now, and it's totally fucking me over. I got what I thought was a standard UTI a few weeks ago, in the middle of my spring break. I found myself leaking a bit, and it really concerned me, so obviously I immediately went to the doctor to get some sort of prescription to knock it out, hoping that it would be fine. Went to the doctor, got prescribed Cipro. Within two days of taking this, I felt somewhat better, but the incontinence issue increased from dribbling, to full on loss of bladder control and inability to feel when I was needing to go. It's also affected my ability to expel, as I feel like I have to push especially hard now in order to get anything out, and when I am pissing at full force, it feels like I'll end up shitting myself too, and I usually end up not being able to completely empty. This has affected my ability to go to class, to go to work, to do anything of the sort. The doctors say that from the CT scan, that there is nothing that seems to be out of order, and that I look fine from all the scans. The labs from the UTI tests even came back clean, yet I still feel the burning sensation, I still have an issue with wearing clothes, I still can't tell when I have to pee or not, and I still have issue peeing.

This is destroying my schoolwork, my social life, my ability to work, my ability to move forward. Hell, I haven't even so much as touched my LM since all this started. I want to get back into the things that I know I need to do, and the things that I would like to do, but I cant do that if I'm soiling myself every fucking step of the way. My parents are pushing me to sue the drug company/the person who prescribed it. I don't really want to do that, though the money sounds nice, but I can't help but think that's a really dick move. I just want to get back to normal and have my life back and not go insane over this shit.


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Blue, Have you been taking Cialisn or something similar?

Do not fear this, it will get sorted out and your life will return to normal. Have patience and I will pray for you every day.

DLD, I'm 25. I don't need any sort of pill for that regard, not bashing it, I just don't need it. In fact, I haven't taken a PE supplement since the start of the new year, as part of my length campaign, I just wanted to get it all without pills.

But seriously, I can fuck concrete with no help. You know how a glory hole is made? Me. Thank you for the kind thoughts though, I really hope that this shit gets sorted out as soon as possible, because right now it's ruining me.

bluetard117;692169 said:

DLD, I'm 25. I don't need any sort of pill for that regard, not bashing it, I just don't need it. In fact, I haven't taken a PE supplement since the start of the new year, as part of my length campaign, I just wanted to get it all without pills.

But seriously, I can fuck concrete with no help. You know how a glory hole is made? Me. Thank you for the kind thoughts though, I really hope that this shit gets sorted out as soon as possible, because right now it's ruining me.

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I asked because sometimes a side effect of Cialis can be like the ones you are experiencing. I was not insinuating you take them, I was only eliminating a possible cause.

doublelongdaddy;692228 said:

I asked because sometimes a side effect of Cialis can be like the ones you are experiencing. I was not insinuating you take them, I was only eliminating a possible cause.

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I'm sorry, I didn't mean to be rude - just at the end of my fuse on all this. All of this just recently started, never had an issue in the past. No idea what's going on. I'm going to a urologist on Wednesday to have a camera stuck up my urethra, and that kinda scares me, not only because its a camera in my dick, but because as a college student, all the co-pays are starting to add up.

bluetard117;692791 said:

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to be rude - just at the end of my fuse on all this. All of this just recently started, never had an issue in the past. No idea what's going on. I'm going to a urologist on Wednesday to have a camera stuck up my urethra, and that kinda scares me, not only because its a camera in my dick, but because as a college student, all the co-pays are starting to add up.

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I will pray for you my Brother! Be sure to attack this doctor with every possible question you may have, do not be shy, you want to get to the root cause. lease let us know what he says and I am hoping for wonderful news. Keep your head up my Brother, better days coming!

doublelongdaddy;693134 said:

I will pray for you my Brother! Be sure to attack this doctor with every possible question you may have, do not be shy, you want to get to the root cause. lease let us know what he says and I am hoping for wonderful news. Keep your head up my Brother, better days coming!

