What really stresses me out is showing my penis in its flaccid state.
it is too small and shrink
as if I have no gains in flaccid state
I can truly say that this applies to all guys, even during PE journeys. It's not about how it appears flaccid before a female. It's ultimately boils down to how it salutes when she can excite you. Think of your manhood as the meter of compatibility. If the females can't excite you, they are not part of your life in the long term. If you want to stress yourself over the flaccid appears, we all go through the same thing to make our flaccid appearance more noticeable. But you must put this at the fore front of your mind, "Who am I trying to convince with my longer flaccid appearance?"
Do it for yourself before trying to impress others. I like my flaccid hang long because it sucks to have the little guy turtle up into my body during cold days or coming out of a chilly area/water. It feels like a walnut is pressing into my pelvic region, and quite hard to urinate on demand without having to warm it up first.
I have a question my brother
throughout your journey have you had any flaccid gains
Mine was in the 4in to 5in erected territory, and flaccid was around 2.5in before my PE. Most of us won't magically have a full flaccid like the erected length without of dedicated work put in.
Be assured at what efforts you put in, the same amount of reward you get at your goal. If you are inconsistent, so will your results be. Most of the ultimate gainers poured their sweats, bloods and pains into the PE art. You'll get there.