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So I went to the dick doctor, he stuck a camera in me, and I got some pills and a statement saying there was nothing physically wrong with me. I'm so tired of this shit man, I'm really not enjoying isolating myself at the house for fear of pissing myself in public. Basically, diapers and black jeans all the time so I can continue with life, but even that has its limits. This shit is wearing on my psyche something hard. I havent done any PE since it started, and I've had to turn down a few dates with lovely women for fear of them finding out and freaking out. My grades have dropped like crazy, I'm having a hard time thinking of anything other than my dick, and I don't know how I'm supposed to teach my students effectively while I'm freaking out about this. All this shit started literally in a day, and I have no idea how to stop it. I don't even really know exactly what it is, but I just want it to end.

bluetard117;693421 said:

So I went to the dick doctor, he stuck a camera in me, and I got some pills and a statement saying there was nothing physically wrong with me. I'm so tired of this shit man, I'm really not enjoying isolating myself at the house for fear of pissing myself in public. Basically, diapers and black jeans all the time so I can continue with life, but even that has its limits. This shit is wearing on my psyche something hard. I havent done any PE since it started, and I've had to turn down a few dates with lovely women for fear of them finding out and freaking out. My grades have dropped like crazy, I'm having a hard time thinking of anything other than my dick, and I don't know how I'm supposed to teach my students effectively while I'm freaking out about this. All this shit started literally in a day, and I have no idea how to stop it. I don't even really know exactly what it is, but I just want it to end.

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DO NOT GET DISCOURAGED! This will work it's way out and we will find a way to do this. Did your doctor offer any medication for incontinence? If not please look through the link I provided, there are medications and devices that can help with this.

Shopping for Incontinence Control

lately i have experienced that too today i had that i took a leak and a few mins later a drop reached my leg LOL.but yeah is not a good thing at all..

shortdick;693454 said:

lately i have experienced that too today i had that i took a leak and a few mins later a drop reached my leg LOL.but yeah is not a good thing at all..

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That might just be a few drops left over in the urethra that weren't fully expelled - I got that a lot, just push on the area right behind your balls to get the last couple of drops to move forward, then do a jelq-like action from the base to the head and you'll get it outta there.

doublelongdaddy;693431 said:

DO NOT GET DISCOURAGED! This will work it's way out and we will find a way to do this. Did your doctor offer any medication for incontinence? If not please look through the link I provided, there are medications and devices that can help with this.

Shopping for Incontinence Control

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I'm on Uribel and Vesicare. The Uribel suppresses the urgency quite well, and turns my piss the color of blue gatorade, so that's kinda funny. The Vesicare, the Doc said that'd take about six weeks before I saw results from that.

I had a thought recently though. So, I've noticed that under times of stress, or self-depreciation, I find myself less able to control myself, and thus I lose more. About mid-February, I cut going to the gym cold turkey in the idea that I'd spend the next few weeks focusing solely on my schoolwork. I had been doing about 10 miles on the bike roughly 4 times a week, and I noticed almost immediately, a huge difference in my EQ - increased stamina, stronger EQ, increased ejaculation quantity, and overall greater pleasure. About five weeks later, this shit started happening. During that time, I lost a fair bit of muscle definition, including the muscles around my legs and butt (actually, a LOT on my butt. I have a big butt, and all of my girlfriends have stated their jealousy on how good it is, so self-high-five). There is a thought, that along with the stress relief the gym brought me, that the muscle I gained in that time helped me more than I realized in keeping me continent, so I wonder if I get back in the gym and start going at it again, will that help the healing process? Does this seem like a feasible idea?

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bluetard117;693476 said:

Does this seem like a feasible idea?

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Definitely sounds smart but I would also kick ass on the Kegels, do as many as humanly possible. Hold them long, short, medium....do them here, there and everywhere, the best natural solution to incontinence was created by a doctor named Dr. Kegel...Get the point


"Arnold Henry Kegel /ˈkeɪɡəl/ was an American gynecologist who invented the Kegel perineometer and Kegel exercises as non-surgical treatment of genital relaxation."

doublelongdaddy;693485 said:

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Definitely sounds smart but I would also kick ass on the Kegels, do as many as humanly possible. Hold them long, short, medium....do them here, there and everywhere, the best natural solution to incontinence was created by a doctor named Dr. Kegel...Get the point


"Arnold Henry Kegel /ˈkeɪɡəl/ was an American gynecologist who invented the Kegel perineometer and Kegel exercises as non-surgical treatment of genital relaxation."

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I hope so. I didn't take any of the meds today, save for the ADD and crazy pills (not ruling those out, but I've been taking them longer without consequence), and I did some yoga aimed specifically at relaxing the pelvic floor muscles, and then went running. Things felt better the next day, and so far so good today, but I still feel on edge all the time, plus, I'm getting a lovely bit of rectal prolapse, which is super nice too.


Fucks sake, I'm 25 goddamn years old. I spent my 25th birthday, sitting on the can, researching options on what I could do at home to make a living. I'm not going to say that mine are the worst problems out there, because god knows that there are other people out there who are in a world of hurt more than I am, but fuck man. All of this, literally all of this - the rectal prolapse, the urinary incontinence when I don't need it, then urinary retention when I don't need it, all of it started in one day.

I just want to get back on with school, and put this shit behind me. Yes, it has given me a world of perspective on what good fortune I have had, but man. Talk about learning the hard way.

I think my other concern in all this is, will I ever be able to, or should I even consider continuing my routine? I had some pretty serious goals set for myself this year in terms of length gains, and I think I was well on the way to achieving them too, but then this nasty snag.

Also, I apologize for sounding so melodramatic earlier - I'm more frustrated than anything at this point. It's tiring being angry and sad all the time, and at some point in the day, you've gotta tell yourself, "It ain't gonna get better by crying about it, so might as well read up and find out some more shit."

My philosophy has always been that it is better to know than to believe. Anyway, I hope that I can return to PE some day, maybe less length gains through stretching, but length gains through jelqing, and if anything, doing that for overall penile health. I've enjoyed the PE community here at MOS for some time now, and I don't want to see myself out, not yet. If anything, maybe I can help someone else who runs into this sort of problem, and provide some answers for them.

Anyway, that's my bit. Blue out.

I am glad you told yourself that obsessing on it will not change it. There are 2 very powerful ways to approach this, aside from medication. The first is building an extremely strong set of pelvic floor muscles and core muscles. Most of these muscles are responsible for urination control and prolapse issues. I am not saying you are weak, I am saying you may need more work than others. The second thing is your mental outlook. Even as I know you are in frustration and a sort of desperation, something I feel sad for you for but also at the same time we have put the problems on the table and we know what we are dealing with. I think a combination or the mental change and an increase in strength will be great helps. I am going to continue to pray for you and I know, with the help of God, we will beat this, I promise you!

doublelongdaddy;693762 said:

I am glad you told yourself that obsessing on it will not change it. There are 2 very powerful ways to approach this, aside from medication. The first is building an extremely strong set of pelvic floor muscles and core muscles. Most of these muscles are responsible for urination control and prolapse issues. I am not saying you are weak, I am saying you may need more work than others. The second thing is your mental outlook. Even as I know you are in frustration and a sort of desperation, something I feel sad for you for but also at the same time we have put the problems on the table and we know what we are dealing with. I think a combination or the mental change and an increase in strength will be great helps. I am going to continue to pray for you and I know, with the help of God, we will beat this, I promise you!

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No no, I don't assume that you're calling me anything - if anything, I KNOW those muscles are weak, cause first off, I hate core exercises, until I start seeing results from them hahah. Secondly, I've never really stuck with a kegel routine, which I know is the literal foundation for my guts and PE, so long story short: get on the crunches and the kegels. I've no doubt that once I start on those, set up a little more confidence in my retaining ability, that then I'll be able to get back in the gym and really kick ass for getting my body back in shape, and thus, everything else will fall in line.

Though, what I think this has taught me about myself, my body, my time, my money, my stress, my focus, my education - is that I have limited amounts of all of those, and that I have to take care to use each one to the best of their ability and not sacrifice one for another. I have found, that without the disctration of my usual tendency to think with my dick, that my productivity has shot through the roof, that I've spent more time doing things that I used to find enjoyable before the wonders of lovely ladies and all that they bring. I've been reading, I've been drawing again, I've been studying more, I've been setting up things for my future. Almost makes me see this thing as a blessing in disguise, and truthfully, maybe this is what I've needed, a healthy little fire to warm up my ass. As much as I can sit around and wish for a big dick, a fat wallet, and a happy, satisfied life, ain't one of those things gonna happen unless I'm willing to put the time in on all of those things mentioned before. Manage your time, manage your focus, manage your stress, manage your thoughts, and take care of your heart. Especially that last one.

lightlyfried;693805 said:

try get in the habbit of going kegels all the time, I don't set aside time separately, I do them wherever.

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Definitely! I know I should just do them when/wherever - I got the idea in my head that I needed to set aside time for them, to focus on them.

lightlyfried;693805 said:

try get in the habbit of going kegels all the time, I don't set aside time separately, I do them wherever.

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That is the way to go, I do them all day, everyday. I know that strong pelvic floor muscles will not only benefit my eq but also help me keep the strength I need as I grow older. Kegels and Core Muscle Training are really the two things that are going to help Blue the most.

CokeCanCock;693875 said:

I'm doing them as I type!

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Me too

So I'm doing a bit more reading, and I looked into what medications I'm currently on, so far as their potential side effects, and one of my friends sent me a link to something pretty concerning, but if it's accurate, then I might have the answer, or at least, something close to one. So I've been on this drug called Lamictal for a while now - Lamotrigine is its other name. It acts as a mood stabilizer, and as a seizure reducer for those who need it. For me, it worked fantastically well for keeping my crazy mood swings in check, so much so that I felt like a normal person. Anyway, I'd been on the stuff for about 10 weeks before this had started. From what I've read, there are reports at about the three month mark, where people have experienced mental haze, short term memory loss, cognitive decline in speed, loss of fluid memory capacity, mood swings akin to not being on anything, and in some uncommon cases, urinary incontinence. I love this stuff, because I feel like a normal human on it, but I know I have experienced some of these setbacks, such as the memory loss, cognitive decline, fluid memory attributes, and obviously, the urinary incontinence. I'm going to my head doc on Monday, and when I'm there I'll ask him about it. If this is the case, then I'd rather be off the Lamictal/Lamotrigine and deal with the mood swings, as in the time I've been on it, I think I've developed some good coping mechanisms, and maybe CBT would be a better route for me than drugs.

Fingers crossed guys, fingers crossed. If this is it, then I'll be the happiest person on the planet.

bluetard117;693976 said:

So I'm doing a bit more reading, and I looked into what medications I'm currently on, so far as their potential side effects, and one of my friends sent me a link to something pretty concerning, but if it's accurate, then I might have the answer, or at least, something close to one. So I've been on this drug called Lamictal for a while now - Lamotrigine is its other name. It acts as a mood stabilizer, and as a seizure reducer for those who need it. For me, it worked fantastically well for keeping my crazy mood swings in check, so much so that I felt like a normal person. Anyway, I'd been on the stuff for about 10 weeks before this had started. From what I've read, there are reports at about the three month mark, where people have experienced mental haze, short term memory loss, cognitive decline in speed, loss of fluid memory capacity, mood swings akin to not being on anything, and in some uncommon cases, urinary incontinence. I love this stuff, because I feel like a normal human on it, but I know I have experienced some of these setbacks, such as the memory loss, cognitive decline, fluid memory attributes, and obviously, the urinary incontinence. I'm going to my head doc on Monday, and when I'm there I'll ask him about it. If this is the case, then I'd rather be off the Lamictal/Lamotrigine and deal with the mood swings, as in the time I've been on it, I think I've developed some good coping mechanisms, and maybe CBT would be a better route for me than drugs.

Fingers crossed guys, fingers crossed. If this is it, then I'll be the happiest person on the planet.

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Listen my Brother, I have been on Lamictal for a long time and any side effects are completely Trumped by the positive nature of this medication. There are certain people who can't use it and this is why it takes 2 months to get to dose. The people who can not use it because it cause Steven Johnson Disorder, but this is rare and it is found out in the first 2 weeks of taking Lamictal. If you want to add to this I can give you my cocktail of meds that work so well for me.

Lamictal: Deals with mood swings, brings a stable nature to the patient.

Serequel: Is an anti-psychotic that helps with irrational thoughts, stress and obsessiveness.

Klonopin: This is a slow acting benzodiazepines, and our of all the benzo's out there, Klonopin in the least addictive. The slow release of this medication helps with racing thoughts, anxiety and most of all slowing down enough to take part in life.

Wellbutrin: The best antidepressant available. As an antidepressant it starts to work in 2 weeks and the change in depression is remarkable. The side effects are the best part, weight loss and a reduced need to smoke.

I have spent the last 21 years trying to get my medication right and this combination has kept me stable for 2 years now.